My very best friend just left for college a few hours and i'm still crying. I never cry and expecially not in front of people so when I said goodbye I gave her a hug and did'nt cry until i got inside my house. Will she think that I don't care? Am I being a baby? I've been crying for almost three hours, I don't know anybody like I know her and vice versa and I never tell her that but idk if I should
2006-08-25 04:38:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Having friends move away, even if it is for a short time is very hard.
While there is a part of you that knows it is only temporary, part of you views it just like as it if was a death which is permanent.
Try to remind yourself that it is temporary and that you will be able to keep in touch by phone, email, text message or whatever. As time passes it will be easier for you to deal with it.
best,
cez
2006-08-25 04:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by cezzium 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you being upset over your best friend going to college. You're NOT being a baby. It'll take some getting used to, and you may find yourself crying quite a bit over the next week or so, but eventually you'll get through. P.S.: You should call your friend or write her and tell her that you cried when she left. Let her know that you're still her friend and how much she means to you. Be sure to stay in touch with her. You may feel like she's "drifting away," making new friends at college and having a good time when she's not hitting the books, but if she's as good a friend as you say she is, she'll be a friend for life.
2006-08-25 11:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to cry and that it is normal. You are grieving the loss of having your friend with you on a daily basis. I think it's lovely that you were strong for her as she left, which may have made her parting easier on her. Maybe in a few weeks, once she's adjusted to her new surroundings you can show her this question, and tell her how hard it was for you. Stay in touch with her by email, and phone calls! Let her know when she comes home, you'll still be here for her. In the meantime, chocolate, icecream, and kleenex can be your friends! :-) Feel better soon.
2006-08-25 11:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by hrhtheprincessofeire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should let her know how much you value your friendship. But also, be prepared to grow that friendship to a different level. There is nothing wrong with this either. It's natural and happens to a lot friends when one moves far away. Your both young (you say she just left for college so I am assuming you are both late teens) and have a lot change that you will experience in the next few years.
2006-08-25 11:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by zombie_togo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's a fear of change, hon. ....that things will change between you, maybe that you'll lose her friendship, that kind of thing. Some of us are just more sensitive to change than others. I hate change. It terrifies me. I'm also just one of those people who feels things at a very high level. I don't do anything halfway. lol And I like my relatoinships close. Which means I've got a very few, but very close friends. All of my friends are people I can share my demons with. So when I lose one, it hurts a lot. Sounds to me like you're afraid this means you're losing her. Cause that's what change usually means in my life--that I'm losing something or someone. I'm 33 and I can't deal with that either. lol
Just reassure yourself that it doesn't mean anything's going to change, doesn't mean you're losing her. Things will just be a bit different for a while. :)
2006-08-25 11:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to cry. This is a HUGe change in your life, and you may even feel like you are being abandoned. I bawled like a baby when my best friend and I left to go to different schools. She was by my side throughout my childhood and now we were going to be apart and things were changing and we were sad. It's perfectly normal to be sad and a little scared. This is a big change - but it's going to be OK.
2006-08-25 11:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the right to cry over this because that person means a lot to you. all of my friends left for college this week too and it made me sad but i just keep telling myself ill see them soon. and if you two are as close as you say then you'll stay friends. everyone going their separate ways is part of life. its hard but dont let it bother you so much. keep your head up, a lot of other people are feeling the same way
2006-08-25 11:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by missammerica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a total right to cry. she is your best friend after all. but you have to move on sometime. no she wont think you dont care. she probably did the same thing. i think you should tell her that because friends like her only come around everyonce in awhile.
2006-08-25 11:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the right to cry . friendship like that come once in a life time .
2006-08-25 11:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by anjes3024 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She went to college not the grave yard! She'll be back!
2006-08-25 11:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by MadMaxx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋