Well theres this girl i love. And im not using the word "love" randomly. it really is love. and More. She told me that she liked me earlier this year...we kinda had a fight...but then after that, we were back as a couple and she told me again that she really liked me. that it would work.
Now things went really well for a while after that, then suddenly, she's back to her, this won't work idea. And well, she makes up reasons. Not the first time though. But then they change all the time, from wanting independence, to we don't understand each other, to she doesn't want to hurt me anymore, to she's been hurt before. now she's ignoring me but says on her blog she misses our friendship and she's falling now that we're strangers
What should i do? I think she's afraid of something. I really don't know what cause she won't dare to open up to me. Should i ask her what she's afraid of?
How do i show her that im willing to take this all the way. to instill some sense of safety & love with her
2006-08-25 04:21:37 · 10 answers · asked by izt_is 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to break out of this. To achieve the next level. Where i can hold her hand and tell her i love her without freaking her out.
she ignores me. but then writes that she really wants to believe me on her msn personal message. what's going on? This has happened before, but it wasn't so serious back then.
2006-08-25 04:23:41 · update #1
She is emotionally unbalanced and I think maybe you are too. End this relationship for good. You two are not good for each other.
2006-08-25 04:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your girlfriend is a little confused. There could be a number of reasons for this. I think that you should tell her how you feel. You wont know anything until you ask. Don't leave anything unanswered. The only way a relationship will work is if both parties involved want it to. So, if she isn't willing to try, you should evaluate your relationship and see if you are willing to go through the emotional struggle to keep her around
2006-08-25 04:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop acting so immature. Most of the people here are focusing on the ther other person instead of looking at themselves. This is not "Love".....it is "Dysfunction". Why go through this? Read some books on helping yourself get out of this co-dependent lifestyle that you lead. Take a stand, develop personal boundaries and stop thinking that this is "Love"....it is Not!! Walk away and start a new life with new behaviors!
2006-08-25 04:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is going through something that she thinks that u either will freak out about or that u will maybe stop loving her after she tells u. u no that u won't but she still is going to feel insecure about telling u.
im kinda confuse to whether u guys r going out right now but if u r u need to make her sure that she can tell u absolutely anything. and even if u r just friends let her no that u r going to be there no matter what she need to talk about and that u r still going to want to be her friend/bf. she needs to fell secure because what ever she is going through is oviously not easy and she is afraid to talk about it with anyone.
2006-08-25 04:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by becky_693 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have quite a situation. My advice: Tell her how you feel, even if it freaks her out. Save this question and email it to her, because she might start to understand how you feel. Maybe if you open up to her, she will to you. If she doesn't, its a no-go. Just follow your heart. If it was truely meant to be it will work out in the end.
2006-08-25 04:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Emmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's confused..Ignore her..let her think for herself..give her sometime alone to think whether she wants to be with you or not..
If she has no response, then try to focus on your other stuffs..I bet she's immature in dealing relationship currently..She don't even know what she wants..Being with this kind of gal will only causes hurts and sorrow as her emotions and thinking will affect very much of you...
2006-08-25 04:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by barelyahrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh women...she is afraid of opening up to you. She is damaged goods man...ignore her till she is ready...She has to understand no one will put up with that for very long. I personally would put up with that **** for about O 30 seconds. I would say something like when you figure it out let me know till then you know how to reach me.
2006-08-25 04:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds lyk she really likes you but she probably heard something about u, or is assuming something about you, thats why shes backing off. u just need to re-confirm ur devotion to her, and ask her straight out whats bugging her.
2006-08-25 04:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her talk to her email her text her anything to find out what she is afraid of. tell you you want to know what you can do to help her to get rid of what she is afraid of.
2006-08-25 04:26:36 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your both:
A) nuts
B) immature
I suggest forgetting about that broad and try to improve yourself.
2006-08-25 04:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by 45Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋