guys and girls please help me im 6 months pregnant and....?

Question

im 6 months pregnant me and the baby father does not talk he wants nothing to do with me cause when we first broke up i destroyed some of his things

then i went back 2 months later witha friend and broke in his house and took a l,ot out. He did some things to me I didn't like during the course of our relationship. i tried to call him and tell him i want to talk but he brushes me off . I really want him to be in this childs life and be there in delivery room (if that part happen that would be a dream) tell me how do i make things right. Im a strong blk woman some say leave him alone and just file child support.
then I don't want to try to beg or make things better that will make me seem weak and i don't want that so please you guys i need as much advice as i can get thanks/!
ps he does have 6 other kids this man is kind of stone ..how should i set things right

Ps yes i read some of your questions and im sorry for what I did and know its wrong I can't beat my self up for the past.. also i only knew he had 5 kids he lied to me about the one here in vegas but yes i chose such a lousey guy.
Dont judge me because of that I need to know if i should try to talk to him write him a letter or just leave him alone.

Answer 1

its horrible that your child should be effected by this ....but breaking into his house and destroying things is childish . A good friend of mine who is Hungarian ( so others have told her she has a bad hungarian temper did the same thing) it took 12 years but she contacted him and he had calmed down a little from the events thta occured and at that point was willing to have his child in his life . I hope that your kids father can forgive faster than that ...but maybe you just need at this time to give him time and space away from you .... as she did , for both of your child's sake .Good luck

Answer 2

He's such a loser and a deadbeat. All he does is father children. Whatever and however did you get yourself entangled with a loser like that is beyond my comprehension. And by the looks of things he doesn't want to have anything to do with you. Isn't that the case all the time, as soon as a guy gets a girl pregnant the problem and the fault , falls solely on the poor girl. Although it takes two to tango.

Breaking into his house is illegal. Just go after child support, and leave this deadbeat alone. You're far better off without him in your and your baby's lives. You can not reverse the process and set things right. The baby is a reality and you just messed up your very young life.

You should have taken all this into consideration. Now, it's too late. No use crying over spilled milk.Don't you have your family and relatives as your support systems. What does your mom have to say in all of this. says I fear for your baby's future. It's not fair to her or him at all. A split second of pleasure turns in to a lifetime of regrets. you possed the same question in mental health and singles and dating. You must be desperate. Have you consider adoption? .

Answer 3

I understand that it is important to have a father in a child
s life, but when the father is some one like that guy, maybe you're better off with out him. You say are strong, well now is the time to prove it. You need to become both mother and father to this child. Stop worrying about your relationships and worry about your baby's future. Remember it is not necessarily a father, but just a male figure your child will need. If your dad, brother, or close male friend can be involved, then your child will be fine. And of course collect the child support, but with six kids good luck!

Answer 4

I'ts ok that maybe he's no longer grew to become on by a pregnant looking woman, however he is throwing other women for your face. And that may be a main issue. What's he going to feel of you being a mother. Proper now your little one is the principal factor on this planet, and when the youngster comes out you will must make this little one a precedence because if you do not you are going to have quandary down the road habits wise with your youngster. I trust him re the clothes, i don't like to look pregnant females wearing tight garments, but you can still do your face and your hair up nicely. You ought to ask him why he's seeking to make you jealous and insecure. You have got to tell him that you're now not going to take this garbage from him. Think ten years down the road, you're going to be so much older, almost always with as a minimum an additional child, stand your floor now if you need this relationship to work. You don't say if he desired this youngster, that in and of itself probably a quandary. Concentrate of your youngster, you are going to be a mother for a protracted, long time.

Answer 5

Merry Meet!
It is hard raising a child with BOTH parents let alone by yourself so I do sympathize with your situation. However, the maturity of you both is and has been the question on the bottom line hasnt it? Neither one of you has been very grown up so its too bad you didnt have someone to bring that subject up before you started playing house together.
Unfortunately, you are the one who bears the burden of it all in the first place .
( Not really fair, I know but life isnt ) So my advice to you is to do your level best to put all of your dedication into raising as healthy and emotionally sound individual as you can and forget about who did what to whom . If he was meant to be a part of your life, then he will be ..period. You can't push the issue and expect any positive result. You should focus on the childs well being and move on. People come and people go throughout everyones life and you should make sure you prepare your child to deal with that fact in a healthy manner as your parents should have taught you. Then you wouldnt be asking what to do. You just do it.
Blessed Be~
and congratulations.
P. S.
Terry is a good name. :o)

Answer 6

Hello there,
Sweetie
Ok here we go ..... first i am not about to judge you.... you asked a question and i am going to give you my opinion... there is a beautiful thing in this glorious world called change... you must remember that.... now you say that both of y ou have made some poor decisons in your relationship.. and you want you baby's father to be in the life of the child... but then you add that he has 6 kids... of which you only knew about 5 because he wasnt upi front and honest about it.. red flag... ask yourself this question does he take care of ANY of his kids by other women? because i guarantee that if he doesnt the odds of him being in your childs life how you want he to will be slim to none. As far as child support is concerned... I am a firm beleiver that a man should not be forced to take care of his responsiblities.. he knows what he needs to do and if he doesnt keep on truckin and take care of you and yours without his assistance.. you may think that this is the worse thing you can do but.... look at it if he has 6 kids and just say a couple of his kids mothers have child support on him then you still will not be getting from him what your child deserves....dont beg and dont feel as if you are weak because it takes alot of courage to admit the things that you have and wait on opinion of others.. but you know what ddep sown inside you have the answers without even asking any one else... follow whats inside.. you know if something is good or bad for you... you feel that your feelings.... Never steer you wrong if you really listen to them... But... my advice is keep on steppin.. honey there are real good men out there, but the only way to get one is to be a real good woman back not just a strong woman... we were made strong for obvious reasons.... good luck and i hope this helps you

Answer 7

Well, you screwed up, didn't cha. Some people, once they are crossed, will not deal with the BS that person can bestow upon them.
You made your bed, and now you have to lie in it.

I think it is great that you are a strong black woman, but your actions have made you appear to be weak, like you have no self control.

At this point, you need to quit worrying about "seeming weak" because we are talking about a defenseless, innocent child. You need to eat crow, admit what you have done and move on with or without him.....

Follow the legal way....take him to domestic relations and file for child support, buit leave him alone otherwise.....

In the future, act like a strong black woman....take care of your business, don't depend on a man and be a good role model for your child. If you keep acting like you did with this guy in front of your child, there is no telling how your child will end up....he/she deserves the best of you, not the worst of you.

Answer 8

My Dear,

I read you questions and details and tears came to my eyes. What is it that you are looking for someone to tell you? There is no magic answer. The only true answer you can get is from your baby's father. Calm down!!!! Your are six months pregnant!!!! You are about to bring a child in this world that is going to need your full attention. You donot have time to be worried about somebody who cares more about some material things that you have destroyed as opposed to a new life coming into this world!!! You can not make him be in your childs life. You cannot make him be there for the birth of your child. There is no one that can force him to do anything!!! You can only ask him. If he
says he wants to bounce you need to except that. Thats just how it is!! Its time
for you to grow sweetie. Your issues of rasing and caring for a child on your own aint no joke. If he refuses to be a father. you make sure that you are a good mother and that your child gets all the love and care that he/she needs to survive. Strong black women take care of their babies inspite of whatever. Strong black women donot give a da---- if the sperm donor is present or not!!!
Do you know that back in slavery days men were removed from their families and the women had to raise children alone? Have you heard of dead beat DADs? Looks like you may have one. Its not the end of the world. Donot let that child suffer because you got pregant by an idoit. You cannot be breaking into nobodys house and risk going to jail and you are about to be a mother. Get yourself together your bs days are over. If you need support get in a church and become part of a ministry that will be there for you in your time of need.If that aint you.... get with your mother cousin somebody that cares about you, that you can respect to help you threw this thing. You call yourself a strong black women? Then you should know black women do not crumble at knees of adversity or because they donot have male support. When Black women are fully aware of who they are and where they come from they have the strength of the wildest bull and courage of the badest lion. they take care of the babies. Do you really know who you are and what your capabilities are?

Answer 9

Well, first of all, it's time for you to grow up. Breaking and entering is against the law, and you don't need a record. You should focus on what is best for the child at this point. If this man has 6 children, how does he take care of them? Is he worth the time you will spend heartbroken and do you really want your child to grow up calling this loser 'dad'? Move on now, find a real man, and get as far away from the bad influence as possible. Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

kinda same thing happened to me. we broke up cuz we were not happy with each other. but even after that, we hurt each other a lot, i threw his important stuff away too... you can't go back and fix what you have done. focus on yourself and your child...

I may be pregnant too, but even if i'm pg, i won't tell my ex or ask him for help. You will find a much better person for you and your child someday. he has six other children... do you really think he is the best person as your child's father??