I always have to wait for my boy to make the move, even though I want to. Its something abou him and my fear of being rejected that holds me back. I know he'll go for whatever I want, I just hesitate and eventually don't do anything when I really want to!!
What can I do to get over my fear and make a move with him? We've been dating over a month and things are GREAT, but I am still backing off when I shouldn't!!
2006-08-25 04:17:37 · 7 answers · asked by C-BIZZLE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the last time we had really good sex (its always good, I'm talking about unbelievable!!) we were drunk... every other time we have a 'drink' we end up wasted and just passing out.. so drinking isn't the best idea :)
2006-08-25 04:23:23 · update #1
life's too short to think about what moves you're gonna make. if you want to enjoy whatever it is you want to do, stop thinking. just live.
2006-08-25 04:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Oly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try telling your b/f that you feel this way. His being aware of this will not only help you to not be as self conscience at being the aggressor but will also turn him on more than you know so you will never have to worry about his turning you down. It will be your own little back up plan. That way he will always have in the back of his mind, "I wonder if she wants to now?" which will keep him in a constant state of guessing and since he won't want to accidentally turn you down just in case you are/were about to, he's going to be treating you like a Princess even more than he normally would after 1 month because to him, the sex option is now always a possibility. Great fun for a couple months and by then you should have all the confidence you need.
2006-08-25 11:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Chaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should look deep down in yourself and ask yourself why you are so afraid of making the first move. Think and imagine yourself making the first move and then visualize how hapy you will feel. I know it is sometimes hard to make the first move, because of the thought of being rejected, but if this guy does reject you, then maybee he is not ready for what you have to offer. You should also talk to him about it. Find out what he thought of prior girlfriends when they made the first move. Ask him what he thinks about it and if he prefers to make the first move in a relationship or if he finds it the other way around more interesting. If you truly love this person you have to let your feelings flow and stop being afraid. Believe me, after you get rid of your fear, you will have a more, complete relationship with this guy.
2006-08-25 11:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by maidapr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are backing off there is a reason. Your mind may be ready but your heart is not. When it is the right time for you to be the one making the move you will know cause you will just do it with out a second thought.
2006-08-25 11:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell yourself that holding back wont do you any good. That after you get started everything will be great. Remind yourself how much you want to be with him.
2006-08-25 11:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol will make a little girl BRAVE! Be careful though, it can make ya stupid as well! Good Luck!
2006-08-25 11:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by Helzabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get drunk, then you will do exactly what u want.
2006-08-25 11:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~Jeni~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋