im 6 months pregnant me and the baby father does not talk he wants nothing to do with me cause when we first broke up i destroyed some of his things
then i went back 2 months later witha friend and broke in his house and took a l,ot out. He did some things to me I didn't like during the course of our relationship. i tried to call him and tell him i want to talk but he brushes me off . I really want him to be in this childs life and be there in delivery room (if that part happen that would be a dream) tell me how do i make things right. Im a strong blk woman some say leave him alone and just file child support.
then I don't want to try to beg or make things better that will make me seem weak and i don't want that so please you guys i need as much advice as i can get thanks/!
oh ps he does have 6 other kids
2006-08-25 04:16:37 · 9 answers · asked by africacarey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh hell no, well u just need to talk to him and tell him all bullshi_t aside whether or not he is going to be involved in ure childs life, so if he tells you that no well leave his dead beat as_s alone and just file for child support, and get his as_s like that.
2006-08-25 04:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by LADY J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that you should not beg. You not only seem weak, but you cannot change a person's character by asking, let alone begging.
I can understand wanting the baby's father in the delivery room and in your life, but I wonder why you want THIS man in your and your child's life.
He has demonstrated total indifference to the child. No child needs that. No woman needs that.
It sounds like the poor baby would have to go right to day care after birth. Day care is extremely damaging to a child's bonding ability (kinda like your baby's father demonstrates.) Day care damages your child's IQ and social skills. Infants and toddlers miss their moms like crazy during day care and are emotionally damaged by the separation. Plus, your poor child would have an indifferent father, and 6 siblings to compete with.
I really think the best think for this child will be for you to give this poor child up for adoption. It cannot have any decent life with you - are you clear headed enough to see this?
I feel desparately sad that you took so little care in creating this life. You have demonstrated by your actions of destruction and breaking and entering and by choosing to have sex with such a loser that you are not in any way mature enough for a child. Please don't be selfish, please give this baby to a family - A FAMILY!!!!!!!! If you love your baby, you must.
2006-08-25 04:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really has 6 other kids, what makes you think he wants to be there for the one you're carrying? Why did you get pregnant with his child in the first place?
Sorry to tell you, but you're going to be a single mom. Forget about him, and move on.
Find someone that is worth your while, not this looser.
2006-08-25 04:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is best for your unborn child????
If you were this child would you want him for a father knowing how you treat each other.
You need to grow up and not be so vindictive. You are going to be a mother and that means that you are responsible for another life. Start planning for the future for you and your child and file for child support.
2006-08-25 04:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen "Save the Last Dance"? This reminds me of that movie. I would say that he feels either upset or threatened by your pregnancy. He may be mad at himself for it. Or he could be like "Oh my gosh! She's pregnant so now I'm never gonna get rid of her!" You have to lay off and give him space, instead of punishing him for it. Just tell him that you love him and let him do the rest. Hope that helps!
2006-08-25 04:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by horse1412000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologise for what you did and ask him if he wants to be in the child's life. if he doesn't just file for child support.
2006-08-25 04:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by sugar_lilly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow you picked a real winner...sounds like you're one hell of a gem yourself...this is what's wrong with the world today.
2006-08-25 04:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter letting him know.
2006-08-25 04:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he dont want to accept his baby, its alright! dont force him. you can live without him. be thankful your very lucky coz God given you the most wonderful gift.
2006-08-25 04:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by heart 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋