I am intelligent, well-educated and a good person. I am not a smiley person by any means. Just because I don't smile it doesn't neccesarily mean that I am sad. It is just my natural deameanor.
2006-08-25 04:15:35 · 25 answers · asked by Contessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people might find you unapproachable simply because you ARE intelligent, well-educated, and good. It makes no sense, I know, but there is definitely an intimidation factor there - Especially if the person doesn't feel like you would have anything in common with them. It's like guys not talking to a girl because she is TOO pretty. Go figure...Anyway, it might also have a lot to do with how you carry yourself. You don't have to be a smiley person, but if you look too stand-offish then it might turn some people off. If you really want to be approached then try to make eye contact and, yes, smile at the person to show interest. Usually that's all the motivation someone needs. Meet them half-way and I think you'll be pleasantly surprised. =)
2006-08-25 04:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I still have that problem to this very day. Men have said "your unapproachable because you look so mean", and I have no idea what they are talking about. I carry myself as a serious person when I am out but if people get to know me they always say how sweet I am. Don't worry, just be yourself and in time people will see you for who you really are your heart and not your face.
2006-08-25 11:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the unapproachable kind of girl too. I used to wonder how can I make myself more approachable, but I found out three things when I become approachable. 1. tons of guys flooded my way and I had absolutely no time to reject every single one of them. 2. Even losers had guts to ask me out. 3. I hate to be friendly when I don't feel like it.
so I went back to my unapproachable self, which I think made my life so much better. Whenever a guy asks me out, I know at the very least that he is confident, not intimidated by a smart girl, and must really really like me. so if you are not smiley, by all means keep being unsmiley, coz it might make your life better!
2006-08-25 13:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by musi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reavaluate yourself. Are you presenting yourself in a way that people don't feel threatened by you? I have the same problem, and I am unapproachable to many people. But you know what, I like it that way because the friends that stick around when I'm not really paying attention are the friends that you have for life. Hope that helps!
2006-08-25 11:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by horse1412000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people find me unapproachable too..cause i have grugy mouth..and i look fierce..
Don't care about what others may feel about your appearance, just make sure that those who know you find that you are a pleasant lady..that's enough..All my friends told me that im 360 degrees of what they have their 1st impression with me...So i told them..The good thgs always come in the end or in an enclosed area where you can only find out when you get closer to the thing.
2006-08-25 11:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by barelyahrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trick is to smile, even if you don't want to, it makes all the difference in the world. I didn't smile for a long time, just wasn't doing it, and people always thought I was sad. Once I started smiling, I got alot of people talking to me. So, give it a try.
2006-08-25 11:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A smile is welcoming, and a straight faced person looks like they may not want to be approached.
Maybe you are throwing out a bad vibe. Try tossing out a few smiles and see what happens.
If you are hot, a smile will make you even hotter baby! Try it!
2006-08-25 11:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might help to practice smiling a little.It is surprising how smiling can make you feel happier yourself.
And approach others yourself. Even just suggesting going out for a coffee can open up the door.
2006-08-25 11:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you open out you will remain the same. Try talking to peole and helping them voluntarily. A gentle Smile (even for nothing) helps a lot.
2006-08-25 11:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talkative, stand off-ish. Your body language (non-smiling) might make you unapproachable without you knowing it. My suggestion is to be talkative, friendly, and smile every so often. It won't hurt.
2006-08-25 11:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋