We're real close and we've been together for a month today, but we were best friends for 3 years beforehand. I love her more than anything and she makes me so happy, but I get the feeling she likes to make little (or no!) effort to ask me to meet up with her.
I feel like I want to see her at least two or three times a week (is that so much to ask?) but it's just not happening. It's the summer right now, so we should be meeting up a lot, and she has no other friends so there's no reason why she can't.
Every single time we've gone out, I've had to ask her. She's always happy to come out when I ask, but she has never (not even once) asked me. Sometimes she'll even just decide to go out with her mom or stay at home when I ask her to meet up. When she goes shopping, would it really hurt to ask me to come along now and again?
When I asked her about it, she said "I was gonna ask you out today, actually!" I feel as though she'll hate me if I try and discuss it all with her again.
2006-08-25
04:08:43
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When I asked her about it, she said "I was gonna ask you out today, actually!" I feel as though she'll hate me if I try and discuss it all with her again.
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2 days ago
I don't want her to push her to ask me to see her, but why doesn't she just wanna hang out for a couple of hours and go shopping now and again? Why does she never ask me to meet up? Why would she prefer to do nothing than see me? I don't get it.
I know she loves me, and that's why this is so weird. What could the reason be?
2006-08-25
04:09:32 ·
update #1
I'm 18, and she's 17, to classify our ages. Age isn't an issue. We're both mature.
2006-08-25
04:12:26 ·
update #2
I had almost the same problem with my best friend (who is in fact the opposite sex from me, and I have a crush on him). I was making all the efforts in the relationship and I felt like his bond wasn't as deep as mine. And it was true. So you know what I did? I stopped trying. And guess what happened: He started trying. Now my feelings are just as important to him as his feelings are to me. He really does care about me now. Not completely in the way that I would like, but we really are best friends now. I would have to say the same thing to you. Stop trying! If she likes you, she'll start trying. If not, she is not worth it, dude. Hope that helps!
2006-08-25 04:14:40
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answered by horse1412000 2
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hmm...yes very confusing actually. I think though that you have to really take a step back, that's the only way you'll know if she really likes YOU or just likes the attention she's getting. I know it's hard, but give her the space so you can both figure out if you really like each other. Do stuff you like to do with your friends, keep busy and don't call her for two days, see what happens. Good luck!
2006-08-25 04:16:56
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answered by aggie babe 3
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you have to change and do not ask for more. be casual do not think much like you are now. everything will be normal if you control yourself. you love her but dont expect much than that is happening now. most of the problems come only with expectations. take it easy and everything is going to be ok. keep yourself busy and try to meet her weekly once or twice. she will observe the change and she will feel like meeting you more. simple thing is make her ask you to come out by restricting yourself and keeping yourself more busy. all the best
2006-08-25 04:15:18
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answered by rajeshtnaidu@yahoo.co.in 1
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Have you actually set down and talked to her about how you feel about what is going on? You need to set down with her and you both need to decide what you both want out of your relationship. Did you ever think she might be seeing someone else, I'm not saying she is but it may be a possibility? Like I said before you need to tell her how you really feel and what you both want out of your relationship!
2006-08-25 04:23:57
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answered by Anonymous
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Well well well..Some girls likes independant guys while some likes initiative guys...i guess your gal likes independant guys..Don't ask her out!! Play her game! She will feel weird after a few days and will ask you whats wrong with you and if you want to go out with her..then you told her that you were about to ask her..just afriad that she's busy...never tell her you are busy..if not she will wait for you to ask her out next time..As she will keep thinking you didn't call her cause you are busy...
2006-08-25 04:19:22
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answered by barelyahrie 3
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well, she may be in the stage where she is afraid to ask because she is afraid that what she wants to do isnt something that you would like to do....... try asking her to pick a day for you to hang out, and let her decide what you guys are going to do...... (even if you think what she wants to do is cheesy or you dont want to do it DO IT ANYWAYS) if you truly love her than it wont matter what you do, you'll have fun doing it.....
she probably doesnt ask you to go shopping because she feels you wont enjoy it....
2006-08-25 04:15:41
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answered by Anonymous
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well maybe you should just talk to her about it you know. thats the only way your gonna solve the problem. or maybe shes still thinking of you as a friend. if shes really a good friend she wouldnt hate you for trying to tell her how you feel.
2006-08-25 04:16:28
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answered by Jmkisses 3
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dump her ***
how old are you?
sounds like you're in a middle school relationship, dude.
2006-08-25 04:10:33
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answered by Pronkville 3
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MAYBE SHE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU BUT DOESN'T WANT YOU TO GET TIRED OF SEEING HER EVERYDAY. MAYBE SHE WANTS TO KEEP THE RELATIONSHIP FEELING GOOD AND NOT BORING. SO DON'T THINK SHE DOESN'T WANT TO SEE YOU MAYBE SHE JUST DOESN'T WANT YOU TO BE ANNOYED WITH HER AFTER AWHILE
2006-08-25 04:14:02
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answered by Feelsolost 3
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probably she'z shy, coz u said u know that she loves you...
2006-08-25 04:11:15
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answered by UK GUY 2
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