The guy i've been seeing and I decided about 2 weeks ago to stay semi-casual because we're both afraid of getting hurt and don't want to put any unnecessary pressure on our relationship by adding titles.
Well the other night we were hanging out with my best friend, her boyfriend and a few of their buddies and all night she introduced him as my boyfriend, which he and I make a point not to say.
At first he made a little joke 'So I'm yours now - it's official' and then eventually said nothing about it as the night went on.
Later that night as we were getting ready for bed he brought it up and said that it was awkward because we don't refer to ourselves that way.. but that was basically it, kind of negative about it.
Then a little while later he starts making comments about i stay over so much i'll start leaving my toothbrush there ect.. jokingly, but this time positively- and then we had a serious convo about our pasts.
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2006-08-25 03:58:01 · 8 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's normally very direct so i'm not sure what to think about this..should I back off some or try to move into that 'girlfriend' role?
For those who will mention it I am 19 he is 21...and yes i realize this sounds like highschool
2006-08-25 03:59:03 · update #1
Reason for us benig afraid to get hurt, we both got out of long term relationships, him about 8 months ago myself about 4, i was engaged and he was thinking about it - we were both used and cheated on
2006-08-25 04:06:03 · update #2
He doesnt want a serious relationship. Dont push the issue if he isnt ready.
2006-08-25 04:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by misstrell504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To stop all your confusion, tell him your confusion..That's the best way..Don't ever mention how you feeling...make him tell you how he feel 1st...
If he's just joking that whole night then you should know what to do..but if he's serious about getting into relationship with you (is possible) then ask youself whether you are prepared for it? There's always a risk somewhere somehow..You cant stop doing somethg just because you are scare to get hurt...Learn from the lessons and start afresh..hurt can be heal..
2006-08-25 11:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by barelyahrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be direct. Ask him is there something he is trying to tell you. Ask him if he is content with the way your relationship is now.
If you want it to change, I would state that you do. If you do not want it to change, I would state that also. If you are cool with the way things are but are willing to go to the next level if he is then I would state that. Whatever you do, be open about it. Communication in a relationship is crucial. Also, life is full of risk.
2006-08-25 11:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Katrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you're the one confused! How can you not want to be his girl, yet you mention that you stay over alot. It sounds like he doesnt mind being "labeled" and you're the one who's confused about making that step, yet you still want to eat the cake.
2006-08-25 11:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you're both scared of moving on?? Or maybe you both want to move on but don't want to bore you're partner.
I think it's best you talk to each other, honestly.
2006-08-25 11:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what he wants and let him know that either way, youre cool with it.
i think its about time that you move into the "girlfriend" role.
2006-08-25 11:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by r_y_s_s_a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if u are ready to move up in the relatonship that you should talk to him about it.....even though he was "joking", i think (and yes it is my opinion, take it or leave it) that he has been thinking about the same thing....
2006-08-25 11:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by *lonely one* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no idea what to put and can u please make ur answer shorter
neither of u want to move on
2006-08-25 11:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by LazyForLife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋