13 and dating?

Question

my daughter is thirteen and im not sure if i should let her date. Im worried about sex and bad habbets like that. Her father and i r not sure. What should we do?

Answer 1

I dated at 13. As long as you tell her that if she wants to have sex, to go to you and you'll take her to go get birth control-no questions asked. That's what my mom did and I felt so comfortable going to her for anything. I know a lot of the guys I've dated claim "oh I hate wearing condoms" and being 13-15 and being impressionable I didn't know anything. She told me that if the guy really cared, he'd wear a condom and if my mom hadn't said that, I'd probably be in a mess of trouble. She explained to me about STDs and I felt comfortable about asking her about them.

It comes down to this: be open to her questions and make her feel like you can trust you. You may cringe at her boyfriend because of some reason but the more you push her not to do something, she'll do it and the more comfortable you are about it, the more open and honest she'll be with you. Don't get pissed because she had sex with a boy you disprove of. If you get pissed, she won't be as open as you would like her to be.

Answer 2

Your daughter is a little baby still (for your eyes) but for some kids 13 means old enough to date ; more disgusting to have SEX; it is a problem in our society that make them think like they are older than what they really are. If I was you I wouldn't let her have dates; her friends can come to your house or she can go to their house (as long as a parent is in there). But don't let her go alone in a date w/ a another kid because some are more astute that others. She would be mad on you and stuff but sooner or later she will understand, show her the reality and talk to her openly about sex and why it is appropriate for her to wait couple of years, because that's the reality if she is 15 or 16 still virgin (our society thinks that there is something wrong w/ them) so the best think you can do is to advise her, protect her the best you can, but let her do what she thinks is correct. However, if she is living in your house she has to respect you and your rules, make sure you emphasis that. And make sure you ask you doctor for the new vaccine for Human Papilona Virus and (your doctor) can help you to aware your daughter.

Answer 3

As long as it's in a controlled environment. Make the date be at your house a night of games. Do a double date at the movies your husband you and your daughter & her male friend. Keep the lines of communication open get some ideas from them . Maybe bowling. Roller skating. public places not intimate one on one places. They have to explore boys at sometime or another let it be under your supervision. where you can control how far things go. Most kids are afraid to be left alone they act like big shots until the door bell rings then it's "do't leave us alone we might not have anything to talk about." They shy away when the actual date takes place usually.
Good luck!!!

Answer 4

If I were you I would hold off untill she is 15 or sixteen This will make a big difference in how mature she is. Talk about the pros and cons of having sex like getting pregnant at a young age and do not tell her if she has a baby her life is over because my mom told me that and i got pregnant at 17. Let her know your reasons for not letting her date and tell her if she can prove to you that she is old enough to go on a date you will let her go on one but you and her dad will pick the boy up and sit 2 rows back at the movies and one table back at dinner. If she decides she doesn't like it than tell her she will have to wait untill she is 15 or 16. I wish you all the best of luck xoxo. Make her be in by 9 o'clock on weekends and 8 o'clock on school nights but always make sure his parents will be picking her up and droping them off at a safe place and than picking them back up. Buy her a cell phone so she can call you both incases the guy turns out to be a creep never let her date anyone over 14 because those boys only think about sex. Meet any boy that she is going on a date with and this includes his parents. Don't let her have a boyfriend just let her date tell her to keep her options open because if she has a boyfriend now it will cause alot of heartache and make her not trust alot of people. Tell her to give her self time to just be a teen because those years fly by quick. I am 19 band have a 11 month old daughter don't get me wrong I love my daughter but I wish I could just be a teen again running around with my best friends and junk. I pray for your family xoxoxo

Answer 5

She is too young to date. I would wait to allow her to date when she is 16. But, also remember that her grades are more important than her social life, so she must get good grades in order to date.

At 13 there is no need to date. Just tell her no that she can date at the age of 16. But also tell her, if she goes behind your back she will have to wait until she is 18 to date and she can't go to prom.

PS: No group dating either unless she is 16. Did your parents allow you to date or group date when you were 13?

Answer 6

Well 200 years ago she would have all ready been married, her age doesn’t really matter, what matter is how responsible and mature she is,

You cant completely hold her back, if you do so she will end up finding a way to compensate for it, like example if she likes a boy but can never see him then all a sudden has a chance to she will be more tempted to have sex with him

Her “dating” might not be a bad thing, as long as its supervised, like let her go to a movie or miniature golfing, simple things,

If anything it will help with here social development

Answer 7

for what i could say is to try to talk out with your daughter and try to solve out a better solution where u and ur husband with your daughter would be happy.... perhaps u could ask her to bring back her boyfriend to let u see or however u could suggest for her to come back early as 13 years old gal should be home early as it is VERY dangerous to be out alone with a guy any things might happen ... i am sure ur daughter is a very smart girl... so she will not do something stupid like having sex or others if she know the importance about having a baby and responsibly... so i suggest u could talk out first then if she still insist on to be with him u could try to get to know this guy and this guy could be a guy that is trustworthy and will not cheat on your daughter's feelings ... so it might be a better way.... be close with your daughter and make her feel like u are the only person is the best to confined to when ever she needs and when something happens (which is not going to ) i belief if u are understanding she will tell u every thing and u will know wad happen :P so take care god bless ya

Answer 8

I would not let her date at 13 no matter how big of a fit she throws.That is not an appropriate age to be worried about boys.

Answer 9

I dont think a 13 year old should be able to date. I think the acceptable thing would be a group of friends, boys & girls, could go to the movies or something. with you dropping her off and picking her up afterwards. But she is to young for a one on one date

Answer 10

So you don't trust her? Just because she is 13 that doesn't mean she'll jump into bed with him and start having a wild sex! If my parents didn't trust me on dating I would disown them.