me and my bf have been going out for about 3 months
hes ready to take our relationship to the next level
and i dont think i am
what should i do
2006-08-25 03:52:33 · 23 answers · asked by x3holdaloverclose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him honestly that you are not ready. He should respect you enough to allow you to control how you feel regarding moving on and when you think the time is right.
2006-08-25 03:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's opinion is more important, yours or his?
You have answered your own question but are afraid it is the wrong one. If you are not ready for this relationship to move on then stop it now.
How you do this is up to you but the first thing you should do is tell him you are not ready, or even sure you will ever be ready, to move up.
Trust me you are doing both of you a favor. Don't follow his lead just because you don't want to hurt him. It is the wrong thing to do.
I talked a women into marrying me even though she thought it not right. I love our two children and our grandchildren but even though we were married for 37 years it was wrong. Over that time frame she had 8 affairs trying to capture what I could not give her.
Don't let that happen to you.
2006-08-25 12:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel pressured to "take it to the next level" (I presume you mean sex?). Sex should happen when the both of you are ready, because it's not something that you want to do when only one person is up for it. I suggest that you talk to your boyfriend and tell him as much as you care about him, you just don't feel ready to do it yet. If he cares about you too, he should accept what you've said and be prepared to wait. If he is aggressive or sulks about your choice, he's not worth it and you can see what he really cares about. In that scenario, I think a break-up could be in order.
2006-08-25 11:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your boyfriend know if you have not already told him that you are not ready to move on to the next level. Tell him that you value your relationship and you know for sure you are not ready to go to the next level and if he loves you he should have no problem waiting. GOOD LUCK:)
2006-08-25 10:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess it depends what you mean by the next level and if you are not ready it's just simple to tell him. I'm not ready and give him an idea of when you would be. When does not need to be a specific date either.
2006-08-25 10:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by JoeP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the next level ??? and why does he get to decide.??? Every relationship I have been in the guy always waits for me. All you need to do is talk to him. Then everything will be okay. If it isnt and he wants to brake it off then it really wasnt the right relationship for you.
2006-08-25 10:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you need more time to think about it. dont go for the next level until you are ready for it.
2006-08-25 10:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If he pressures you, break it off. Get out of it fast. (This is the advice of my 16 year old daughter). Personally, I agree completely. Guys often say, "If you love me, you'll let me." The truth is, if he loves you he will protect you and guard your honor and integrity. He will care more about what you want and need then getting his sexual drive satisfied. Love and sex DO NOT mean the same thing.
2006-08-25 11:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by whiteparrot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that...Tell him why too..Why you are feeling this way..make sure that you sound you are keen to go into the next level but it's just not the time yet..
2006-08-25 10:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by barelyahrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just need to be honest
if he really wants u he'll wait
but be sure to tell him once u get to the next level
2006-08-25 10:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by genius13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋