I HAVE A HUGE PROBLEM WITH MY BOYFRIEND!!! please help asap...see details?

Question

Hey all, so i have a big problem. Me and my bf have been going out for about 4 mo. now and everything has been fine up until about a week ago. The problem is i got grounded for a month by my overly strict parents for lying to them. I can't do anything with him, with friends..nada, zip, zilch. Can't chat on the phone or the comp so i really am grounded. The problem is, ever since i knew him...even b4 we went out...he has always had tons of friends that are girls. he has about only 4 guy friends. The thing is he will hang out with them after school because i'm not allowed to. I think this is okay and everything but some of the girls i don't know that well and i'm afraid that if he spends one-on-one time with them then he will began to like them. It's just really scaring me too because he is always talking to other girls like he talks to me and he touches them to(just like their hair or shoulders) but only to girls that are bothof our friends. The other day, a new girl was sitting

next to us and she had really big b*easts. She said she was going to get a reduction on them or something like that and he asked. "why would u want to get rid of those" Is he just oblivious or what? I make my feelings known to him and all but he will always blow them off by saying that he didn't mean it in any certain way and that i'm the only one for him but how do i get over these feelings of jealousy? Also is he in the wrong? How do i tell him how i feel about him spending time with all these girl friends of his without being a total beatch about it? Pleeeeassse help i'm desperate!

Answer 1

First off, I don't think your boyfriend is very concerned about your feelings. It sounds as if he's waaay more concerned about himself. I think you might want to move on because I wouldn't trust him. He wouldn't be hanging out with other girls if he cared for you. He'd be hanging out with male friends and waiting for you to get off being grounded. By the way.....don't lie to your parents.

Answer 2

Wow, this guy sounds like my high school boyfriend. He was a huge flirt!!! Guess what? He was also a huge cheater. I'm sorry but your boyfriend is probably no different. But more importantly, if you have to come to this place and even ask this kind of question then you guys do not have a solid relationship based on trust. You don't trust him and it seems you have good reason. This isn't a relationship that will last. Sorry. But move on and find someone else who doesn't have the urge to be touchy feely with every girl he sees. The fact that he is willing to be that way right in front of you shows that he has little respect for you.

Answer 3

Everyone goes through something of this nature at one point or another. It is normal to have feelings of jealousy, you just need to remember that you are his GF not any of those other girls. If he wants to be with them there is nothing you can do about it. However, if he was friends with these girls before you two got together then he obviously picked you over them. Don't sweat it. Just be honest about your feelings to him, but also try to tell yourself that you are worth more to him than those girls. If he's gonna cheat on you he's gonna cheat on you. Then if that happens you know you can do a lot better. It is important to remember that you are your own person, there is a life for you without him or any other guy. Try to live that life for you, through doing that you will find yourself in very meaningful relationships.

Answer 4

If you're young enough to get grounded by your parents, I think you're too young for a committed relationship. Your boyfriend is doing what teen boys do. He's doing the right thing by talking to different girls, getting to know different female personalities, and how to flirt/talk to girls. You should be doing the same thing with boys. Your boyfriend, although it doesn't seem like he doesn't like you, is keeping his options open. He's wrong to talk to girls right in front of you. But I have to guess that you guys are under 17, so I'm not surprised. He's having fun right now.

I know you're hurt by his actions. You certainly don't need him in your life, especially if you're lie to your parents to be with him. Take a lesson from him. Have some fun too. You don't need the pressure of a committed relationship so young. You'll have plenty of time for that.

Answer 5

Seems to me if you were doing the right things your parents would not ground you. If your so called boyfriend is as fickle as you make out, you have lost nothing even if it ended. Might be a good thing. Be patient in this area and stop being so serious. As you mature, you will get to know yourself better and, when the time is right, Mr. Right will come into your life. Seems you have caring parents even if you don't see it now. They have life experiences you have not yet acquired

Answer 6

Ok, heres the skinny, if the one on one time with other girls is going to pull him away from you then it was not meant to be, in fact less than 1% of high school romances last for the long haul. Yes, if he breaks up with you it will hurt but so what, chances are that you and he would never marry anyway and isn't that what dating is for, to find your mate? So you should share your man so others may find theirs. Love and let love my dear, there is another boy right around the corner.

Answer 7

tell him that you'd like to trust him, and with most things, you do. but you feel slightly uncomfortable when he makes certain comments to or touches other girls. tell him you'd really like to spend more time with him, but you can't right now, and tell him that you'd appreciate it if he would hold back on spending all his time alone with other girls. if he has a reasonable explanation (maybe he really does only ever see them as friends, maybe he is slightly oblivious to your feelings) or he agrees to hold off and spend more time with you later, then things will be fine. if not, you may have to find out exactly what is going on if you really do suspect something other than them just being friends.
either way, when you're talking to him, don't sound like you're accusing him of anything, just let your feelings be known.
i'm sure he'll listen to you, since you guys seem to have a primarily open relationship, but you may have to be a little more allowing of his friends.

good luck. :)

Answer 8

I hate to say it, but this guy sounds like a player. You are not wrong to be jealous. He is wrong to be flirting, which is what he's doing. If he hasn't stopped already, he probably won't. It doesn't sound like he cares how you feel. You shouldn't have to put up with this. If I were you, I'd tell him, sorry, but we just aren't compatible and then move on. You will find someone who will respect you, which current bf is NOT. I know it's much easier said than done, and I don't like giving this type of advice. You can stay with him if you like, but be prepared for him to continue this sickening behaviour. Sorry!

Answer 9

HI, Guys are very simple-they like attention and they like eye candy. you need to be firm in what you feel is appropriate behavior for the two of you. If you are secure in yourself you will not need to worry about what he is doing all the time. Also if he is a good guy he will respect your feelings and will work with you. If not, find someone who you trust fully. Relationships are built around trust. And remember; guys do not understand why we want reductions. They don't have to lug it around everywhere. be secure in yourself and what ever happens in your relationship -you will be OK. I hope this helps. Have a wonderful life!!

Answer 10

You are both young .You are to jealous and he is just enjoying the fact that girls like him .
You are not married so if you don`t like his behavior - move on .
You have a lot of life to live don`t tie yourself down with one person while you are so young .
When Love finally hits you - you`ll know it .
Hopefully you both will find happiness.
I am older now and I regret BEING TRUE and tieing myself down .
I missed out on a lot and being true doesn`t always pay off .
I was used until something better came along (richer )
Don`t put yourself in the same position .