Was it wrong for me to change my ex boyfriend whose now my bestfriend into my boyfriend again?

Question

It started out as great for two weeks but than the next week I dont know stuff just went wrong because
1. we ran out of time to take him shopping for collegecause I stayed too long at myfolks house.
2. He accused me of not calling to see how his first day of college was which wasnt true because I got off the phone with my cousin to call him twice and got no answer, and he says my number didnt show up on his caller I.D.
Now Im just fresh out of ideas.

Answer 1

I can't tell you if it was the wrong decision or not based on the information you gave. All you're telling us is that you had a few bad days before and during his first week away.

My fiance and I dated all summer after my high school graduation and then he transferred to a university 4 hours away from home (he had planned this before he met me). I will be very honest and say that it is quite weird when you first start out with the long distance thing. I remember I missed him so much and he was adjusting to classes and being in a new place and making no friends that for the first week or so we didn't talk very much. He was busy and excited, but we still talked.

Here's my advice to you; designate different nights and times to call each other and make sure it's clear who will be calling whom. It's difficult to talk every night if you're balancing school and work (like I was), but after a few weeks you'll figure it out. If you don't get a hold of them and it's something important, if he has it, leave a voice mail message. He's lonely and I can tell you first hand that it's really easy to get your feelings hurt over the phone. A call or absence of a call can cause mood swings. I'm being honest with you here. It's hard, but when you love someone (or if you're falling in love with someone) it is so worth it.

We had a long distance relationship for 4 years and now that he's graduated and moved home we're getting married! One important thing is making the time and effort to see each other. My guy came home every 2 to 3 weekends when he was able to. My car isn't reliable enough to get me there to see him, and I only worked part time and couldn't afford a motel (he lived in a dorm), so if I needed to see him and he couldn't afford to come home I paid for his gas. We found ways to make it work.

You're just starting out with this and I really hope you guys figure it out. It says a lot that he was your best friend after you broke up. That really says something about your relationship. You knew what you were doing when you got back together. Now you're in new territory and I know it's scary, but if it's meant to be it's meant to be. If not, I really think you'll figure it out on your own.

PS- one thing that really makes it easy is being on the same cellular network; you don't have to pay long distance or minutes! Good luck!

Answer 2

Sounds like a bunch of head games between both of you and I would seriously take time apart from the situation and focus on studies for now. After a few weeks if you can't get him off your mind call him and see what he's up to you never know he may have started another relationship or not. Look you would have so many questions if he was the one.

Answer 3

Actually if arguements involved in a past relationship, i would advise that no point going back to ur ex again..but if there's a misunderstanding going on which causes the break-ups and later years down the road, you both cleared the air and found out you both still in love with each other, then be together!That's fate...What yours will be yours eventually

Answer 4

I would love to have the one I love as my best friend... give it time, things will work out :-D

Answer 5

Maybe now that he is in college he sees other options and he doesn't know how to ask to see others just wait it out

Answer 6

Yes.

Answer 7

If you are in love with him than give it time, they say it is best to have your lover your best friend.

Answer 8

yes

Answer 9

No, give it time.