Me and this guy have been really close friends for a little while and he was calling me every night. I've had feelings for him for a while but never came out and told him. A night ago, we hung out and ended up sleeping together. He didn't call me last night. Does he feel weird now or do you think he knows I care for him and he doesn't feel the same so he's blowing me off? I can't picture him as such a jerk. Should I just wait and see if he calls me or call him and ask him whats going on...I don't know what to do. And this isn't the first time this happened. About a year ago me and him were dating and slept together before, but I went back to my ex and he started dating this girl. But we are both single now. Does he have feelings for me or was this a one night thing?
2006-08-25 03:11:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask him whats up. Cuz you are interested in him, but if he isn't - you will move on.
2006-08-25 03:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by mattymomostl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has mixed feelings. You said this happened before, but you were both in other relationships. Maybe he has commitment issues and doesn't want to pursue this further because he knows how things end up. I would just give him his space and if he doesn't call within the week I would call him up and ask him if he wanted to grab a bite to eat, or just chill at your place. But don't call him and freak out on him.
2006-08-25 03:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by neon_lover1996 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe what his feelings just same as you
maybe he feel guilty of what you both doing, cause you are best friend. it's kind a weird sleeping with your best friend, how ever you have feelings for him, and maybe he have the same feelings. but both of you don't say it.
you don't know what happen with your best friend because you don't talk about it.
i suggest that you brave yourself to call him, or meet with him. and talk about what happen and told him about your feelings
if he really your best friend, he will understand and don't want to ruin your friendship no matter what. it just like what you say that his not a jerk.
what happen you cannot change it but you can save your friendship by talk about it and what will you do with your relation.
and you know what, you don't know what his feelings about you. maybe just maybe he have the same feelings and he really like you as girlfriend,maybe you will have best relationship, like i heard that best couple is come from best friend. hey you never know.
and if he want to have sex with you, its because he have feelings for you. i will have sex with someone that i really like and trust, not just anyone i don't know.
just talk to him and good luck
i hope you still being best friend, no matter what happen
2006-08-25 03:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by catlovers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he still has somin for ur freind an he might be thinkin that he mest up to go out wit his exs best friend..............well spouse to be her best freind dnt get affended but that was kinda mest up if she is ur best friend u should of waited for a while because now she might get mad at u but watever if not then he might be busy an that is how some guys are when they are tryin to keep away from u
2006-08-25 03:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by fat_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call instead of waiting. Get things cleared up before they get messed. Ask him all the questions you want to ask. Don't cause yourself too much of worries.
2006-08-25 03:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by MissIndependanceday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to call him and dont avoid the subject, you should tell him how you feel and then see what he says, he'll either tell you
a. i'm not sure
b. i would rather be friends
c. i want to start dating again
so you really should talk to him and figure out what he's thinking but afterwards make sure that its not awkward
2006-08-25 03:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by bug9bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't YOU call HIM? Maybe he thinks he should be waiting for you to call for about all the same reasons. Is it really that hard to just talk to your "best friend" about it?
2006-08-25 03:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should call him, remember last time you two slept together you went back to your ex he might think that you would do the same thing again.
2006-08-25 03:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time to sink in, for both of you. If it was a one night thing you will know. Suck it up and move on and "Learn" from your mistakes.
2006-08-25 03:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by CSI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you even need to assk this question? he's a guy and you are a chick and sh it happens so move on and find a new friend because hes not calling. sorry for the bad news.
2006-08-25 03:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the cow when milk is free?
Probably just a one time fling, or he feels too embarrassed and guilty to call you.
2006-08-25 03:15:30 · answer #11 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋