he will pay only with his LOVE in a relationship.
2006-08-25 02:46:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless you have been acting like a gold digger with him, dump him!
That's a pretty strange thing to say. I would be suspicious of a man who said that to me. Why don't you just talk to him. Ask him why he has made that statement. Then, work out what ever issue he is having.
2006-08-25 02:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the circumstances. If it is a new relationship, he may be testing you to see if you love him or love what he can give you. If you are in a committed relationship for some time, and you do not excessively ask him for gifts, then there is a problem there. And it may also depend on the financial condition of both partners. No man wants to feel like he is being used, but if he is being selfish then he may find that his partner is going to start being selfish and "unloving" also. To pay someone with love instead of gifts is not a bad thing, I would rather my man was considerate of my needs whatever they might be then to just have his secetary pick out a present for me. If I'm having a bad day, i don't want a trinket, I want a compassionate listener and a nice back rub. lol
2006-08-25 10:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cherie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be somewhat upset! I would feel hurt. Sometimes in a relationship when a guy spends a few dollars on you it just feels good. It feels like you are wanted and belong. Love is worth a lot more than material things though. If a guy said that to me, I'd ask if i had done something wrong and then move on with the situation!
2006-08-25 09:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by MrsFrye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My bf really doesn't spend much money on me anyway. When we go out, we take turns paying. Especially since we know the other is as broke as we are. If he decided he couldn't pay anymore, that's fine. There's a lot of other things we can do that doesn't involve money (not just sex). To me, his love is enough for our relationship to last.
2006-08-25 09:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would remind him that his silly statement means I will no longer make home-cooked meals for him or treat him to a movie or pick up our drink tab or contribute my equal share for our vacations or do anything else for him that I spend my money on.
And since I buy the sheets for the bed and launder them, he can sleep in the dog house. And since I pay the mortgage on my house, he can stay in his own home. Shall I continue or have you got the point?
2006-08-25 09:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that man is immature and unrealistic in his expectations of what his role in life is.
Any man that I am with knows it is a 50/50 split. If I am a stay at home mom, then he pays all the bills and I take care of the house and kids. If he is a stay at home dad, then I pay all the bills and he takes care of the house and kids.
2006-08-25 09:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm mildly horrified that no woman has said that their man doesn't spend any of his money on her. Are there any women on Y!A who are spending as much money on their man as he does on them??
What would he do if you told him you were going to take a job as an exotic dancer to cover the cost of your food and personal expenses?
2006-08-25 09:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess in that case I would wonder why the sudden change. But for me personally I like to pay my own way so it wouldn't be an issue.
2006-08-25 11:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so in short i would pay for meals, movies and gifts. this has happened to me before and believe me you end up feeling like their mother and not their girlfriend. if he doesn't at least want to split the costs then i'll have a problem. with my current boyfriend sometimes i pay other times he does, it's no big deal.
2006-08-25 09:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by sugar_lilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my man has stright up told me that he gives nothing unless i give him somthing first his motto is if she aint sucking my D!@# then she isnt getting anything from me which works out ok i guess seeing that he buys me anything i want when i want it....Besides love today is just a 4 letter word no one really means it
2006-08-25 09:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by the ole ball and chain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋