I work arounfd the house, agree with everything my wife says but she still complains about me. What should I do?
2006-08-25 02:43:19 · 22 answers · asked by Nick N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-08-25 02:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said, "I spend all my time with the kids". Do you spend any time with your wife? Alone? She may be feeling neglected by you and may be complaining as a way to get your attention. Have you heard the saying, "The squeaky wheel get the grease"? If not then it means that the people who complain the loudest and longest are the first to get attention. Another thing to think about is this. Do you always agree with you wife just to shut her up? If you do then that's just going to make her angrier and feel worse. I know that when my husband does that to me it makes me feel as if he doesn't think that what I'm saying is important enough to merit his attention. Talk to her and find out why she's always complaining and then be willing to listen to what she says. Good luck to you!
2006-08-25 03:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you don't go to bars and you spend time with your children doesn't mean you are a good husband. In a womens eyes to be a good husband is if you treat her like a queen not just give her what she wants (sometimes always agreeing with her is just the same way as telling a women that you don't care and that she is not important enough to discuss it over with) Sit down and have a serious heart to heart and you will be surprised at how much she actually has to say.
2006-08-25 02:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by shianne123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go golfing. Get some friend or family member to go shoot hoops, or go hiking, do SOMETHING. You need to have a little life outside of home. It might help your relationship alot. Not going all the time, but once a week or so. And you don't have to agree with everything your wife says to keep a happy home. You do have your own opinion don't you?? Maybe she complains because she can.
2006-08-25 02:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Crazymomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its weekend so go out,even if its on your own-you dont even have to drink or smoke or talk to the opp sex
TIP:No matter what you do your wife will always find somethin to complain about...
2006-08-25 02:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disappear for a year, then maybe she will appreciate you more. Seriously? Some people just take out their frustrations on their mates because they are close by. Talk with her about it, but do it in a gentle, loving fashion - like after a nice romantic dinner, or something like that. Let her know that you love her, but you don't care for this particular behavior as it makes you unhappy, and she doesn't want to make her loving husband unhappy, does she? Make it "her idea" to stop it. Good luck!
2006-08-25 02:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat, my friend. My advice to you? Let her know that you don't appreciate it, you contribute and sacrafice a lot to your family and your wife, and you should be recognized, not complained about.
Meanwhile, I usually try to fit in a little bit of 'me' time in each day. Set some time aside to do something that I like to do, in order to remind myself that I'm a human being and not just a dad, a son, a son in law, or a husband, but that I'm the same person I grew up liking.
2006-08-25 02:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife that it bothers you that she is so negative with you when you feel like you are giving all you have. I used to do the same thing to my husband, I was extremely hard on him even though deep inside I knew how awesome he was. Turned out, I was the one with the problem, I was depressed and felt down about my contributions to our family and our marriage. You could suggest a marriage counselor to her, just so you have a non biased party that can see through all the junk and get down to the problem. There are too few men like you out there, she is lucky to have you.
2006-08-25 02:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend has the same situation. Some people are unable to be happy. Sounds like she is taking you for granted. Its not a good feeling, I'm sorry. If possible, get her to read, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura....www.drlaura.com.....A lot of ungratful women take their wonderful husbands for granted and they usually wind up be lonely and DIVORCED. You need to do something for yourself, something that makes you feel good. You sound like a good man and its not a good idea to look to her for your self value. Good luck
2006-08-25 02:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the club
that is the condition of man
stop focusing on the imperfect aspects of your relation
your time with your kids is a blessing, not a chore (many people would love to have kids, or time with them)
court your wife some
heat it up
if she complains, don't let it bother you
be careful not to complain about her
make some friends
go out with the guys now and then, but keep most of your time and energy for your family
stop worrying about what she says, love her, enjoy it, romance her, nail her good now and then, some people would be very jealous of you
2006-08-25 02:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by enginerd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was that horrid wife years ago. We got divorced and it didn't dawn on me until 5 years later I was the problem. I was the wicked witch. My ex and I are friends now. I learned A BIG lesson. Now I act the opposite
2006-08-25 02:58:39 · answer #11 · answered by mary texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋