I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 years. She thinks I never want to do anything, like go to the Fair with her friends or Six Flags (I don't like rides.) She wants me to be Indiana Jones, constantly putting on a show. But we go out to eat every weekend, see movies, go on trips, and I feel like she doesn't appreciate the things we do together, and she always wants something else. What should I do? I've tried talking to her about these things but it always ends in a fight.
2006-08-25 02:39:58 · 37 answers · asked by Jon P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do the things she wants to do, or find a new GF who wants to do the boring stuff that you like to do
2006-08-25 02:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by corwinnn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesnt want you to be "Indiana Jones" exactly
but maybe she just wants to go do something different
A relationship is about compromise, so make a deal that
you'll go to the stupid Six Flags and ride one or two rides
and hang out with her gabby friends if she'll go fishing
or go see a action movie the next weekend with you
Just tell her your limits, like if you don't want to ride the rollercoasters, tell her that. There are a lot of other different
rides other than those.
You know, I got bored doing the same old things with my BF and so I forced him to take me bowling. Now he loves it! And at first
he was all pouting and didn't want to do it and thought it was
stupid. Now we end up going bowling about once a month and its fun!!
Do something new with her now and then and she'll be happy
I promise. Just let her know that you don't want to do it ALL the
time. So let her choose wisely on what she wants because
it won't happen every weekend.
2006-08-25 02:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Starlight*Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always compromise and agree to go on one of these outings (even though you don't enjoy them) and use this as an opportunity to maybe get her to do something you want to do in return. Or have you only been doing what you want to do? The issue of her appreciating the things you do together needs to be addressed as well. Does she say she does appreciate them but you don't feel that she is showing her appreciation? Does she ignore them completely? Either way, find out. If you can find out why she doesn't appreciate them, or doesn't seem to appreciate them, you can use that information to make, or at least ask for, changes. Or, if it's a chronic problem and it really bothers you, you could just break up.
2006-08-25 02:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell her how it makes you feel like Indiana Jones and how you think you two do enough things? Does she know what you hate rides and that all you'll end up doing is standing around waiting for her and her friends to be done with each ride?
If she can't appreciate that then your have to unfortunately realize that your relationship has reached a dead end and things can't progress anymore...and you will have to leave her for someone else. You can't be with someone who fights about things like that, because those things will affect you two in the future and bring up even more fights.
2006-08-25 02:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erm..It seems that she's rather a demanding gf...Do let her know that how she should appreciate the thgs you have done for her...
Perhaps at the same time, she wans you to join in the fun with her friends? Always you both going out together sometimes can be rather bored...mix ard with her friends and she can also mix ard with your friends..This is give and take... Tell her the basics of a relationship..If she still pick a fight, try to cool her down and then tell her in a nicer manner and a gd tone of voice saying that you are trying to do somethg about tihs relationship and you hope she can listen to what you wanna say and if she has anythg to comment, let you finish 1st then comment and then try to compromise and work thgs out together..
2006-08-25 02:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by barelyahrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe her for starters. Try bringing up something really crazy like skydiving.
If she thinks you aren't wanting to do anything fun, this means trouble big time. The worst thing you can do is fight if you want to keep her.
Maybe you guys need a vacation. You could go to the lake and rent a boat and put her on an intertube and drag her along behind the boat. That'd be fun.
2006-08-25 02:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's an idea. Just one time (mainly to shut her up) go with them to the fair, six flags, where ever. You don't necessarily have ride the rides, but just hang out. You might surprise yourself and have a good time. If not, just tell her that you did try and it wasn't for you. Try to explain to her that you don't mind her going out with her friends and you'll just see her when she gets home. Then you guys can plan something to do together. If that still doesn't work, then maybe you just wasn't meant to be with her. Good luck to you.
2006-08-25 02:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell her how you feel. Maybe tell her to suggest you some things that would be more fun for her, but within ur budget. If she is wanting more than you can give her or want to give her maybe it's time to find somone else. Until then if you truly like her and have been with her for about 2 years and want to stay with her longer you will find a way to make things work :)
2006-08-25 02:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by MrsFrye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good situation. You could compromise with each other and do the things that both of you want to do together. Like if she wants to do something one weekend, you the next and the last week you both could find something to agree on and do the whole cycle over again.
2006-08-25 02:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by K G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're not the one that's boring she is. she should ask you what YOU want to do not just suggest that you do this or do that. who the HELL wants to go somewhere with their gf and HER friends. she's got some nerve. you probably feel a lil bit unappreciated, huh? you should keep talking to her about it but if it keeps on ending in a fight maybe she's the one who can't face the truth. she wants you 2 b someone you're not. 2 me u sound like a pretty laid back kinda guy. wish u da best.
2006-08-25 02:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Marty Johnson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the time has come to say goodbye .do it now before it gets really ugly.i know just by reading ur short question ur both different people.shes outgoing ur a home bird its not a bad thing some people just rather relax .so take my advice and be on ur way cause the nagging will only get worse as time goes by
2006-08-25 02:49:32 · answer #11 · answered by jonny d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋