my bf is mad at me, he has asked me not to call him.He hit a car while talking to me. He said I was bugging him.I knew that he was busy at work.We had a small discussion in the morning and i thought he is mad at me.So i sent few mesgs if he is angry and called him twice.he picked up my phone and he was saying he is busy and during that time he hit a car. then he scolded me saying why he needs to talk to all the time, I am bugging him. does not he have a personal life.he said not to talk to him any more.I am devastated, i am crying all the day.I cant handle this, will he leave me and hate me for this.I love him more than my life.I cant live w/o him.Every morning I call him, shall I call him today?plz plz help me, I love him how ever and how ever is he..plz help me..
2006-08-25 02:37:57 · 18 answers · asked by Shina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, that is too hard of a question to answer. I mean, I sincerely apologize, but my brain cells are hurting from trying to come up with an answer, I mean, OUCH!, that hurts.
2006-08-25 02:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to give you my honest opinion.
It seems as though you are smothering him. Calling every morning to say hello is OK BUT you really do need to lay off a bit. You say that you sent a few messages...only one is needed and he will get back to you when he can. Multiple messages does bug people, I can see his point.
I know that you love him but you have to let him live a bit. Give him some breathing room and trust him.
And you CAN live without him. Never think that.
My advice would be to call him and get together and talk. Tell him that you are willing to work on not calling him so much and not being so possessive. Tell him that leaving him one message will suffice.
I am speaking from experience. Nobody likes to feel controlled or trapped in a relationship.
If you want this to last then you are going to have to back off and give him some space. Also tell him that he is going to have to work also and call you back as soon as he has a chance.
He did tell you not to call him to I would give it a few days and then call to discuss.
Good luck
2006-08-25 09:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a conventional message like a greeting or flower or cheering joke or a smaller car gift and add that you can't help without talking to him.
Write him I respect your work and life but need your little time for us.
Sometimes written words can do wonders better than speech.
Best of Luck
2006-08-25 09:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by Gagk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhhhhhh... The first test of love. He failed! If a person truly loves another... Then it wouldnt matter if you wrecked his car, burned down his house, or ran over his dog (as long as it wasnt on purpose). Sorry to tell you this... But if he gives up on you so fast... He DOES NOT love you. Move on... Find someone who can respect you more and give you the time you want and deserve.
2006-08-25 09:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone for a few days, and when you do finally talk to him, don't act upset, just make believe it was no big deal. If he loves you back it will be a wake-up call for him, if not, time to move on.
2006-08-25 09:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by mixemup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try not call him for a while. He makes it very clear to you that he wants his peace , he doesn't want to be called all day long for every little thing or have to confirm that he loves you every single time. He's a guy and I know what he is talking about. Try to call him less often, believe me, he will learn to appreciate it more if you do.
2006-08-25 09:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by Avatar13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to let him go honey and move one. When you do, try to be a little less smothering. I am sure your a sweet girl, but everyone needs some alone time.
2006-08-25 09:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by nightflower24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some space let him breath don,t call him lat himcall u if he fells the same as u feal in the relastioship it better to know now then get really hurt latter
2006-08-25 09:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by bubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz don't call him madly.
the more closer you go and go on requesting him .his ego is gonna satisfy.and trust me the more you call he is gonna get far off.just send a message saying sorry for accident,if you think it was your fault.
if he doesn't except your apology move forward..
2006-08-25 09:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by sweet girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to relax, and give the guy a bit of space and time. he might be going through a rough patch at work, so just be patient.
2006-08-25 09:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by the man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋