I have a 8year old and a 7 year old that go to the same school. They sit with her on the bus and look after her, but that does not seem to work. She says she wants to stay home with me. We never had this problem when she went to pre-k. I need help!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-25 02:31:30 · 11 answers · asked by Kristina O 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm kind of embarassed to mention this, as I'm now 21... but when I was 7 and in the 3rd grade, I went through this phase for maybe 6 months. Every day, I would purposely cry and scream and want to stay home with my mother. I remember missing the bus a lot and my mom having to drag me, kicking and screaming into school. I would be crying the whole time, and I remember also a lot of me sitting outside my classroom, trying to get ahold of myself.
I can't tell you the reason why now- but I remember I gave the reason as I hated my school teacher, but it really wasn't the case. Till this day, I'm not sure if it's because my mom had just had a new baby or if I just wanted the attention, or what.
I will tell you though, that my mom ended up taking me to the school counselor/psychologist. Every day I would have to talk to her and I remember she made me a calendar. I don't know if this is maybe something you would want to do with your daughter, but I think it is a good idea.
Basically, it's this:
Make up a calendar with the days of the month on there. Get some some stickers- smiley faces are best. Every day that your daughter gets to school without crying, you place a smiley face on that day. If she has a certain number by the end of the week, I would give her some kind of reward- maybe she gets to go out to lunch at McDonalds or something- just with you. Or, the two of you can go buy something special just for her. Whatever she likes- and make 3 smiley faces something, 4, and 5... And hopefully, by the end of the month, you'll be seeing entire weeks filled with smiley faces.
That's what ended up working for me. My mom says she still doesn't know why I did that... but it was a phase, and it was a hard one. Don't worry, you'll get through it! Just make sure she goes every day, because if you start letting her stay home instead of fighting with her to go, you'll just make it worse.
Good luck!!!!
2006-08-25 02:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her why she does not want to go? Maybe there is a bully in the class room or the teacher bothers her? Find out the source and you may find your solution. Drive her to school, talk to the principal and let him know you want to spy on your daughter one day to see why she is having a hard time adjusting to this years classes. Start following the bus, then set back where she doesn't see you and go to the doors of the classes and watch without interferance what happens, Check out the hall way crowds and how she is treated without interference. Also maybe you could try home schooling her for a while. Or try volenteering in her class once a week. Teachers love when parents get involved.
2006-08-25 09:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by really???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's five. Alot of kids cry when they first start school, she will eventually get used to the routine and stop. You can't expect her not to be upset when you are sending her off somewhere she's never been. Some kids make the transition easier than others, but rest assured, she will make the transition and you will both be fine. I have six kids, and only one has ever cried when I left him at school. They get used to it in time and are fine, pretty soon she will be jumping out of the car and going in and waving goodbye with a smile on her face, just give her time.
2006-08-25 11:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by momofmany79079 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be just a phase
Didn't school just start, anyway? Maybe she doesnt
like the fact that its different now than it was in kindergarten
Give her a month or so in her new class and Im sure
she'll get used to it.
That, and keep telling her that her siblings like school
and she should too.
Try to get her excited about going to school everyday by
reading off the lunch menu or make her excited about
homework or show and tell. Tell her shes doing a good
job at everything and youre proud of her
Im sure she'll come around and love school like her siblings do
2006-08-25 09:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Starlight*Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she like Lord of the Rings, Star Wars, Star Trek, etc? You should tell her school is like a quest, and she must have the Force with her. Tell her she has to go through it if she wants to be a big girl. Tell her about respect, and how much she would get of it if she came up with ideas that would make her like school better or at least make it decent. I don't know many 5 year olds, but I think this should work at least on good days. Maybe you should buy her a lightsaber? ;)
2006-08-25 09:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by winarabbit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there might be a reason shes doing it. my daughter was great going to school but in 2nd grade she started grabbing me and crying. come to find out the teacher gave her books she couldnt read. we had her tested and she was behind. so we had her put back in 1st grade and shes been fine since. shes a freshmen now. could be a bully, or the teacher might of yelled could be anything. try talking to her and listening to what she says. if nothing comes up then she just wants to be with u tell her that she has to go to school or u go to jail that its a law and like rules it cant be broken.
2006-08-25 09:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is having seperation problems. she needs to get used to going all day to school. if she feels like youare anxious then she will be too. maybe check in on her class and see how she is doing during the day. most likely she does great during the day but she puts it on for you in the morning.
2006-08-25 09:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by a21ward 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try not to mention school , after school,"when i pick you up" kind of talk..in the morning get ready , n have fun with her dont mention school...out of sight out of mind...eventually you'll have to address the issue but the more they stew the more kids get sad...i hate to see em sad...:( and then try to not make a big drawn out hug n
' "bye bye seeya after school."type of senerios..keep it simple.
remember we are the parents so be strong and they will too....mj
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2006-08-25 10:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by mikeydeez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she doesn't like the school, maybe she is being bullied or something. Talk to her teacher too.
2006-08-25 09:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Joe-slim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe ask her if there is a reason she wants to stay home....tell her big girls go to school...and youll go do something fun when she gets out of school
2006-08-25 09:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by Deshawn & Keshawn's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋