My boyfriend will be home from Iraq within the month. I am just surious what you guys (other military) wanted to do when you got home?
2006-08-25 02:28:42 · 30 answers · asked by averyanne77 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
My hubby just wanted to sleep and have a home cooked meal with a beer. Of course, there's always the private time alone with you. He'll probably want to see family again too. Don't push him too fast and don't plan any huge parties. That can be really overwhelming for them.
Congrats on him coming home and tell him "thanks"!!
2006-08-25 03:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Really, it is going to depend on what his role in Iraq was. If he sat on a huge AA like Anaconda, there wont be much baggage coming back; so yes, he will probably want a lot of sex.
If he was actually outside the wire a lot, fighting the fight then he is going to want some "down time". Every body seems to want something different. The most important thing is to allow him what he wants. You are going to have an overwhelming sense to surround him and serve him hand and foot. That may not be what he needs. He may need a little alone time. Dont take that personally; he has spent the last year with the same small group of guys, a little privacy is huge.
My third time back, all I wanted to do was pack up my truck and go fishing for a few days. I know my wife wasnt thrilled about it, but she went with it. After my second day home I went to the mountains for 4 days. It was probably our easiest transition.
People dont realize that being a military spouse is just as hard as being deployed, and that homecoming transition can be the hardest part.
2006-08-25 11:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by bgray0630 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, RKO, shut up. Take your hateful politics elsewhere, you smug asshole.
OK, got that off my chest. There's been a handful of good answers on here. Seriously, don't make any big plans. He's lived his life according to someone else's plans the entire time he's been away. Relax, kick back, and tell him he gets to decide. If that means you end up sitting around the house for a week, watching TV and ordering pizza, roll with it. To him, that's healing.
Don't be surprised if he wants to keep things quiet for a while and not go anywhere. He may want private time, even without you. There is virtually no privacy where he's been. I know you've missed him, but don't force yourself on him every minute.
A lot of what he'll want is dependent on what he's been doing and seeing throughout this deployment. If he spent all his time inside the wire, it will probably have affected him more deeply than if he was a fobbit.
Above all, he wants to know that you love him unconditionally. Sit down with him and ask him truthfully what you can do to make his return easier. Just try not to make it feel like one "those talks" that men dread so much. ;-)
2006-08-25 12:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he'll want to spend time with you...in privacy.
After you and he get reacquainted, I'd say it's a good bet that he'll want to go to a favorite restaurant, or have a nice home-cooked meal and a beer (if he drinks). I know when I got back, I spent the first week just going around and enjoying all of the little conveniences of American life that I had been deprived of, like ordering fast food, going to the pool, driving here and there without worrying about bombs, etc.
I also got a kick out of going to the grocery store, but then again I am an odd duck.
2006-08-25 09:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by timm1776 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A nice hot bath, and some steak!
Seriously...if he was in Iraq...he will love it. Its so nice to come home and take a nice relaxing bath to just relax...and some good ol' home cookin.
Eventually the other stuff will happen...but thats just a given.
Make him some good home cookin' or get some friends to help you out if you don't know how to cook. That what I did for friends that came back...they just ate it all up...best food ever to them.
2006-08-26 12:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this cause my hubby recently returned.Do not expect great things for the first few days..they really need time just to adjust to being home.I dont think throwing a big party is a good idea..maybe just those closest to him.It took about 4 wks before things felt right again..best of luck and im soooo happy for you hes coming home.email me if u ever wanna talk.
2006-08-25 14:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I got back, I wanted to relax and enjy the quiet. But with you to come home to, heis likely going to want spend a few days in bed with you followed by some good food.
2006-08-25 09:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by froggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. He might want to come home and spend time alone or he might want to share his experience. Always listen to what he says and let him vent. Don't push him too much if he doesnt speak of what he did and saw. Be patient with him and see how he readjusts to life back home. Remind him how proud you are of him.
2006-08-25 15:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by Heartbreak_Kid_TX 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will definatley want a peice of you! LOL!!
Eat at his fave restaurant, wear his favorite clothes, watch his fave tv programs, play his fave games, etc....Do everything that he didnt get to do over there!!!
Good luck and good bless your boyfriend!!! <3 May he return safe and sound into your arms!
Proud Air Force Wife
Jenna
2006-08-25 15:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jenna D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sweety. It is that simple. When I came home from iraq all I wanted was my one and only, then some beer.
2006-08-25 11:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by Teufel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋