been looking on the websites and I see alot of Beautiful women you can chose from. I was wondering what you people thought about using them. ( I already know that most of you females might give me a negative responce since it is not the tradional way of courting. Ladies please be honest with you answers)
2006-08-25 02:28:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel bad for the women because they have to marry someone they've never even met before, and feel sorry for the men because they're so desperate. I work in a restaurant and have seen several men with their mail order brides come in to eat. The woman is typically very backward, waits for her husband to give her permission to speak and seems unsure of what she wants to eat, as though her husband may not allow it. The husband usually lets her order what she wants, even suggests a few items on the menu. During the meal they do not speak with one another, and when they leave the man might say goodbye, but she is quiet. She generally walks with her head down and does not make eye contact. And this is based off of the 8-10 couples I've seen. They are all extremely alike. I think it's a very sad, strange situation. I would not recommend it.
2006-08-25 02:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually dude it was the traditional way of courting. Read your history books. Men paid to have women brought over to the US to marry and it is not much different then having your parents arrange for you to be married to a woman when you were born. So tell me how can that be wrong? If they are on the role to be married off to a stranger then it is something they are in agreement to. Besides they will choose too, it's not like they don't have a choice.
2006-08-25 09:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a female and I'm not against it. Marriage is a partnership and if the woman comes from a traditional family and understands the idea of commitment for life, I'm not against it.
The problem is that we live in a modern world and attitudes of women have changed drasticlly since years ago. So my advice is to make sure she's not just looking for a way out of her country so she can get a job, leave you and be with someone else. Don't just look for someone who you find attractive. Marriage needs cmmunication and faithfullness. If you find someone, fly down and meet her family first.
remember that marriage is supposed to be for life.
good luck.
2006-08-25 09:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mail Order brides have some drawbacks. Most just want to come to our country and they'll even marry you to get here. They will then dump you pretty quickly after that. The occasional one who would not dump you, might give you a lovely STD as a wedding gift. Be VERY careful.
2006-08-25 09:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to realize that alot of these women just want the greencard and once they get it, they'll divorce you.
It's hard enough to make a marriage work when you've spent some time getting to know the person. Why would you want to marry a stranger?
Another thing you need to remember is this woman does not owe you anything for marrying her. So treating her like a slave after she gets here is unacceptable.
2006-08-25 09:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if both the man and woman go into the relationship with their cards on the table, then it's fine. Let's be honest here...you think those beautiful women want to marry middle-aged, balding, overweight American men? No, they want to get out of their country and into the US. And as far as the men go. Do you really want true love, or eye candy?
2006-08-25 09:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Taffi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a women to truly love you I don't think it is such a good idea. The idea of mail order brides sort of reminds me of picking out a pet, people shouldn't be pets.
2006-08-25 09:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, i dont agree with it.
Doing a mail order bride...is like buying love...that isnt right, ya know?
I guess i am old fashioned & traditional....i want to meet someone...have the sparks....fall in love....
Not someone buying me....and forcing love....thats not natural
2006-08-25 09:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sugar_Plumzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care for the idea, but then that is just me. It takes me a long time to get to know someone, and I could not develop a relationship this way.
2006-08-25 09:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are right! it not the traditional mehod of courting, but sometimes (like once in a million) u get lucky and end up with some1 realy special.
2006-08-25 09:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by brown candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋