i am 22yrs old and i am in luv with a girl in my college..this is the first time and i hav not had these kind of experience in life before..i am a kind of guy who doesn't speak much with girls..but i rly liked this girl a lot and started to msg her on her mobile..she does reply but she does not move along with me like she does with other guys and she rly gets offended whenever i say somthing..i am not a kind of a guy who goes behind a girl begging her to love me...i don't know y she doesn't like me..i am a tall and hefty guy and many people say that i don't look 22...and as far as my looks are concerned i am not that desirable ...wud that be the reason y she is not speaking with me properly..but i rly like her..whenever i try 2 speak with her..she just turns her face off which makes me feel embarassed...wat shall i do?..do u guys think its just because of my looks or there might be som other reason..
2006-08-25 02:18:58 · 21 answers · asked by bryan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you speak as poorly as you write you will never impress her.
2006-08-25 02:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin she is just not the right girl. No matter what her problem, you are not going to get anywhere. Truth is if a girl likes you, she may play hard to get but she will give you signals and although sometimes mixed, she will make sure you know she likes you. If she is doing these things, she doesn't. If that's the case, what difference does it make what the reason is? You should direct your energy elsewhere. Try to get lots of practise talking to girls. We are people too you know and scary as it may seem to you, the more you treat us like a seperate species the further you will get from connecting with one of us.
As far as your looks go, some women are shallow, some have certain tastes but look around you.. there are LOTS of good lookin women with very average looking men. What does that tell you? It should tell you that most women aren't only after looks in a man. Women want dependable, caring, masculine, truthful, honest, funny, romantic, spontanious.. lots of things other than a six pack and square jaw. Most women grow up and realize that the good lookin ones are egotistical or gay. I am considered a good lookin petite woman & my man is very large not particularly attractive in the usual way but i think he is the sexiest being on this earth coz of who he is.
You don't need to be all of those things but just find who you are, work on your good points, talk, talk and talk more to women and you will find one eventually that appreciates you. Stop waisting time on this girl and practise talking to others. Remember the more you are around women, the more you will learn, the more you learn, the more you understand and hopefully like about us. We are clever funny unique people.. just like you boys can be. good luck
2006-08-25 02:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Bryan,
I am 49 y/o and was surfing around,had a question and ended up here. I have 2 grown sons of my own and Whew! we have been where you are. I saw your pic,you aren't a bad looking fella,this girl....evidently doesn't know what she would be missing,having someone love her so,but...there are more fish in the sea,really,you will find someone who loves you back and you will think this one was a passing thought.Do not be in a hurry ,you want to be the person you love for the rest of your life,both my sons have been with the woman they swore was the one,now 2 kids each and another woman later...lol...so,it isn't you bud,keep your chin up,things happen when you least expect it,if she makes you feel embarassed and all,move on,you will find someone who feels about you,how you feel about this girl.Wishing you the best and hope the girl for you pops in soon,but don't be in a big hurry......Take Care!
2006-08-25 02:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by iris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she could be a little less RUDE in her attitude toward you!
It sounds like she's not interested! I'd move on and look for someone who likes you for yourself. You need to work on your POOR self image. If you don't think your attractive or desirable a girl is going to pick up on that. If you think your hefty start exercising do something to make you feel better. People don't like being around someone who has a poor self image and is always cutting themselves down.
2006-08-25 02:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brysn msy be she likes you and that is why she is not talking to you.hrd the song yeh uska style hoinga,hoton pe na dil pe haa hoinga'.Anyway just talk to her straight away and tell her that you like her and ask her for an answer.Try giving her a letter or sms her.If she goes on ignoring you, my best advice for you will be to drop her.You know what there are girls who love taking advantage of guys and if he enjoys the way youre beging for her.Do not let her.If she loves you,she wld never torture you.So even on the third time if she seem to be grudgy just go to her and tell her that you liked her.But it was because you thought that unlike other girls she would be a good one.Tell her that youre over her and tell her that you think she is sick and move on.If she loves you believe me she will beg for you/!!!
2006-08-25 02:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by golden princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have any inferior feeling about yourself. You may be handsome but I think you are a little late in suggesting her of your love. She already would have found a guy and just want to maintain a healthy friendship with you, that's all. That is why she turns off when you try to jump the fence.
2006-08-25 02:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think your self confidence is getting in the way of how you are showing your feelings-and maybe you are being a bit pushy on her and it scares her...so just think positive thoughts about yourself and then approach her....but not be naggy cause that turns a girl off...believe it or not a lot of us women are not interested on what is on the inside as we are your true intentions and your being as a whole...be confident with her and let her know how you feel and if that doesnt work then it is not meant to be..move on but i wish you well and GOOD LUCK
2006-08-25 02:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by willsgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a combination of things. Just because she doesn't like your looks does not mean you are unattractive, you are just not attractive to her. You cannot make someone love you. If she has so blatantly rejected you, as i always say: dufa kuroa, dunya mai bahut larkiyan hain, i mean there are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-08-25 02:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this girl is a shallow 1 , cause she didn't even think to reply you when you wanted to talk to her
ignore her man , and show her that you can know other girls BUT , if you're living inside a shell , well it's time to get out and show the world who you really are , stand up for yourself and never think of how you look , their are a lot freeks that doesn't even deserve to look at but they know tons of ladies , looks were never the trick for girls
good luck man , really
2006-08-25 02:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by spikydaisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being such a whinny girl. Grow someballs and act like a real man should. Talk to other girls, learn how to flirt and show her that youre worth her time.
2006-08-25 02:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by ryan o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell the truth go to her find a flaw in her cause she isn,t all that great ether so if she is like and doesn,t pay attention to u it,s her lost one day in the futcher she going to be ugle she all ready has a ugle heart u can do better u will find better
2006-08-25 02:28:44 · answer #11 · answered by bubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋