aggressive son?

Question

my 3 and half yr old son ias acting strangely he is aggressive all the time fee|s he has no friends , will cry at the drop of a hat,says i dont love him anymore will go and try to hit anybody who wont listen to him or trouble him

he is extremely resentful towards his father.will try to do everything an anything that his younger brother (1 yr old)will do, his pa loves his brother more simply cos the elder wont *** near him

otherwise he is very intelligent will memorise things in jiffy,obeys me like anything and i m myself amazed at his learning abilities ,

ya he plays fight with his father and may b thats where he is gettin it from

Answer 1

He needs medication.

Answer 2

I would be willing to guess the advice of "getting medical attention" and the other useless comment regarding medicating him were given by women who do not have children and thus no experience. Any woman who has raised a son knows how difficult they can be at this age.

I have a three year old male. Males are aggressive by nature. I think your son is a normal 3 year old boy. Take him to the pediatrician for a checkup to rule out anything and ask for the pediatrician's advice since they probably see 300 toddler a week. I sure they will agree that he is behaving as badly as just about every 3 year old boy does. I would be more concerned if I had a passive 3 year old boy.

Answer 3

First you have to find the source of his aggression. For instance, when you discipline him do you swat at him? If so then he could be mimicking your actions. He may be trying to emulate you if you swat at him when he doesn't listen. He thinks that that is the way to communicate when someone doesn't listen to you.

Next, are you in an abusive relationship or has he seen a domestically violent situation? He could have witnessed that and also is trying to imitate that.

Is his father in his life? I ask that to say that if his father is in his life, they could probably play fight and that is what he is doing. If his father isn't in his life he could just be acting out his frustrations and looking for more attention.

But you also have to realize that boys are naturally aggressive and he just hasn't learned how to channell that aggression yet. If so then it is just a phase he is going through.

In the long run the only credible answer is that children are excellent observers, but bad interpreters.

Answer 4

Often little boys respond this way when either parents are under extreme pressure - think things over and see whether there is tension/any sort of worry in the home that may have brought this on. NEVER never give medication unless all othe possibilities have been explored - it really messes them up and good doctors should find alternative treatments.

Answer 5

Pick up a copy of Dare to Disipline by James Dobson.
It is an older book.. I read it & wow! It works! & has tons of helpful advice!
My only question.. is... does your 3yr old get disiplined
when he hits, screams, & acts out with words???
Sorry but my guess is maybe but not the right kind of disipline!
He needs his lil' @$$ smacked! & told how it is! This child sounds incredibly intellegent & is playing both of you!!!
If he knows there are not serious, unpleasent consequenses for his actions... then he will keep up this acting out!
If you don't fix this now.. It will only get worse! Seriously check out the book I mentioned! It talks about kids like yours!
God Bless & hope that helps!

Answer 6

get him in Martial Arts. great way for him to burn off steam and it will teach him dicipline. Military dicipline techniques work great, jumping jacks, running, and push-ups. If that doesn't work beat his azz, J/K

Children like this tend to grow up and be very productive. Channel his energy! I hate to hear how society depends on medicine so much. I my self have A.D.D. and have learned how to cope with it. I'm 29 and consider myself very sucesessful. I could have very easily gone the other way if eveyone just thought there was something wrong with me.

I think he'll be fine and maybe his terrible 2's are coming a year later like my son. Love him to death and get him active in something like sports to get his mind off of things..

Oh ya and keep him away from guns....

Answer 7

If he is unduly aggressive and has ahtred towards his dad, he needs the help of a clinical psychologist. The root cause of his dissent has to be diagnosed. I think. you parents have role isn this unruly behaviour and you may also need some counselling.

Answer 8

Did you maybe start dating or something. Either way, he needs help now. It is possible for a child that young to be depressed. He may not need meds, but he does need checked out by a child psychiatrist.

Answer 9

The boy sounds like he has had some kind of major trauma that has affected him very badly. I'd take him to see a child psychologist.

Answer 10

Yes, have him examined. Make sure the rewards for good behavior are greater than the consequences. You might need to look hard at your patterns of interaction.

Answer 11

Set some rules and punish him. He may just need a little structure and attention.