Christians seem to be divided on this...?

Question

If premarital sex is bad because of the problems it can cause, such as STD's, then why did god create std's? And, if god created std's to punish people who have impure sex, then why was sex wrong in the first place?


Here's a quote from my last post, "God didn't "make" STDS, but sex is wrong before marriage" What makes sex before marriage wrong? who is it hurting?

Did god make std's, or didn't he?

I've read the bible, it's too cryptic, vague, and inconsistent to draw a conclusion from.

There's more to the bible than the ten comandments, and i have seen animals have sex just for the sake of it. (dogs)

Answer 1

There are diseases in this world, like STDs, because we live in a sinful and fallen world. I don't think STDs are meant to punish anyone, they are just a naturday consquence of, usually, extramarital sex.

Answer 2

The reason Christians view premarital sex as wrong has nothing to do with STD's. Christians would still think sex before marriage was wrong even if there was no such thing.

The concept is that human sexuality is a deeply defining gift from the Lord- and like all his gifts it is to be used with respect to ourselves and each other. Sex was created to deepen the spiritual and emotional bond between a husband and wife in a way that no other action can express. Sex is to be ultimately reserved for the context of a stable, loving family in which the sexual bond is unique between the married people and the possibility of offspring from such union is lovingly expected and encouraged.

Pestilence is said to have come into the world due to the first sins of our ancestors. However, even then, it is our own foolishness and irresponsibility that has caused them to spread and become the epidemics they have. Had we always been so reverent of the sexual act as we should have been, i doubt it would have ever reached the proportions that it has today.

Answer 3

James 1:13 is not cryptic or hard to understand it says plainly that, "With evil things God can not be tried nor does he try anyone." So we can see that God did not create STD's. Now, as for why sex before marriage is wrong we must look at God's original purpose for sex. Adam and Eve were meant to have children and to fill the earth with those children. Matthew 19:5 states that, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will stick to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. Only intercourse in the bonds of marriage are sanctioned by God any sexual act outside of that union is sin.

Answer 4

God's laws are designed to save us from ourselves.
Sex outside of marriage can and does bring forth a few problems, such as:

- "Are you sure the baby is mine?, I want a paternity test."
- STD's
- Emotional attachment in most cases
- Kids too young to support themselves having babies
- More likely to have a single parent home
- More economic struggles (two parent incomes are better than one)

Also, sex is much deeper than just a physical act think about this for a minute:
- Sex between a husband & wife is a covenant between themselves & God. God require blood for many of His covenants, this is why when a woman has sex for the first time with a man she bleeds for no other reason does the hyman exist. If you notice, once the hyman is broken it does not grow back again, therefore, the blood covenant between a husband & wife is made with God.

Answer 5

Funaholic,
That a great question - because it goes to the basics of the nature of God, the nature of humanity, and the relationship God has with humanity.
Here is the question in it's broadest form: If God is all powerful, and all loving, why does evil exist in the world.

The short answer to that question is that evil exists in the world because humanity has been created with the freedom to choose their own way - that is God may be all powerful, but God chooses to let humans make their own choices. With each of the choices we make, there are consequences. Some of those consequences are good, and some are less than good.

For instance, if I choose to jump off a 100 foot cliff, there are going to be some broken bones at the bottom (or worse)! This is not because God wants to punish me, it is because I chose to try to defy the natural order of the word (in particular - gravity).

When we have sex outside the protection and blessing of marriage, there are consequences, such as STD's damaged emotional health, callused hearts, unwanted or unintended pregnancies... This is not because God is punishing us, it is a consequence of us trying to defy the natural order God has established.

If anything I have written is helpful, praise God! If it is not, blame me.
Grace & Shalom

Answer 6

I think Christians are divided on this because of personal preference. A lot of people have their own opinions and want to do what they want to do, which most of the time is against what the Bible says.

The answer is the same as it has always been - sex is for married couples only. The reason is because sexuality is the one gift we have that effects us on every level of our being - emotional, psychological, intellectual, physical. It's that deep. And if we use sex in an unbalanced and harmful way, we do major damage to ourselves whether we realize it or not. God knew this, which is one reason why He said it is only for marriage.

Sex is a holy gift. It is the physical expression of love and intimacy between two people, and mirrors the love of God. It is a total giving of yourself to another person. That is why sex outside of marriage is wrong, because it goes against the total giving of yourself to another. You cannot completely give yourself to someone that you aren't committed to in marriage; there is always something that will be held back. In marriage, you are free to give everything of yourself to your spouse, even children, which is another part of the gift of sex. We share in the creative power of God when we have children. This is something even the angels in heaven cannot do.

STDs are a product of our not using sex correctly. It's like any other affliction that haunts us - we brought it on ourselves because we have misused the gift that God gave us. I liked the comment by the person who spoke about virginity. Often we laugh and make fun of it, but virginity is actually how God wants us. Virginity is pure, chaste, and beautiful to God. It mirrors the beauty and purity of Him. Think about it, if everyone kept their virginity until marriage, we would have none of the problems we have today, like STDs and teen pregnancy. It's the simplest and best answer. Wouldn't need contraception like condoms or birth control, and we surely wouldn't have the most horrible of all - abortion.

If everyone would get back to what God teaches, everything would be made new again.

God bless.

Answer 7

My opinion is that premarital sex is fine if you are in a committed relationship with someone that you deeply love. It is, however, important to use birth control and protect yourself from STDs. God did not create STDs, they come from germs and viruses. I do not think that people should have sex before they are old enough to understand their choice. Talk with an adult that you trust before having sex. There is nothing morally wrong with premarital sex.

Answer 8

God didn't make STD's. STD's have come about because of sin. When Adam & Eve made the ultimate mistake and chose thier way instead of Gods, sin entered the world and devil was unleashed. As time passed on and the moral decay of man increased, along with homosexuality, sexual immorality, premarriage sex, etc. the STD came into being. It is the deceiver who brought this on. Satan makes everyone think its OK. You won't get pregnant, you won't catch anything, you won't get AIDS, you won't die. Then once you do and believe him, the STD or whatever will get you.

It is sin in the world. It is our decision to rule ourselves. It is our moral decay that has caused this.

Answer 9

The cultural history of marriage was created to make marriage pure and as such sex was only allowed during marriage. This cultural heritage has been applied to christianity. Premarital sex should be avoided though.

Answer 10

God knows everything before it happens. He knows all of the choices that are going to be made.
I believe that all were created at the same time.

Sex is something to be shared between to two people who have commited their life to each other.. in the presence of God.
It is not to be in a casual manor.

Now that I am happily married I do regret having premarital sex. I think that it would be so amazing to have that just between my husband and I.

I do not believe that God created STD's to "punish" it is more of a consequence. If you don't listen and obey the word of God then their are possible consequences..period.

Answer 11

I believe God intended for sex to be beautiful with a married couple. Think about this! Virgin, do you know what this means? Three months after your married, you have to go to the doctors. Oh, my you have a sexual disease. How did that come about. Your wife had sex with about a dozen different guys. Your husband had sex with about a dozen different girls. Stay virgin and you don't have to worry about a disease or later throw a past lover in someones face. With a virgin you get someone that has not been touched, used up or with a disease. God did not make STD's, different sexual partners made STD's.