I've always been the black sheep of the family, and now have moved 45 min drive away to live with my fiancee and son - recently I have not been informed of my nan going into hospital (although I lived with her for over 12 yrs) - havent been told she has gone on holiday for a while - and havent a clue when she is returning.
I visit her regualrly and telephone her 4 times a week for a chat. - so we are close
She recently had a stroke and I am concerned that there is something more going on than people are telling me...
My family are not exactly close, so asking is not an option
What do I do?
2006-08-25 01:48:40 · 8 answers · asked by schmushe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she doesnt want to confront her daughter, in fear of rocking the boat and upsetting her
2006-08-25 01:53:05 · update #1
Go see her. My family sounds similar and when they wouldnt tell me anything i got on a bus and went to her and am glad i did. i ended up staying with my grandma for a month and we had a great time and she was able to forget how sick she was for awhile before she died. so dont let your family keep you from having a few last days minutes or what ever with the one person who means something to you and has been the only one to really know you all your life. go see her for both your sakes forget about the confortation if she is ill or weak then it doesnt matter she should be focus on getting better or spending time with those that care
2006-08-25 01:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by starrmerlan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find out who is responsible for making decision for her. I would tell that person that I am very concerned and that I love her very much. I would also tell that person that I would like to be informed on how she is doing and that when she goes into the hospital or something, that I would like to know. I don't know what has happened in your family but some one has to the bigger person and start talking.
2006-08-25 08:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Doreen*, you should go visit with her in the hospital, find out what's going on, some familys arent' close, I speak from experience, my family is spread out now, I hardly ever talk to my older brother, my sisters and I talk now and then, my mom and daughter are at odds right now, so... I know kinda what you're going through... I dont' talk to anyone in my family except for now and then when my one sister e-mails me, or if I call my mom once a week, or she calls me. PLEASE go visit your nan, and I hope she'll be okay.
2006-08-25 08:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by jasminelyn_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit her in the hospital, check up on her and try to stay as close to her as possible. If she recovers you can ask her directly what's going on in the family.
2006-08-25 08:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out who her Dr. is and the Hosp she is or was at. As a relative the Dr. will let you know her facts. Sometimes going through the Dr. is better anyway!
2006-08-25 08:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by indiana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your name and number in her purse as an emergency contact or have you asked her about having your name add to hospital records as a contact
2006-08-25 09:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you said your close to her, why dont you sit her down and talk with her about it?
2006-08-25 08:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by atl_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do wat u like....but i say u gotta to be careful with all even with mom..it is really hard to find a person showing true love....in this universe..i hate this life
2006-08-25 08:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋