this man had a child with another woman but hid this infomation from you, then just before you marry , he tells you he has this child and would like to bring his child in to the house, would you accept to bring that child in to the house?
2006-08-25 01:43:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
definitely...the child is part of your bf/husbands life and it is only right to also accept the child. It's not the child's fault that your man didn't tell you the complete truth, so I don't think it's fair to the child to be punished or not accepted into your home. good luck!
2006-08-25 02:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, here´s the deal.
I love children. I would have ZERO problems with accepting his child, bringing him or her into our home, and helping raise the child with my future husband. I would totally accept the child and raise him or her as if they were my own.
HOWEVER, I would dump this man if he lets you know right before the wedding. A child is a HUGE part in one´s life...how can he have kept this information from you? Was he ashamed or what? I would never want to be with a man and have kids with this man if he was ashamed to share such an important part of his life with you from the BEGINNING. If he lied to you about not having any kids, how do you know he´s not with holding any other information? Chuck this loser out, and find somebody who´s worthy of you!
2006-08-25 02:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, i think dat thiis man shud ave been straight with you from the beginning and told you that he had a child and then things wudn't b so difficult. yes, why not allow the child into your house after all the child has done nothing wrong, n mayb try to get to know the child a bit.
2006-08-25 02:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by ladytalabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a female but just because your husband to be is a moron and ashamed of his child, please DO NOT take it out on the child, take him/her in and raise him or her as yours, this child needs a loving caring parent and your husband to be needs slapped for hiding this child from you
2006-08-25 01:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel this way you should get rid of the man theres no reason for a child to be at a home where their not wanted it isn't their fault they were brought into the mess
2006-08-25 01:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. The child is innocent and I wouldn't hold any grudges towards the child.
2006-08-25 01:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the man you should be deciding whether or not to keep. a child must be welcome in his parents' home(s.) the misery you would inflict on this innocent child by rejecting him would be life-changing, crippling.
you would have to be the most selfish, morally repugnant person on earth to reject your husband's child.
like i said, he, on the other hand, is a whole 'nother story. he's obviously weak or sneaky. your choice.
2006-08-25 01:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would accept that child,i would have no problems with it. if you love your husband you should, give the child a chance.
2006-08-25 01:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by da brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no sense of not accepting the child..
2006-08-25 01:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it a part of him and you love him you are going to marry him so accept that he has a past. and learn to love him for it.
2006-08-25 01:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋