My boyfriend of 3 months is really sloppy when he eats, always has left-overs on his face, always spills things on himself and the table, hardley ever used a napkin, doesn't know the rules about equal portions when splitting food. I just don't know if I can deal with it or how I would go about improving the situation. My brother noticed it and said, you have to help him with his table manors because it was very noticable. I don't want to change someone, but I think that this is something that is going to bother any girl he is with. Should I try to help him, or just end it? Other than the table manors, he is not as affectionate as I am and kind of shy, but very kind person.
2006-08-25 01:41:59 · 27 answers · asked by angie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe me, if his manners irritate you now when the relationship is relatively new and young, it will only get worse as time goes on. Either talk to him about it and see what he says and maybe he will decide to make some changes. Possibly no one ever taught him table manners. However, this is not your only issue - there is also the issue of not showing affection in the way you want. My advice is, don't settle for someone you may not be happy with. Small issues now can become huge ones over time. Life is too short and precious to be discontent.
Best of luck to both of you.
2006-08-25 01:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you can not deal with it.Then you should end it,before you get more involved.I have been in relationships where the woman tries to change me.It doesnt work.People are what they are just accept it and move on.If he is not as affectionate as you either why bother.
To him its not a problem until you make it one.
I personally hate bad table manners and wouldn't date him lol
2006-08-25 08:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mark ABC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like something you could live with. I know that little things inthe beginning that bother you such as this end up growing into big irritable things - and considering he isn't as affectionate or outgoing as you it doesn't sound like much of a match, i would dump him, don't waste your time on his table manners unless you want to do it as a friend.
2006-08-25 09:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like how my 8 year old daughter eats! LOL!
I would definatly, in a friendly manner somehow bring up his table manners. Chances are good that he does not realize he eats/slops the way he does! I don't blame you..That would also drive me nuts! But even if you both don't work out. You would be doing him a favor for future relationships for sure!
God Bless & hope it all works out
2006-08-25 08:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Joeysol'lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would make me sick to eat with someone like that. How old is he? If he doesn't know about manners by now, I don't know if you can teach him. Even a 3-year-old should be able to eat without leaving food on his face.
Dump him.
2006-08-25 08:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are bothered about something so puerile as table manners, then perhaps your relationship with him isn't actually what you are looking for.
If I'm honest, I would tell you to get over it; table manners are just etiquette, there are much more important things to be concerned about in a relationship.
Get over yourself!
2006-08-25 08:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating a dog, how old is this guy? Buy and bib and make him wear it every time you eat with him. Either he will improve on his sloppy skils or youll enjoy embarrising the hell out of this fool.
2006-08-25 09:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by ryan o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump
2006-08-25 08:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by snow l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL!! , i don't mean to laugh but that is a funny story.
my mom is the same way and always gets stuff on here face and shirt.
but i am not gonna abandon her.
consult him about bout it.
and maybe even make a joke , NOT A MEAN ONE.
2006-08-25 08:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by Autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it,if he doesnt listen threaten to break up you guys relationship,if he still doesnt listen break up,if you think it is not nice to change people manners,i think it is the wisest choice,try it and see how it all works if every thing does not go according to plan get another boyfriend and make him jealous.
2006-08-25 08:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by 2cool4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋