My boyfriend is very irratable and paranoid.One day when I was with with my client, he called me. I picked up and said I can't talk to him right now,and he immediately became very paranoid suspect if I am with someone else. I was afraid that my client heard him yelling so I hang up and turned off my phone, then he went crazy and sent 120 text msgs to my cell!
That night I told him that I he's mentally ill and asked him to go see a psychiatrist or I will break up with him cuz I can't take it anymore. He was really sad, and made an appointment with the doctor.
But today after he came back from the clinic, he said the doctor said he is normal. What's more, he said the doctor was very mean to him. She totally ruined his self confidence and made him feel worthless. I feel really bad. Am I a bad girlfriend for sending my boyfriend to the shrink?
2006-08-25 00:37:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
iam not sure that your are a bad girl friend. If you are a bad girlfriend, u will not sent him 2 see the doctor. and i feel that he loves you a lot. he is mad with your love, i think he felt when you hear uer words, thats why he respond with 120 messeges. Dont take it serious, he is normal. only one medicine for take him back, thats medicine not available in medical store, its with you.
you know whats the medicine? its your love,
My Advice is, he has a soft heart, dont say anything sudenly or open. i know you can't speak with him when u are siting with clients. that time, tell him softly, u can tell him to call you back, or
u can call him after your meeting.
I think u got a right person.
bad girls never do like this, u are a good girl.
" bad girl is my GF, i trust her a lot, i loves her, but she act, she just kiding with my love, finaly she went with a new gf. she made me a mad"
2006-08-25 00:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sibin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing bad at all. If he calls you at work then he has to realize there may be times you can not talk on the phone right when he calls up, that's only common sense.
He's just acting like a selfish spoiled little 5-year-old brat. If that's what you want to deal with then go for it. You better call the doctor and see what was really said, if they will even tell you. Maybe they found he was a retard or potential serial killer. Sending someone 120 text messages is not exactly normal, it indicates some sort of obsession or other problem.
There is no reason why he could not have accepted that you were with a client and could not talk right at that moment. He seems very possessive with a very low self-image. It's probably best to dump him because unless he can admit to a problem it will only get worse. Do you really want to deal with this?
2006-08-25 00:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think sending him the shrink would have been good, it seems he has trusting issues. either he has been hurt before or something but he needs to know he cant be calling you at work like that espically when there are clients. He dont sound normal if he gets up set just cause you tell him you cant talk. he needs to realize something so you both need to sit and talk about things and dont send him toa shrink
2006-08-25 00:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jon and Nichole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Doll/I had issues with my first wife,insecurity,some paranoia.If I hadnt waited,it may not have blown up.All of my demons eventually came out,in the form of addiction,and realizing I cant control everybody around me.Sounds like you love each other.Youre not a bad GF,youre the best.this is a mental health problem,and from my own exp,if it doesnt work soon,move on.Sorry to be so REAL,but the story sounds So familliar/Eddie/67
2006-08-25 00:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by EDDIE/67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not bad. He should have asked you what was going on that you couldn't talk to him and you should have said sorry for hanging up on him. You were trying to help him as sending him to the shrink but you should have gone with him as a support. You both should understand each other.
2006-08-25 00:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.....why wouldn't he understand you were with a client?
If you cannot tell him what you're doing then you're a bad girlfriend because you caused all this by not telling him what you were doing. I'd probably do the same if my gf didn't tell me what she was doing and just hung up.
I mean he may of overreacted, and that is something he'll have to work at. What do you do for your job that you have to be with a client? Because if he doesn't know what your job is that could be a problem.
2006-08-25 00:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Idiotman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definately not a bad g/f. He sounds like a psycho! He's probably bs'ing you about the Dr. blowing his confidence. He sounds like a manipulator and controller, he will use your feelings against you to break your self esteem. Don't let it happen! You might need to dump him and move on.
Good luck!
2006-08-25 00:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Redeft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lose the nut case. He will only make you miserable. My guess is that he had a much different version of events to tell the shrink if he even went.
2006-08-25 00:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by troythom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly your expressing your self that's significant yet i think of you are going to be able to desire to of did it in a extra useful way. in keeping with risk communicate. Set something up the place you could communicate until now she starts getting sleepy. She isn't a foul female pal. She could be if she became going out ****#$g different adult men. yet that isn't the challenge here. ask for forgiveness to her and basically say you suggested it out of frustration.
2016-09-29 23:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really
its human nature.the problem u r facing that every gf and bf had
so u must not feel so bad but u should make understand 2 ur bf about the whole situation,about ur problem very politely and discuss it with ur bf so that u should not face any more problem
ahead bye tc and al d best 4 ur life
2006-08-25 00:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by navin g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋