i met this guy who is 20 about 8 months ago and he tells me he loves me every night and i love him to but could a 7 year age gap work and would he be in it for sex he tells me he isnt like that but i think that because hes older he isnt going to want to wait for me to be ready what can i do?
2006-08-24 23:35:59 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tomorrow he will be saying, "If you really love me you will sleep with me"..No kidding! That's where this is going..You will be forever sorry if you don't end this relationship....No matter how well it sounds on- line, a 20 year old man only wants a 13 year old girl for one reason..As soon as you are not a virgin, he will find antother..Honestly
2006-08-25 04:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by Chetco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered your other question , where you didn't give your age. !0 years from now that 7 year gap won't mean a thing. You are the one who will change.
I know you've heard of Bo Derek , She met her ex husband when she was 15. His wife before her was Linda Evans from Dynasty , When he met her she was 15.
His wife before that was Ursula Andres, He met her when she was 15.
If you ever saw the original 10 commandments, He was Joshua the stone cutter. A better looking man I've never seen.
But he like your bf has a thing for teenies , it doesn't mean his feelings aren't real, but what happens when you're not a teenie anymore?
You're only a few years from dolls, give your self a chance to enjoy the tender years.
I sincerely hope you listen to those who love you and tell you, NOOOOOOO
God bless you.
2006-08-25 01:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents? Does this 20 year old guy really have it all that you are willing to take on such a grown up role? there are alot of manipulative people out there that really appear genuine and wonderful, sweetheart you are still way too young to even consider this, Look at the nonsense on Jerry Springer and if you want to keep your head down for the rest of your life then jump on board this idiots train, any grown up would know that this relationship is wrong and very inapropriate. Please tell some adults around you and make them care that you are trying to do whats right but you don't know what that is, be safe sweetheart and take your time, the right guy is out there and that is definitly not him!
2006-08-24 23:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this guy. If a twenty year old is "in love" with a 13 year old there is a problem. Either he is so emotionally immature that he feels connected to a 13 yr old (lots of problems there), or more likely and more dangerous for you he is a predator, stay away, tell your parents, tell the police whatever, he is probably up to no good, dangerous and needs to be reported before he does anything to you or some other young girl.
2006-08-24 23:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Steven K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweetie. A 20 year old man who loves a 13 year old has rats in his attic..and most probably does indeed want to have sex with a sweet, young, underage thing like you. You are what is known as jailbait, and therefore dangerous...and some guys thrive on danger, and others are just plain sick.
If your greybeard (greybeard to you) sweetie truly loves you,, then he will wait until the age different is null.
But that will be years from now...do you really want him to put his life on hold that long????
More importantly, do you really want to put your life on hold for that long????? And for a probable future sex offender, if he isn't already one ??????
I say nooooooooooo.
Be safe, and most of all listen to your gut instinct, which you are doing as you posted this question.
Hugs, hugs, hugs.
2006-08-24 23:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Matilda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really does love you, he will Wait end of story.
7 years is not so bad if you are BOTH past 21.
But at the age of 13, there is still lots for you to learn and experience on your own. I can guarantee that within the next few years your ideals, choices, likes and dislikes will change.
2006-08-24 23:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by wildreality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admiring someone older is not a sin but when it crosses the line for a relationship emotional and sexual it is abuse. this person needs to grow up and act his age and also realize that he could get into a lot of trouble wit the law. find friends your own age. Seven years isn't a lot when you are in your twenties but right now the emotional and physical development is greatly different. You are a bright girl you are right he isn't going to wait around for you to be ready for a sexual relationship he is perhaps going to manipulate you into one. this is only going to lead to hurt. speak to a counselor today.
2006-08-24 23:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to get with you for sex! You are still young and he knows this so he thinks he can get away with it. Dont believe him and stop talking to him! He is too old for you at this moment. You're only 13, dont worry about boys now and just have fun with your friends! This 20 year old is not a nice person. Stay away from him!
2006-08-24 23:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My my, dear 13 years old and you are thinking of relationships. Better wake up and be serious with your life. Let the guy wait for a while (if he can), say until you are 18 or more. Take my advice don't dab into it right now 'cos you will sure as hell regret it.
2006-08-24 23:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will speak from my own experience. Years ago as a man of 20, I had absolutely no interest in teenage girls. It sounds to me like you have met a man who is not yet mature enough for his age.
Chances are that he will not mature with you as you become a woman. You are eventually going to grow up and most likely grow out of him.
Better to enjoy your youth with well adjusted teenagers like yourself. You will have a better time with people that you can actually relate to.
Please do not have sex with this man. He has obvious issues that he needs to get over and he will only manage to damage you in the process.
2006-08-24 23:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Teufel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋