my sis meet this guy on chat 2/3 yrs back, the are in a relationship now(i think since a year or so) nyways, he claims to be frm london but frm when my sis has started talkin to him, he has been in india,and has never called her when he is in london. My sis has fallen in love wit him and i hate him, she hasn't even seen him as yet(the've exchanged snaps, dats all), and he told her that he wont be marrying her as he cant go against his parents wishes. He claims to be all independent, then y wud he listen to his parents?nyways i feel like offlately she has no time 4 me, as she is alwas on the phone wit him. i really cant stand him as i feel he bullsh*ts a lot, and i hate the fact that she cares for him more than me, as she has never even meet him as yet. plus he has atypical indian accent, for a person who has been brought up abroad he in no way talks like a brit. IS IT JUST ME OR DO YOU 2 FEEL THIS GUY IS FAKE.
2006-08-24 23:33:34 · 11 answers · asked by kiki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know if this guy is fake or not, but that's not the point.
Your sister is infatuated with who she thinks this guy is, and hopefully he is who he says he is. When and if she finds out he's not who he says he is, she's going to need her family (you) and her friends to support her because she will be very hurt.
I think you need to take the time and talk to your sister.
Tell her you are really glad that she found someone she loves, but you really miss her and feel like she doesn't spend much time with you. Try to be supportive of her relationship, but let her know you miss her and ask her if she could make some more time for you like in the past.
2006-08-24 23:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by anabele6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you cannot be in a relationship for a year with someone you haven't met before so I don't know why your sister is kidding herself that all is rosy?! Secondly, it's not your place to be bitchy and jealous. Is your sister not allowed to have anyone else in her life? I'm sure she hasn't liked all of your partners but has she gone on and on at you about how much she hates them? If you really love your sister then what you can do is to be there to pick up the pieces when it all goes shitfaced. By continually nagging at her - all you are doing is ensuring that when your sis does need someone she won't pick you because you will have made her feel like a dikhead for believing in this twit. Be a sister in the true sense of the word and support her no matter what her choices are. You've told her what you think of this guy and his intentions, now let it go. If she asks you for an opinion then by all means be honest but until then - you've had your say. Over and over and over by the sound of it. She's not going to listen. She believes this guy is true, you believe he's not. Although you are probably right - you don't know that for sure do you? Grit your teeth and bare it. She will get hurt and you will be there. That's being a sister.
2006-08-25 06:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by ellyfantastic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is a brit, why can't he marry your sister? Indian guys have arranged marriages, and they do not go against their parent's wishes (mummy's boys). But never heard of a guy from London say anything like that!!!
Also, if he has an Indian accent, then he cannot be british! No english guy brought up in anywhere changes his accent believe me.
What does your parents and family say about this union between them? Have you tried to explain things to other people... maybe a school counseller or something? maybe someone else can talk to your sister and make her see reason!
2006-08-25 06:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by trushka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is for sure a fake but for that y hav u started hating ur sis, instead of getting jealous talk to ur sis about this fake guy n make her come out of the infatuation which is a normal thing.
2006-08-25 06:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by pam c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel this guy is absolute fake stuff, and yr sis is very mean to have ignored you after meeting this guy,anyways all you can do is wait for her relationship to end and not be there to pick p the pieces.
2006-08-25 07:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy sounds fony, but remember, when she finds the right guy, she will love him more than u, it's natural, she is supposed to love him more than her parents, if it's the right guy, talk to ur sister about how u feel and try to plan an outing together like manicures or something, if that doesn't work talk to ur parents about how u feel and they will help
2006-08-25 06:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by kellieprocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the pits...but it is life nowdays. He may or may not stay with your sister but you will ALWAYS be her brother. She will love you more if you just accept her for who she is and be there for her. You may be right about him but time will tell. You sound like you really care about your sister. Just be there for her...she WILL need you.
2006-08-26 18:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to resolve this is to discuss this with ur sis (preferably in front of ur family)
2006-08-27 03:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mayank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop lying and ask some better truthful questions...
2006-08-26 08:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe its time to check him out
2006-08-25 07:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by saheli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋