I've recently been emailing my ex. I guess old habits die hard. I got together with him just as I was leaving Brooklyn. He's a LOT younger than I am, but I really liked him....I think he adored me, too, but something was missing. I think he hadn't had a chance to date around. We broke up over distance, fault on both sides but we had had a good run. I was really in love. He acted terribly, though, when he cut the cord. He suddenly stopped responding to me at all and started dating someone else. We didn't talk for a while, then he called me and screamed at me; said he didn't care at all about me. His relationship with her lasted less that 2 months, it ended bitterly. I went through hell in this time.
Now he wants to be friends only, with the possibility of something in the future--maybe. I don't fell like I really know what his motives are. He's not even acting like a friend; emails are argumentative and have NO compassion. I just don't understand what happened to our love....thoughts?
2006-08-24 23:28:35 · 12 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Old habits die hard (true) but its hard to move forward if you keep looking back. It sounds like you still feel love for this man despite everything you have been through with him (past & present) but you need show yourself that love because you are not deserving of his wrath. There are too many men that would be willing to treat you well and appreciate you for you to tolerate his nastiness and you need to make it clear to him that if he wants to be your friend he needs to act like it. (And be willing to discontinue the contact if he continues to with the same behavior.) What he does to you only matters if you allow it. You really need to ask yourself, is this someone you would want a future with because you said yourself he has no compassion and is argumentative. Although I believe people can change, I think waiting around for someone to change is a waste of time. Dont waste your time. He is not deserving of you and until he works through his issue (the bitter break up with his ex) he will always bring you drama because he knows you are willing to put up with it. Good luck.
2006-08-24 23:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is just sowing some oats. He dosent want to completely cut you loose, but rather keep you on a string, in case nothing else works out for him then he can come back and be Mr. nice guy and say, I just need to get all that dating stuff out of my system, and I am done with it etc. Then about 2 months into he will leave you again. Go for someone with a little expierence, or at least someone that is on the same page in life that you are on. Good luck!
2006-08-24 23:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by Harley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 23:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say this all of the time, but I really think it's good advice to remember...
You broke up with him for a reason. (He is your EX boyfriend for a reason.)
Don't go back to him just because it's easy. It sounds like he just wants to make you feel bad and guilty and wants someone around, "just in case" things don't work out with him dating other people.
There are a lot of great men out there, leave this dweeb in the dust and find a good one of your own.
You can always stay friends with him, but let him know it's only ever going to be friendship with no chance of anything else.
2006-08-24 23:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by anabele6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he just wants to push you around, leaving you hoping that one day in the 'future' you might get back together!! why wait for someone insecure like him? he either wants to get back with you or not! i don't see why now his emails are being argumentative if you are friends! what the hell... move on!! forget him!!
2006-08-24 23:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he's still trying to be in control of your feelings...cut him loose for god sake, you need someone who can treat you like a real person with feelings and needs not just someone who's there when he wants you to scream at.
2006-08-24 23:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by lyndles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to hell with waiting for the future to unfold...take matters into your own hand and walk away...you're better off alone...and you don't need him.
2006-08-24 23:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by Gunpowder Monk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say "Bu-bye, I need an adult, and I'm tired of fighting"
2006-08-24 23:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he misses your attention... so he wants you to email him sweetly.. but he'll still be his aggressive self.. leave him alone...
2006-08-24 23:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go your seperate ways- he moved on and so should you. GO LETS GO!
2006-08-24 23:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by flmh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋