she has turned totally rebelious and is now a cutter! how can I help her though the mental pain she is feeling to make her do that?
2006-08-24 22:48:31 · 17 answers · asked by rockinshewolf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first things first let your daughter know your there for her and always will be let her talk to some one like a therepist shes going though a really diffuclt stage in life, she becoming a teenager and is probaly confused about it try talking to her getting on her level these are the times where she needs her mother most !
2006-08-24 22:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're telling my story. I too catered to my daughter's every whim, and about 13 of 14 she began doing just what you're talking about. There are two things that I'd suggest to you. One, get her to a psychologist ASAP. Let them determine what's needed, therapy or medication or both. Then follow whatever advice they give you to the letter. Second, you need to find a therapist. The whole atmosphere your daughter lives in contributes to her condition and, if you don't change it, she can get all the help in the world and it won't correct a thing. What I found out was that, by allowing her whatever she wanted, by running interference for her, by rescuing her from every little mess she got herself into, I was literally robbing my daughter of her dignity. It was a bitter pill to swallow, and it was painful to correct, more so for me than her, but it made a great deal of difference in her behavior and outlook. All the best.
2006-08-25 07:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The show Intervention on A&E did a story on that subject. The girls they interviewed had cut marks on them like nothing I could ever imagine, being a mother of 3 daughters myself. I could not believe what I saw....Don't wait for your daughter to end up like one of those girls. Something isn't right in your daughters life, it could be something going on at school, or maybe it's something that she can't tell you because she is afraid....There are mental health clinics in every state....yours has to have one, maybe in your county. There is no shame in trying to get help for your 13 yr old, that is a hard enough age all by itself. Feel bad for you as a parent, cause it isn't easy... go to your state on line yellow pages and see if there is a clinic and drag her there! She may be mad at you for a few, but in the long run isn't that worth it?
2006-08-25 06:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is like this because of her age,
she has a "cooshie" life as you say so is she responsible for herself?
The worst things we can do as parents is be too kind to our children, if we don't show them what is right they will learn everything wrong from the outside world.
You need to have a conference with her school with her present.
Take her to look at live in schools in your area.
Believe me she will abhore this idea but it may be best for her in the long run.
I went to a live in school when I was 15 & it changed my life for the better.
Remember you are her parent, not her friend!
2006-08-25 07:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear the bus coming to take her to boot camp or military school. That will definitely instill some discipline and respect in her.
As for the cutting, maybe you need to take her to see a counseller or something before it gets way out of hand.
Good luck!
2006-08-25 05:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one question who's the parent and who's the child you let her do what ever now she thinks you are a push over remember we as parents grounded is a hard job but some one has to do it including the dad and no exception to let me go here for this or that say some thing and mean it and stick with it jobs for being back taking scrub the walls in her bed room
2006-08-25 06:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by charprid10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've watched oprah's show on this topic, and she says that teens who cut themeselves are usually reacting from a sort of abuse they have had since a child. it could also be that she's acting out or rebelling or is feeling depressed over something that might not have happened before.
everyone says to take her to a psychologist, i say do it, and do it immediately.
please look at the link below from oprah.com. her guest was a cutter.
2006-08-25 06:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ismelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her ure undivided attention some times ,make time for her because cutting is rediculase and i bet if u do the home work u will find atleast one of her friends is doing it too,stear her away from thies people that think that is the way to get attention.
2006-08-25 05:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by JOHN H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to a shrink... your not a doctor and she wont confide in you anyway at this age....ALL teens turn to monsters for awhile, let become normal people again. I had a teenage daughter once too.
2006-08-25 07:32:52 · answer #9 · answered by debrieanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First educate yourself about this issue. Find a counseller for your daughter as soon as you can.
2006-08-25 05:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by ChampSu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋