I am an indian. i love a guy who s also indian.
we belong to different castes.
his parents are a bit traditionalist. they are not allowing us to get married. though my parents know and have no problems with our marriage.
he is well settled and earning very well.
his parents re hurt and they re not accepting our relation.
he cant go against their will, he cant even think of leaving me.
he has tried his best to explain things to his parents. its 3 days now since he spoke to them about this. but they re stubborn.
we both are stuck..what should he do???
2006-08-24 22:16:05 · 20 answers · asked by Me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the problem is his parents are saying tht either chose us or the girl.
what is he supposed to do?? we both are adults.
its like he's asked either choose your left eye or right eye. which one
2006-08-24 22:17:06 · update #1
i can understand how it feel likes coz im also an indian & ive also got d same problem though we haven't talked 2 our parents yet but we'll also b facing d same problem one day.if u both really luv each other den talk 2 ur boyfriend bout dis & ask him 2 convince his parents & make dem clear dat he'll not marry any other girl accept u. if he really luvs u den he'll wait 4 d time till his parents accept u.all d best & don't loose hopes,take care nd b strong.
2006-08-24 22:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he really loves you he will tell his parents that he has chosen you. I know this would be hard for him and although his family must love him and think they are doing what is right for him they cannot know how he feels about you. They have already been married and lived their lives together [hopefully happy] but you are young and just starting out and deserve the same chance to find happiness and if that means the two of you being together then it is selfish of them not to want it for their son. Perhaps the two of you could go to them together and face this problem, explaining that you are in love and want to share the rest of your life together making each other happy. I wish you the best.......But ultimately ....if he loves you he will choose you. If he doesn't then you are better off without him because he didn't love you enough. Be positive and strong because you must accept whatever he decides. Good luck..
2006-08-24 22:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by dinkydidawn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chose to strike out neither eye.
Don't marry him. Simple as that. Take him off the market and deny his family any heirs and we'll see how they feel about marriage in a few years. In the meantime enjoy loving him. You don't sound like you're at the end of your child-birthing years. Just give them time and let them see how happy you make their son. What more could parents want than that?
2006-08-24 22:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for every problems there is 1solution....I went through the same problem .We were in love from 5 years and know each other a lot ...But his parents was against it as they want him to marry some one who is of same cast .Finally I decided to talk to him instead of carrying like this in two different boat .Either me or his family...And finally we got married ...Of-course his parents was not there my parents did it....And after 1 year now his family accepted me...Only thing was 1 year I have made such a reputation infront of his family that now they trust on me and believe that their son will be more happy with me rather then marring anyone...In short your boyfriend has to play a big role in this...
2006-08-24 22:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by archu v 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
India is a nice country but the caste system SUCKS! It's like sayin' every human there has a different worth,based on what they were born into! Go with your man & hope these people grow up & consider all people to be of the same value!
2006-08-24 22:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Putt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that happens
if he have guts he wont sacrifice coming life for his parents and if he does then forget him,its tough to 4gt sm1,same thing happened with me ,,,, he left me,,,, i cried a lot,the time was worst but i stood up and i was practical enough to understand that he was a mummy's boy and if he cant support me 2dy then blv me he would not b able to support afterwadrs and marriage is not only about love its more about trust and support whch husband wife give to each other.
ask him to take a decision if he comes to you its really good and if he doesn't dont ever look back...then he's not worthed
in life we need to take stand and he has to decide who's more imp 4 him and even you shud learn to love urself.
kp smiling and be ready to face the situation
2006-08-24 22:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking this on an American site so you will get American answers. American parents may not like a choice but most kids will do what they want and could care less what mommy and daddy think. I say do what you want to do because when the babies start being born, you will be in the drivers seat. But, sounds like he is a "mommy's boy" so perhaps you need to find a nice American guy who don't have to have permission to marry. Your customs suck....actually!
2006-08-24 22:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't lie yourself darling...no guy is leaving his parents for the girl of their dreams. They feel too responsible and guilty if they do that. More than they feel by leaving the girl they love. He will most probably tell you "honey, I love you a lot, but can not leave my parents, I have to marry the girl they chose, but it's only you the one I'll ever love all thru my life".
2006-08-24 22:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, being in love is like you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Just loving someone means you care about them a lot, like a friend or a family member (you wouldn't be IN love with a family member! lol)
2016-03-17 02:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg ! you poor little thing to be stuck in such a situation. if you both truly love one another, show them the power of your love. try to persuade them, i guess? its not very good to defy your parents, but to change their mindsets is quite difficult. why not ask his parents and your parents to have a talk together and work things out? i don't know, so i'm just giving in my two cents worth. i hope it helped.
2006-08-24 22:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by missjolintan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋