How to deal with an extremely busy boyfriend?

Question

My Boyfriend is a President/CEO of a company. He travels a lot though he would always remind me that he thinks of me and remembers me all the time but he's just busy. He told me that it's gonna be like this right from the very start. He's making his effort to see me as often as he could and I am trying my very best to understand him. But sometimes, i feel lonely not being able to see him as often as I could. What should I do?

My Boyfriend is a President/CEO of a company. He travels a lot though he would always remind me that he thinks of me and remembers me all the time but he's just busy. He told me that it's gonna be like this right from the very start. He's making his effort to see me as often as he could and I am trying my very best to understand him. But sometimes, i feel lonely not being able to see him as often as I could. What should I do? He does call me all the time and would never fail to reply my sms. I am sure I'm the only one. Time is the only issue. He've got a company to run.

He does call me all the time and would never fail to reply my sms. I am sure I'm the only one. Time is the only issue. He've got a company to run.

Answer 1

I completely understand what you’re going through. It’s really hard to deal with someone who’s constantly on the go. Sometimes you feel angry and hurt and that you’re being neglected. But what’s important is that you let your boyfriend know that you’re feeling this way. Communication is important and he may honestly not know that he’s not spending enough time with you.

And I just read another post that suggested that maybe he’s being unfaithful. It’s a possibility, but I think you shouldn’t jump to conclusions. You should first evaluate the situation. The first question you ask is what is keeping him so occupied? Is it work, family, school, personal problems, etc.? If he has a legitimate reason for his absence, he should have no problem keeping you informed of what’s going on. And if he’s evasive and refuses to answer those questions, then something’s wrong. But of course that’s the worst case scenario.

I think that once you establish what’s really going on. The two of you should come to some agreement. It could be that you have to sacrifice for a short amount of time until things are more stable. Or that despite his busy schedule, you both go the extra mile to maintain emotional and physical intimacy. Basically you should do what works best for your situation.

And remember to be open minded. Even though you’re his girlfriend, the world does not revolve around you. The two of you may have mutually agreed to be committed to each other in mind, body, and spirit. But until you say “I do”, there are no guarantees. And of course maybe his actions will eventually contribute to your relationship in the future. (financially, spiritually, etc.) My best advice is that do what makes you happy. If you’re willing to wait then do it as long as it benefits the relationship. And if you’re unhappy and the relationship is detrimental to your sanity, then move on.

Answer 2

Honey, Let me break it down to you like this. First of all why does this guy being a doctor make any difference? Is that justification for him being too busy to see you or is that justification for you being treated poorly because so many women would love to marry a doctor. I am always suspect when a woman introduces her man by his occupation. They are so proud that they are dating a doctor, a lawyer, an athlete, a garbage collector (well maybe not that one) You don't have a boyfriend. You do have a relationship, but you aren't really sure what kind of relationship it is. You don't say what how often you talk to him on the phone, but for the adults, texting doesn't count. If you aren't talking to him every day, your relationship is casual at best. The busiest guy will make time for a woman he really wants to see. It doesn't sound like you are satisfied being a every two week fwb or you wouldn't have asked the question. If you enjoy time with him great, but obviously other things are his priority, you need to do the same.

Answer 3

I think you just gotta ask yourself if you are comfortable with it or otherwise. Relationship with ambitious/successful people can be extremely strenous and this strain is from both sides. Usually the stable partner gets suspicious and lonely due to the absence of the other; and imagination runs extremely wild. The busy person feels justified; making all the money, doing these great things and basking in the success and achiements for "BOTH OF US"
Truthfully, most of us busybodies really do ENJOY it. We hardly see the reason to drop off everything just because we're in a relationship - sometimes even marriages suffer because of this.
It would have been alot better if you are also moving in high circles, or financialIy capable as this will give you the ability to see him anytime you want, or you feel the need. You also have to have many things to do that will take your mind off this loneliness.
So, think through and be SURE you can deal with this circumstance, because I don't see your boyfriend changing anytime soon.

Answer 4

Find out if this is what you really want. My boyfriend also is very busy over the week. He starts work at 4.30 in the morning and sometimes works til 8.30 at night. This means that he sometimes is too tired to do anything else than eat, have a shower and go strait to bed when he's home. We talk on the phone or send sms but it's not the same as seeing each other. I understand how you feel. I know he loves me and that I'm the only one but it still hurts when you are going out with your friends and he's not with you.
It's hard to deal with, but if you really love each other it will turn out OK. But the only person who has to know how to deal with it is you. Nobody can tell you how to do it.

Answer 5

I kindda have the same problem. There were times when I wanted to broke up with my boyfriend. But things are getting better now & yours could be too I think. You have to remind him that you miss him alot. Sometimes I send my bf poems or letters through email when I know he's working. Spend as much time together & as enjoyable to both of you. Do personal things for him, maybe cook a special dish or let him cook for you, but remind him that your time is as valuable as his, so he doesn't take u for granted. Eventually he'll get more attach& makes more effort to be with you. Good luck.

Answer 6

Even though he is so busy and as a CEO, I think he should know how to manage his time. Because time management is one of the criteria of managing a company. I'll suspect he is not sincere to you, if you have commit sexual relation with him then you have to monitor closely his behaviour towards you. Otherwise, just ignore him for the time being and see whether he look for you.

Answer 7

he told you right up front. A job that he has, is hard to get, and twist as hard to keep. He sounds like a man that knows hard work well pay of in years to come You need to get a Hobey you didn't,t say what kind of job you had get in valved with volunteer work on the side and try to talk to him often and not long winded aether ore he will turn a deaf ear too

Answer 8

Busy always is the good excuse..... how long is your relationship ? Just think of you all the time is not enough ...... Any SMS or e-mail during the trips ? If you can't stand it any longer, quit is the best way..........

Answer 9

1. Ignore him for a period of week....
See if he intends to call you.... If he does, means he loves u...

2. Complain to him....
Ask for more time being with you or even a single dinner with you is also not bad.....

Good luck... May u can be with the CEO forever....
All the best

Answer 10

Try long rain coats with nothing underneath,
visit him at work like that