ok dated my ex on and off stopped talking to her back in may. 2 weeks ago she came back to tell me shes pregnant by another guy and she still loves me and stuff i told her i love my new gf and i cant deal with her anymore. so the following week she comes back again and tells me she wants me out of her life cuz i confus things. i dont get why it hurts. like why does anything she does still hurt me i mean i love my new gf but i dont know why im feeling the way i am. plz help i need it.
2006-08-24 22:06:55 · 25 answers · asked by slaphappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well yes it si goign to hurt because at one time you must have really cared about her and she sounds like a really witch. you sound like a nice guy and you are better off without her.
2006-08-24 22:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by manyhartz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loss, whether it is good or bad, is still a loss. What you are experiencing is known as the grief process in which you will experience several stages -- anger, denial, acceptance, sorrow, etc. It takes some longer than most to move through these stages, but understand that this is a healthy process which only leads to closure. Your ex-gf is probably in a state of panic and will grasp at anything -- including the past -- to find and develop a stable foundation. However, her actions are irrational (now understand she, too, is experiencing grief due to the loss of her youth and freedom). Express sympathy, but do not allow yourself to become absorbed into her emotions which need to be worked our by only herself. It is time for your to move on and enjoy a viable and healthy relationship with your present gf. Good luck.
2006-08-24 22:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by beentheredonethat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are trying to say your pregnant ex-girlfriend wants you back and it hurts to see her hurting for you. It is because you already know you from before and still have feelings stored inside for her. This is normal with someone from past. You need to ask yourself why does she wants you back? If she really did love you that much why is she pregnant with another guys child? It is possible that she really does love you but it is also possible that she is just confused or scared of being pregnant so she is turning to someone from the past that she could rely on, you. To make your decision easier, ask yourself why did you leave her in the first place, why did you guys break up? Stick to those reasons. Get to know your new girlfriend more.
2006-08-24 22:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotions aren't something we can control. Sometimes it just hurts to be alive...
Seems pretty clear though. She's not right for you buddy. After 5 months she turns up and tells you she's pregnant by another guy but wants you in her life, then a week later tells you to leave her alone? She came back, not you - and weren't you already out of her life? She sounds a little bit weird to me and despite the way you feel, you are better off without this one matey. Stay strong and I really hope it all works out for you...
2006-08-24 22:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you still havent let go of the past and deep down inside you still have feelings for her by feelings I mean you have a soft spot for her and she knows it,if you are happy with your gf let your ex gf go shes your ex for a reason so let her and her baby be gone and move on and enjoy your new relationship.
2006-08-24 22:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get over her, man, she sounds like a maniac. She's preggie with another guy so why are you even still talking about her?
You've someone now that's there for you, why waste your time worrying about some other girl that was in your past? from what you're saying, it wasnt even all that great with her. Dude, come on. think about it logically. It's a no brainer.
2006-08-24 22:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are u letting her play u like that? U still love her, yes & she knows, thats why she's playing games with ure heart. If u love ure new gf, then tell ure ex 2 piss off!
She should be sorting out her baby's maintenance with the father anyway! They are harsh words,but they have truth in it- be strong.
2006-08-24 22:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by Luvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurt? You should be doing a dance, can you imagine the hell she must be putting her baby's daddy through? Just be happy you got away from her when you did. Shake it off and enjoy the new found happiness in your current g/f. Life is to short to let someone from the past rob you of your present joys.
-NmD!
2006-08-24 22:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the only reason ur feeling the way u are is coz u still love her maybe ur mind says no u dont bt trust me deep inside u still love her...
if shes having another mans baby then were is he? u sud not feel like u need to take care of her stop feeling sorry for her she knew wat she was getting into so let her learn on her own if u gonna keep trying to b there for her then u wont be able to make a life for ur self u need to stop thiniking of her and try to keep wat u got.. im sure u dont want a repeat of ur pass im sure it was hard to get over it then ....think abt it carefully....
2006-08-24 22:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u still care about her and u might love your new girlfriend but u still care for her and that is ok and u do not no if u want to be with her or not but you should always move forward and never back been there done that and did not work out so move on
2006-08-24 22:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys r like that..u love ur new gf.its just that because she was ur gf before, u have a sense of responsibility towards her, which made u feel hurt if anything harms her. maybe u r still living in ur past. u need to move on, to be fair to ur new gf.
2006-08-24 22:10:45 · answer #11 · answered by nini moreal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋