why to young people put so much emphasis and sex rather than saving it for marriage. there is so much hype related to sex that i trully think it has lost its value you have the one nite, the friend with benefit and ..............! list too long .has anyone eve thought the damage course by pre marital and extra marital sex, you have got the shame, guilty, STI......oh and the decline of fertility rate as a result of STI. why swo much sex talk and hype?
2006-08-24 21:41:34 · 33 answers · asked by Godschick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't know about that. but i do know that i'm saving myself for marriage. I don't believe in religion or god, so it's not because of that. and it's not because of the shame and guilt, but because i think it is something special that you can only share with someone you truly love, and loves you back. and for us to be married, it would mean that we both love eachother and it's even more special that way. and i won't have regrets like the people i know.
2006-08-24 21:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
My question to you is why do you care so much about other peoples sex lives? If people want to have sex outside of marriage who are you to judge them?
Firstly your view goes against nature in a big way. We are all sexual beings whether our societal views allow for this or not. Do you really believe that there has been a decline in fertility due to STI's? Or could it possibly be that now we have the technology and the media to let people know why they cannot have children. I think that the whole world has got so conservative. Sex has just become a marketing tool, but I don't think that people are having more sex.
How on earth has sex lost its value? The value of sex is different every time you do it, and is different to every individual. Perhaps its lost value to you, but I personally don't think that sex has a universal value. It is personal/subjective.
I personally never want to get married, so if I waited I would be a sex starved crazy woman! There is nothing wrong with waiting though, but like I said I don't want to marry so waiting isn't an option for me. Some of my friends that are christians have though. People say that the youth of today are just all shagging away like there is no tomorrow, that is just blaitently untrue.(Unfortunately!!!)
I am 22 and some of my friends are still virgins (even some non-religious ones) its not a big deal, as my friends with long term boyfriends are the only ones out of our big friendship group that have sex regularly. No we are not all pig ugly! We just don't as a general rule sleep around. I personally think that being in such a big group is intimidating to men, so we don't get approached as much.
These are my thoughts on the subject!!
2006-08-24 22:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex, is one of the urges of u r body, just like u need water when u are thirsty , need food when hungry, like wise body needs sex to satisfy its urge, its a very common thing. Now about the hype , yes much has been said and done when an urge becomes lust.. Man is a social animal, so he has created some rules to keep society going, institution of marriage is one of such creation, to keep man away from multi partner sex, vagabond sex which prevailed in barbaric society, so marital and extra marital sex is also a product of man made rules. But still sex is something very common, and its need of u r body so do not treat it as a hype!!!
2006-08-24 22:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by dhansuma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why so much hype on saving it for marriage, like it's a sin?
Women did this in the past - young men were taken to prostitutes by their fathers (oh lovely - imagine what they picked up there to pass on to their pure wives)The women (and most of the men, come to think of it) had no skills, only hang-ups and were invariably disappointed with sex when it happened because they didn't know how to handle themselves, and then found they were stuck with the ba****ds. Two frustrated people in a rubbish relationship.
Just educate people not to take risks.
Sex is sex - it only has any actual value when it is done with love, and that is something that is never lost regardless of our pasts.
I blame the parents personally.
2006-08-24 21:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is peer pressure occassioned by media hype and sex symbol thing of stars. Unfortunately people dont mind. Neither do they ever reflect on the consequencies. People only become sober when someone close to them suffers from AIDS, STI, Infertility etc as a result of reckless sexual life.
My advice is keep yourself till that day and you would be better for it. Dont listen to all the hype about sexual liberation. It is a way of making what is dangerous look palatable and acceptible.
2006-08-24 21:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by mirch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not so much an emphasis as it is the way things are..... for what ever reason the powers that be have decided that kids are not allowed to be kids anymore... hell have you seen those teenagers lately hell they look like they could be in there 20's... damn...
as for the sex it self well the world is slowing seeing that sex is liberating and human nature... as for marrage hell that went out in the 50's didn't it? i mean really it is such a scam now adays that its truely not worth the time and energy.
think about it most people only get married for the wedding and one day of parting that costs thousands of dollers does not constitue a marrige... i mean really what does marriage even mean anymore.... you go on and on about sex but that is just the mechanics of a situation.
when you need to look at why this is happening and why marriage is such a joke.....
2006-08-24 21:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirlsliketoride2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sooooo narrow minded. Why do all you religious nuts think that sex is a sin and something to be ashamed of?
As long as both people are of age, consenting, having safe sex there is NO PROBLEM with this.
Sex has been around FOREVER. It's natural and seems to me that it's YOU who has the obsession with it.
I'm not against marriage or waiting to have sex with MR Right but it annoys me when you talk about shame, like sex is something dirty and taboo, it's not and if people were more open about it, children could be educated better about it, which would result in less teenage pregnancies, STD, etc etc.
2006-08-24 21:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok i have had sex before marriage and i don't feel any guilt what-so-ever as each time it has been when in a loving relationship, and i even have a child out of one relationship, which i love despite the fact i am not with the father anymore....
it may have lost its value slightly as more people have 'easier access' to it but that still doesn't compare to when you find someone you deeply care for and do it.....
not everyone are the same remember, some people do wait, others sleep around for fun at the end of the day it is up to the individual
2006-08-24 23:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you find a couple that was a virgin on their wedding night,
and have been 100% faithful for 20 years or more, then you can
ask them your question. I only wish that I could merge the things
that I find desirable from all of my past lovers into one woman,
but I know that I will never find a woman that will have all of the
things of my past g/f. People change everything in there life all of
the time. We in the USA believe in NEW AND IMPROVE. You
will find the biggest pervert in the Catholics Church.
2006-08-24 21:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by mrshowtime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because marriage is overrated and so is sex. But sex is easier to get than a marriage. And cheaper too. Marriage is just a scam anyways, to cater to other people that dont matter in the relationship.
2006-08-24 21:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by Darcia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't know anything about that, and certainly I did not save my virginity till I get married, but one thing I agree about is that you should save yourself until you find the right person. And I am sure that when you find the right person you will change your attitude. Sex between two persons is not a casual thing. You would want to make love to your loved one to show your trust, your respect and love!
2006-08-24 21:55:27 · answer #11 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋