Tell her or Not???

Question

well i have 2 sisters and they both are older than me one by a month and the other by a year.i love my sisters but my oldest one has a big problem with trust. she told a lot of other family members a big secret that i told her not to tell nobody too. she really hurt me alot and on top of that she goes around lying on me. telling people things that i didnt say. then my other sister i feel like she is starting to betray me because she doesnt act like she use to towards me like she would say little slick comments here and there. now it feels like both of my sisters are against me, i know i should tell them how i feel but i dont know how without hurting their feelings cause i am known for telling someone how i feel reguardless if i hurt thier feelings or not but i care about them so how should i tell them how i feel without things becoming ugly. please real advice it would really help!!!

Answer 1

How can one sister be older by a month? doesnt it take 9 months before u could of popped out?

Answer 2

They certainly aren't taking your feelings into consideration, so why worry about theirs? I'd tell her. In fact if it was me, I'd open up a can of verbal whoop *** on her. It sounds like you've been plenty gracious enough in tolerating their behaviour thus far to deserve a chance to tell them exactly how much you resent what they've done so far, and put them on notice that you will no longer be their doormat.

As for things getting ugly, it sounds like they already are? That you would even take their feelings into consideration at this point after what they've put you through tells me you are not the kind of person who deserves to be treated so meanly.

Things to avoid: swearing and cursing, name-calling and foul-language or silly comparisions to Hitler. (Once you go there, you've already lost the battle and anything you say will only smack of desperation.) Take the moral high-ground instead, and whatever you do, stay calm. You're right, they're wrong. Don't shout or raise your voice, either because volume is no substitute for conviction.

I hope this was helpful :) Good luck to you!!

Answer 3

I am sorry for such a confusing situation, only if they were strangers it would be more easier to handle but at times things to get out of control.

But you do not need to worry things will be ok. The best thing for you to do is to be a little patient and keep calm as such things do not last for long and there will be a way to break the silence.

If you try to ask any of your sisters this ca go too bad as maybe both of them know about it but definitely they will be defensive about it.

So let things calm and you will find a way out of this by trying to talk to them when they are calm.

Do not hit the iron when its hot.

I wish you all the best but patience will pay.

Answer 4

You can not control the feelings of another human being. You can take control of your own .... and when you feel hurt, angry, happiness or love then you need to express it so you can feel at ease!

Open communication and honesty is the best policy. Be honest with your family. How they decide to react to your feelings will be left in their court. You need to then focus on yourself.

Take care and hope everything works out for the best!

Answer 5

well,
you can try to get both of them and sit down and talk to them about how you feel. You shouldn't feel like they're against you/ And if things do get ugly, there's always the 'run in the bathroom and wait till it cools down' but that might not be as effective as flat out telling them how you feel regardless of what they do. If it's really bad, i think you should tell them straight.

Answer 6

Start with something positive that you appreciate of your relationship with them. Talk to them and focus on yourself. Don't tell them all the things that they're doing wrong...speak about what you feel and what you want.

For example : Instead of saying "You are a lier and you make me angry" say : "I have always flet close as your sister but I feel sad when you tell lies about me and this makes me feel that you are against me"

Good Luck :)

Answer 7

Damm sounds like my family, you should probably sit down with the two of them and another person. the other person so that no one can twisting the truth, just let them know you miss the way they were when you could trust them explain to the like they are little kids maybe they will understand that way. But be honest.

Answer 8

That makes you different from your stupid sisters, you are a nice person and despite of all you are still humiliating yourself and try to settle everything! Well, talk to them and that remains to be seen!The best thing to do is make a distance from them but never treat them as other people but instead,don't tell story and never trust them anymore! They are the losers and not you! Good luck!

Answer 9

go to them and say ***i love you and say to the other sister i love you too. then proceed to tell them that your feelings have been getting hurt, because of their behavior and that you look up to them in life but at the moment t he way things are going, your starting to feel that instead of looking up to them you feel like going away from them ,and say to them that you don't want things to be crap, because life can be crap and the last thing you need is for your own family to be crap when the worlds enough to get through, and ask if you can all just be sisters again and forgive and forget and help each other through life,not battle each other through it.............good luck

Answer 10

first of all, you had me confused with the fact that your sister is a month older that you... how can that be? But back to your question... just tell them, I'm sure they love you as much as you love them and they might not really be doing it on purpose to hurt you...

good luck!