For mommy's,and daddy's?

Question

Do you feel your mate or spouse give equal help taking care of the children,and house work etc.?Maybe even more then you do?

Answer 1

My husband is great. he works full time but when he is off he spends his days right beside me helping me to get the house clean, running errands etc (he even cleans the toliet and windows). On the days he works he will clean the kitchen after supper. He also does all of the yard work and will work with one child on homework while I help the other, he helps get all three kids up and ready for school in the morning, is at every doctor's appointment, school conference, we are both my sons cub scout leader and he still helps me with my daughters girl scout troop and all the soccer games that have to run to. He will put on the music and work with my daughter for her dance recitals and go out and shoot hoops with the 14 year old to get her game where it needs to be. I would say I have the perfect partner especially since all of these are his step-kids, their father never took this much of a role in their life or our home.

Answer 2

Actually not every spouse will have equal help on everything especially housework.. On children no need to tell, mostly by the mummy, daddy will be helping playing with them when mummy is busy doing housework.. On housework mostly also done by mummy coz daddy is not the one who is cooking as a result not sure where are all the things were put, washing dishes, throw rubbish, wash car and wash car porch will do for daddy..

But some daddy are different, they will do even more than you do on housework.. I knew one, he is my father.. Everyday he work, he cook for the family, clean the hse, wash his car, even laundry.. And I was so jealous of my mother who married a guy like that and I wish my husband have half of my father's characther and that would be nice..

Answer 3

Try being married to a primary school teacher. My husband does what he can. He does the dishes, takes out the garbage most of the time, shops for groceries, does the laundry (halfway), takes our son to the park during the summer months,.reads to him at night when I'm at work and sometimes during the day if I have an errand or appointment, cooks very simplistic meals, and occasionally gives him a bath. He does help set-up birthday parties, and dinner gatherings at Christmas etc.

I also do all of the above, plus I am largely responsible for our son's social life and activities. I take him on play dates, set up play dates, plan special events like birthday parties and dinner parties, take him for swimming and piano lessons, practice piano with him, take him to recreational swimming, the zoo, and most other fun places for kids, play games with him and help him with his writing and numbers. During the school year I go talk to the teachers during parent and teacher night, and meet with new teachers. My husband can';t do these things because he meets with parents on his own parent teacher night, etc. which happen around the same time as our son's.

It's great that you've asked that question because I often complain that my husband does not do enough. He does what he is able to do. We both work. I do however wish he was more involved in our son's activities, or that we do things as a family, rather than just mommy taking him most of the time.

Oh, yeah. As far as actual cleaning of the house we've both been kind of letting it go. I do clean the bathroom, but not other things. In the summer I don't like staying in doors. I'd rather spend time with my son doing leisure activities. Leisure activities take time, when you take into account the travelling time, the activity itself, lunch and sometimes dinner while out. Summer is too short. My husband doesn't really like to do chores during the summer because he's catching up on things he didn't get a chance to do during the school year because of his job.., He puts in a great deal many hours outside of the classroom, in order to do his job well.

Answer 4

I'd have to say we DEFINATELY do equal share. Up until the begginning of this year my hubby was working full time, and i took care of the homefront......cooking cleaning etc etc, but we always made an equal effort- he did the clothes washing and the dishes ( yes washing and wiping!!) now the roles are reversed, and he does most of the house (i still cook coz i love to do it) we take turns with our son, every 2nd night he baths him gets him ready for bed etc....... but then, I always knew that i found a gem!!!!

Answer 5

my spouses involvement is nowhere near equal but then again he works full time and does a lot of his own stuff himself. he irons his own clothes, gets his coffee and breakfast done before I am even awake (I go late to bed with baby and other chores), he makes his own snacks (knowing I have other stuff to do), so it sort of equals out. he is a great husband in so many other ways that i dont care if he doesnt clean up after the baby.

Answer 6

LOL no. I've been married for four years and my husband has never done the dishes. Plus I don't think he even knows where i keep the vacuum. but I dont work and he does. Also he is an amazing Daddy and plays with the kids when he gets home.

Answer 7

every once in a while, i dream that i get to have a day-off from housechores and from the children.

but then, being a mother is a 25hour-8 days a week work, so no matter where you are or what you do, your heart and soul calls out to do your duties as a mom.

so after having four kids with my husband, i have already accepted the fact that in marriage, each has his own work to do.

Answer 8

Not at all. But then, he works crazy hours and I'm a stay at home Mom. So my job is the house. He'll come home and run a load of dishes for me and I appreciate that. Pretty much the only other things (cleaning wise) I ask of him is to put his dirties in the laundry basket and to please PLEASE leave the laundry to me! One too many bleach boo boos and he's no longer allowed near my washing machine cause its always my clothes he ruins! He's great with the kids, especially on weekends and when I'm exhausted.

Answer 9

My wife and I both work full time, we split things pretty evenly when I am not traveling for work.

I just get kinda pissed when she thinks I should do more when I get home from a trip, like it was my fault.

I make more than twice her salary so it is not like I can just switch jobs and we would be ok.

But I cook, clean, do dishes, vacuum, and keep the yard and garden running. So I do my share when I am home.

Answer 10

My husband doesn't because he works full time, but he does take care of our son after dinner so I can have some down time, and he takes him for the day when I have a girls day out on a weekend