I left my bf after 5 years for no real reason, we were great, but I guess I wanted something new, more exciting and wanted to feel like a woman which I cudnt with him - having a new love in my life now by the way. After 6 months my ex is still down, sending me signs he is still waiting for me. How could I be happy with my present bf when I'm sick of guilty feelings?
2006-08-24 19:41:41 · 24 answers · asked by Lex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it takes a while to mive on especially if you were with him for a long time the feeling does eventually go away though, try not to think about it to much (I know easier said then done) Try to keep your self busy maybe take sometime for your self instaed of jumoping into a new realtionship.. Also tell him NO contact untill you are ready one reason you feel so guilty is becasue you did love him & you broke his heart he needs to under stand that your heart was broke to & for both hearts to heal you need time & space, which means no contact whatso ever.. Good luck & I promise it does go away
2006-08-24 19:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by bite_me_harder_28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on guys yous are being a bit harsh on her. But it would be even worse if she stayed with him out even though she didnt feel right about it.
I think you did the right thing girl and maybe the best thing to do is meet up with your ex for a chat. Explain to him exactly why you ended the relationship and apologise it didnt work tell him you can be mates if he wants but thats all. Dont give him any false hope or make him think you may change your mind in the future dont leave him dangling. Maybe thats why he still cant let go because you didnt have a long chat about it. Thats all you owe him dear just a proper explanation and maybe closure.
Good luck misses
2006-08-25 06:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by Honestopinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be Honest with you I think you need to express the feelings you are having with your ex and tell him that there are others out there that can possibly make it work with him and you just don't see the two of you ever getting back with eachother because there's someone else .His answer if you tell him let's be friends would be you can never be friends with someone you love .That's where your response would be then the only option is taking it one day at a time and trying to forget the heartache and move on which you have done with your life so he should do the same.
2006-08-25 02:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by shalimaali2906 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant move on if you let your guilty feelings get in the way..The best that you could do is give yourself some good space from a relationship, then discern fully of what you have made of yourself and what you have done! With that settled, take the next steps and forget your ex if you truly love the present..Goodluck to you!
2006-08-25 02:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by jolly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your guilt stem from the fact that you met your 'new love' whilst you were with the old BF? guilt only comes when you have done wrong if you didn't do wrong then you're just feeling sorry for him so you have two solutions. If you done wrong be honest with him, this'll make him realise that he doesn't wanna be with someone that will cheat on him and he'll stop pining for you. Or if you did no wrong tell him you feel bad but he just didn't square up to your expectations for excitement and you've gone eslewhere to get that excitement. He either needs to toughen up and move on or be told the truth so he no longer holds a torch for you.
2006-08-25 05:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with ur past & feeling. Past memories are hard to get ride off , especially 5 years. Give him a chance & doing so u give urself a chance of not losing memories of dear things because if u do, it will come back to hunt u forever.
2006-08-25 02:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, why are you in contact with your ex??? When you break up...you MOVE on. Dont share the same friends, ignore him at parties, be a TOTAL *****, i mean you were selfish when you broke up with him, you can be selfish now.
C'mon this guilt you're feeling...its nothing. Eventually it'll fade away, and if it doesnt... it'll ruin your present relationship! BEWARE!
2006-08-25 02:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by nat04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you gal.I wonder how women like you could easily find another one to "love" and dump them once you get bored of them.I can only say one thing.YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LOVE IS BECAUSE YOU ONLY CARE ABOUT YOURSELF.Trust me...you are the type of girl who would go on hurting other guys.Someday you are going to be in the same shoes.YOU WILL REAP WHAT YOU SOW.
2006-08-25 03:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by Peacelover78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you broke up with him it means to me the relationship was not strong so that's a reason, otherwise you still would be with him. forget about your guilt, he has to move on, six months is a long time for him to still be down, or he might need just a little extra time.
2006-08-25 02:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you owe your ex an apology and tell him why you left, and hope that he can forgive you, so that way that you can forgive yourself. I don't think that he should forgive you, I am sure that you hurt him, and if it was reversed, would you forgive him. You feel guilty because you know that you did wrong by him...
2006-08-25 02:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋