How to raise children so the younger one will always respect the elder one?

Question

We have 2 children both are boys. Since they were young we have been trying to be fair with no bias when it comes to loving and caring. Both are now working but they still have jealousy if one does better than the other. The elder must always give way to the younger one. We don't like to see this happenings. We try to tell the younger one to change this attitude towards his brother. We have been telling them they are brothers and they must love and take care one another. This is what we would like to see from them. So far there are signs of loving between them. We still wonder how some parents can raise their children to respect one another, especially the younger one will respect and obey the elder one simultaneously. We don't know how they could do it.

Answer 1

Respect usually comes in time.

I am the eldest and fought like cat and dogs with my younger siblings. I resented being made responsible for them.

However, with age comes maturity. I now respect that they have their own trials and tribulations.

All you can do is make sure that you re-enforce to your kids that you love them both dearly and equally. Most of the time, jealousy stems from this. Tell them often. Tell them seriously, tell them in jokes, but tell them.

Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all they are boy's and will not show emotion like you would expect. They will ruff house and fight. But just let some other kid try it with one of them and they will defend each other. The older boy is being considerate of the younger because he knows he may not understand every thing he does. Does that make sense? I used to give in to my sister because she was younger and learning things I already knew. They are brothers and the love will just happen. If you want them to respect the elders the teach by example.

Answer 3

Obey? Probably won't happen much. Respect? Not so much until they've moved away from each other. You're doing the right thing by them, and they're doing what boys are going ot do. They'll grow out of it.

And trust me, those "perfect" kids you see aren't so perfect at home...

Answer 4

i am 19 and my older brother is 23 there is never going to be fairness everyone knows the younger one is loved more and gets more presents and what not. i got my brothers bongo monkey when i was younger i am the favorite one. plus me and my brother get in lots of fights especially long story over an ex girlfriend. i didnt speak to him for about 2 years because of a girl thing trouble we had. hey get ready for your boys to grow up and when they are teenagers tisk tisk keep them locked in a cage. im a teen trust me in today's world teen guys are liars. we lie to our parents nomatter how well they raised us.

Answer 5

We have four children and they all interact differently. Two always wrestle, one bosses, one whines, etc. They're all just different. It sounds like you are instilling good qualities, but I'm afraid you're hoping for a Utopian existence. Ideally your children should behave in this manner, but in reality, "kids are kids". You'll get it figured out, and so will they, and, and I really don't think you're damaging their little psyches.

Answer 6

It's sibling rivalry. You are right; teach them to love and take care of one another. You are wrong; it's has nothing to do about who is older and deserves more respect. Hang in there, don't push it, it all works out in the end.

Answer 7

i dont know what to answer to that cause most kids i take care of listen obediently and are all really good kids so i dont know what to say im really sorry i couldnt help

Answer 8

Most of the children I know that behave that way weren't raised in the US.

Answer 9

the question is too long