and we are talking like u had 5 or 20 or more relationships and this person who asked you is someone whom you really like and want to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-08-24 19:03:59 · 37 answers · asked by GYY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't discuss these subjects with the person I am dating. It's not beneficial to our new relationship and only breeds doubt, insecurity and fear. Why go there? Spend your energy in positive directions and only discuss situations that will help build your relationship, not tear it down. You want to make each other feel secure. The past is the past.
2006-08-24 19:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by chimpstarweasel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I haven't had that many relationships, but if I had, I would tell the truth. If you plan on spending the rest of your life with that person, and that person is not an idiot, they'll find out anyway. Lets say you tell them you had 5 relationships. Then your new life partner hears about 2 of your ex's from one of your friends, 2 more from someone who doesn't have your best interest at heart, finds a photo of you with a different ex, and then you bump into another one while the two of you are at a store. If your new life partner can count, then you've got some explaining to do because your numbers don't add up anymore. And you'll have that argument for every new ex partner that happens to creep in thereafter. Bad idea. I'd go with the truth.
2006-08-24 19:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jordan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy and if you think by telling that person the truth it will hurt him then you have two things you need to sit back and think.
1- Your guilt knowing having that many relationships is wrong.
2- You are hurting your own dignity.
You can see people but you don't have to have deep relationships with them.
However, if you will be spending the rest of your life with him you ought to be honest from now because if he finds out later it will be bad.
2006-08-24 19:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by Shantal F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes--they probably know, or could find out if they want...they will appreciate truth more than deception. They will see that even though you may have been clueless in your dating life that you still have integrity and tell the truth when confronted on something. Those are the type of people that are worth spending a lifetime with.
2006-08-24 19:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by Josh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth? If you really like this person then you would want to start it off with honesty. Seriously, if you want to be with this person and are afraid of this persons reaction then maybe you need to reevaluate your history and only count those who you would really consider as former mates. Real feelings and Emotionally challenged relationship. Remember a weekend of insane attention and no phone call on Monday is not a boyfriend/girlfriend
2006-08-24 19:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by Bobbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in honesty. I would want to know why the person is asking though. Is the person afraid of getting a STD or that you may still have feelings for another. I would make it clear that the other relationships were just stepping stones that lead you to this true love in your life. If the person still wanted to know then I would tell.
2006-08-24 19:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell the truth. You cannot judge people accordning to how many people they have slept/been with.
Sometime guys/girls sleep with many people because they have been hurt in some way or the other and associate sex with love. By the time they realise this the list is too long.
your partner needs to think about the present and future not past.
all the best
2006-08-24 23:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by dino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell the truth. Even if i had many in the past, it should not affect our feelings for each other. Trust is very important in a r/s. If he/she asks, he/she shld be ready to accept any answers. If I really like this person, I'll tell her/him the truth. It is this trust that bring the r/s further... Be honest..
2006-08-24 19:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by monokye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the one your going to spend the rest of your life with,why lie.coz if you start lying before your married you will always lie to him.so be a good spouse and tell him the truth and nothing but the truth so help you God.
2006-08-24 19:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by tshol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends how long you have been going to gather and if he tells you he is deeply in love with you as you are with him back to the beginning you should be on the up and up with him and he also should be. But real life sometimes fall through THE CRACKS. the blood tests will be all he should be interested in when the time comes to say I DO your life to gather started when you started dating and if he loves you then that should not mater who or what was in the passed. now if you still have contacts with some of them that is up to you try and but your self in his possession
2006-08-24 19:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by charprid10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋