because whenever I try to talk to any girl at all, I always seem to get on their bad side, and i never say anything offensive or mean or rude, I just don't get it.
2006-08-24 18:53:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've found that when meeting new people two things almost always work.
(Even if you already know them in school.)
1.) People like to talk about themselves.
You just find something she is interested in and then ask her to tell you some of the fun things about it. What are the challenges or goals she would like to achive etc. Show some ginuine interest. Use her name alot in conversations.
2.) People like to be around people who make them laugh.
This could be tricky. Being funny without being too silly . Don't put others down just to make a joke.
I hope this will help and I hope I I didn't confuse you more than you were!
Also try to be confident, (even if you aren't)
Good luck! And Remember girls are from another planet!
2006-08-24 19:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Richard J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, young Alex J, are you a smart aleck? critical? too smart, a "god-like" being classmates look up to, or just too distant?
HOW TO APPROACH A GIRL:
1. if she is in your class, easy, talk about a topic discussed in class, "did you like Mr. so+so's discussion on the Communist Manifesto"
2. Are you approaching the right girls, ones who understand your jargon? FIND THE RIGHT PEOPLE!
3. compliment girls and don't stare... "the eye"-- I really enjoyed your poem, nice playing the clarinet, the pamphlet you made on the Czech Republic was great, the graphics were cool...
4. Smile and offer a hand with things... (for instance, I had my locker stuck on day...)
5. Be open and not judgmental... say your opinion, but don't force it upon others.
** Hope this helps... BE happy, girls are approachable.
2006-08-24 19:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by starrynight107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are not boys. You can't talk to them the same way. Here's a trick: Talk to them in very short bursts. That way you don't have time to mess up. "You say "Hi, Jane," very casually and keep walking. If she likes you, or even if she can bear to breathe the same air as you, she will say "Hi, Mike". Once you have this initial response, the next time you see her you can add "What's up?" or whatever passes for cool in your age group. She'll say "Not much," or similar. Keep doing this. After a few days, add little things on. Before you know it, she'll think of you as a friend, and soon enough, you'll be able to have a real conversation with her without wanting to vanish into the floor. Good luck and let us know how you get on.
2006-08-24 19:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh it quite is why you do not hearken to adult adult males... ok sweetie right it really is my suggestion. have you ever tried getting approval from her grandparents first? you spot without there approval you 2 can by no skill be at liberty at the same time. you 2 are so youthful or maybe with the very undeniable actuality that they are strict that is frustrating love. they love her and do not want her to make blunders because believe it or no longer you're a large temptation. Im so sorry you'll want to to be faraway from her yet take your time. Be a pal to her round her grandparents and earnings their believe through going over and helping them with issues. That way you may artwork on getting their believe and being which includes her at the same time. No concerns you'd be effective.
2016-11-27 20:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by parvin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen.
Be interested in them.
Don't talk about sex...you don't have to.
Be courteous and a gentlemen.
Be neat and smell good.
Be smart and educated.
Get the picture?
Women can be wonderful and much more than bodies.
Look for that side and the rest will follow.
2006-08-24 18:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no there isnt. i think its so simple but boys dont realize it. just be yourself. tell her why you're talking to her. if you meet a girl at a club dont just be like "hey girl how you doin"..go up to her and say something like "hey i saw you walking around and i don't want to sound very forward or anything but you're very cute.i was wondering if i could have your screenname.." guys who ask girls for their numbers..ugh i think thats so sleezy. i would never give a random guy my real number..but if he was that honest and asked for my screenname instead i would definitely give it. it sucks because the guys who can talk to girls are jerks and the ones who cant are the nicest guys you'll ever meet. any how i think if you can go upto a girl and just be honest and tell her that you arent trying to just get laid..she just might start talking to you. =) hope that works..my friend tried that and it worked for him!
2006-08-24 19:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by umm hi<333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know, there's no secret....us girls just like to be talked to with respect and honesty. Be yourself, and casual....don't try to overdo it to start with
2006-08-24 19:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by dazed.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret is being confident in yourself. I know this by experience.
2006-08-24 18:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Coche 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Language barrier.
2006-08-24 18:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there are any secrets and if there are well then that's to bad.
2006-08-24 19:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by Female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋