This troubles me since it is so close to where I live, but more than that I am so sad for this man and his family. He was a really nice and helpful person. He would go out of his way to help me and friends and spoke so lovingly of his children. I can't believe he was killed. I'm just so sad. Thanks for listening.I guess the question is just any suggestions to stay positive or how to cope with feeling so depressed when it was someone I only had small interactions with. I guess I am just a little spooked. Thanks again.
2006-08-24 18:22:35 · 25 answers · asked by citygirl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I just want to say thank you to all the people who were so sincere and took the time to share their thoughts with me.
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2006-08-24 18:57:47 · update #1
Sometimes life gets cut short and we don't understand
Maybe it is because he may have for filled his duty here on Earth and has gone to rest before we are called up
All I can say is that God will help you get through if you but ask Him........
I hope this helps you and brings you some comfort
2006-08-24 18:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by snuggels102 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you'd be having trouble with this. It is hard. Don't feel that you shouldn't be sad just because he was someone you didn't know well. Death is difficult to deal with, even if it's a stranger, and especially if it's a violent death. It's perfectly normal to be sad and, as you say, spooked. If you're a person of faith, try talking to a clergy member. They are trained to help in situations like this. Talk to a trusted friend. Write out your feelings in a journal, or in a letter to the deceased man. Writing a letter that you never mail can help work through feelings and give you a sense of closure. Most of all, take care of yourself. Recognize that you're a little fragile at this time, and surround yourself with people and things that make you happy. If, in a few weeks, you aren't feeling a lot better, then you might try talking to a professional such as a grief counselor. Good luck to you, hon. Take care.
2006-08-25 01:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by pvpd73127 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions like this is forcing you to acknowlege the fragility of ALL life....human and non human. It also places before you the fact that you too must leave this body. I can be disturbing, painful, frightening.
This would be a good time though to use this new awareness in a loving way.
By understanding death, you embrace life with mor passion AND compassion.
To rid yourself of the sadness and depression...DO something kind for someone every day. Send the man's family a loving card, have a car wash or bake sale and give the money to the family, pray for them, offer to clean her house every other month with a few other neighbors, be a friend to her and the children.
Walk your life NOW in greatfullness for the way that man made you feel as a person so that when your time comes, others will care for you as you did him.
"For though you leave this vehicle, another of pure light you inhabit...God's very light"
2006-08-25 01:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anna C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People never think that death is something that can happen to them. It's usually something that only happens to other people.
However, when it happens to "other people" , especially a person who worked close to where you live, it causes you to think about your own mortality. It also makes you think about the fact that one day you also will die, and perhaps in an unexpected manner such as this man did.
Life is short whether we are here a day or 80 years, so be grateful for what you have, return the love you receive, be forgiving of others' mistakes, extend a helping hand to those in need, and always embrace life to the fullest, come what may.
2006-08-25 01:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by DG 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my neck of the woods we just had a 24-yo grab a Deputy's gun, shoot him, kill a hospital security guard, then kill another deputy during the manhunt. The great lesson isn't what most will say, that life is precious, but the opposite: life isn't precious; it's cheap, it's so easy to lose, and it doesn't matter. Enjoy what you have, that part of the "precious" crowd is correct, but don't sweat it. Life is but a dream; everyone must wake eventually. Perhaps the Greeks can help: "The closest a man can come to cheating Fate is to choose the time and manner of his own death."
2006-08-25 01:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by elbowfreek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty natural to have these feelings when tragedy strikes same one who we have had any relationship with. Violent death is something that happens to others or on TV. When it comes home we are frequently unprepared. Part of the reason is that we fear that if it happened to "this person" it could happen to us. The more you know about the person such as his family the more grief it will project as you feel sad for them also. Some stranger dies on TV or across town and you hardly react. Well it is very likely that nothing like this is going to happen to you or those in your neighborhood so try to avoid worrying about that. As for the fellows family you might want to do something to show them that you cared. Doing something like that will be of benefit to you and the family members.
2006-08-25 01:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some things happen that we have no control over. It is everywhere. But, we need to remember the ones who suffer and die with respect. It is sad to see someone you know, killed and there is great sadness for his family, but anything you can do to ease their pain would help you to overcome your sadness also. Perhaps you can babysit one night, so Mom can have some time to herself or perhaps take them to a movie or lunch, let the Mom know that you thought he was a wonderful person perhaps in a card.
2006-08-25 02:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by flordsn@qwest.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just know that he is in a better place where no one can ever hurt him again and upon death his spirit was returned to GOD. and also know that GOD will not let this person get away with it no bad deed goes un punished. some people think god doesn't do a thing but he does. ask any wrong doer how well his life is going then ask any one who has done even the smallest good deed. every one who is good gets rewarded they may not realize it at the time but they do. and every evil doer also gets whats coming to him or her. i would sugest to you to help his family any way you can and god will replace this sadness with joy
2006-08-25 04:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by unitedfaith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, we are at the end-times.
Just know that these loving people will be with you forever in Heaven. And nothing will take them away again.
I miss my Grandfather.
I grew up in a home that was full of alcohol and abuse, mental, physical, and sexual.
Mst of the only real good memories I have surround him.
I will truly be in Heaven when disease and harm can no longer effect us.
I will pray for you tonight.
2006-08-25 01:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by James F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u can send his family flowers and a card to let them know how sorry u are. im sorry, hopefully he's in a better place now. just try and do things that kept u happy or busy if u have time to think about how sad things are u won't get better. try to go out with friends try and have some fun and celebrate life.
2006-08-25 01:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋