when im around people i dont or even sometimes people i do know but just dont see on a daily basis im so up tight around them and not relaxed enough to be my goffy down to earth self how do i get the mental state to be myself whenever and all the time
2006-08-24 18:20:02 · 7 answers · asked by blueeyes3313 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The reason you feel this way is because you lack self confidence. This is not uncommon. Concentration on the following will help you overcome this. Start by sitting back and taking a good in dept look at yourself from within. I mean take a hard good look. Discover what are your strong points and what your weakness and fears are. By doing this you can face and overcome them. Look at what you like most about yourself and what you dislike about your self. Present the positives forward and work hard to develop ways to face and strengthen your weaker points.
Remember you have as much value as the next person...or even more. Don't let fear of being wrong hold you back. This is how you learn. Do not be afraid of being laughed at. It is not a big thing. Whatever the situation hold your head high and carry yourself with dignity. Be proud of who you are(I mean really) it will show character and pride.
Setting goals is the key. Decide where you want to be six months from now...then a year...five years. This is the only way to creat and obtain self acheivement. You can do it...but you have to start now.
If you are in school take advantage of all the learning you can get. Ask questions in class...if people laugh, let them...you are about learning...do not be ashamed. Keep your eyes on the BIG PICTURE...which is set some goals in life so you can become a productive person who can take care of himself. Now is the time to start...not tomorrow
2006-08-24 19:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could make a point of saying something to people you see regularly but don't really know, like the guy at the grocery store or the girl at Starbucks. Not flirting or anything, just a small-talk kind of question, like, "Nice weather we're having" or something like that. If you can get more comfortable with them, then being comfortable with your acquaintances should be easier. Just my thoughts. Good luck.
2006-08-25 01:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by pvpd73127 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it slow and easy, and relax. My problem is I get nervous and not able to think what to say sometimes. I have to slow down and not spit stuff out and have it make no sense.
2006-08-25 01:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by nerdboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be your goofy down to earth self and others will love you...we don't have enough goofy people in this world and they are by far the most fun to be around...you underestimate yourself.
2006-08-25 01:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath and deal with the people...its not like your sleeping with them
2006-08-25 01:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
immigan them in theri underware ^^
2006-08-25 05:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Papa[s]murF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have to be very confident about yourself that's all.
2006-08-25 01:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas Odin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋