Why does being overweight scare guys away?

Question

I am 16 and overweight I am a friendly girl & fun to be around, but it seems no guys like me cause of my size. This to me doesn't seem fair. I have an awsome outlook on life and I am not all " Oh my life is horrible I am fat" so what scares guys away. Shouldn't you judge someone for personality not looks.....

Answer 1

I feel you girl. I'm overweight, too and had the same problem. But I waited for the right one and it was worth the wait because I am madly in love with my boyfriend of a year and a half. You see I look at dating as an apple tree(Girls being the apples and guys being the climbers). Normal, scared, coward guys who want apples would pick the easy apples at the bottom. And u wouldn't want those punks anyways. But the heroic, brave, and courageous guys are gonna climb to the top and get the best, plump, nice, and juicy apples(girls like u and me) at the top. Unfortunately, there are more cowards than heroes in the world. But that just makes your wait a little longer. But my hero climbed to the top and got me. Just wait for your hero. He'll come. You'll see.
P.S:While you're waiting for your hero try to set a goal for yourself like losing a lttle weight so you could rub it in those guys who turned you down's faces when you end up looking like a dime with a man by your side. I did it and now those same guys who dissed me are asking for my digits. Good luck!

Answer 2

because we live in a society where they're taught that the skinny, pretty, glammed-up, and fake girls are the ones that are worth going after and dating because it looks bad to people like their friends, when they date an overweight girl >=( It's so sad its true and no it's not fair.

Now, that's not how it is for every guy because some like overweight girls but if you've got a great personality and great outlook on life then don't worry about it, you will soon find some guy who isn't obsessed with looks and realize how great of a person you are. As long as you stay as cool as you are now, that day will come. Until then, keep going out and being friendly and meeting guys, you're doing nothing wrong and you're perfect the way you are. Never change yourself just for a guy. Things will change as you get older. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Seems like you are caught in a common case of crap.
Keep your current outlook on life and you will ultimately be happy. Are you looking for acceptance in having a guy, maybe because you see other girls that have guys, girls that, as awful as it sounds, just weigh less then you? The guys aren't scared that you have a couple extra love pounds . . .now remember this . . .the guys are scared of what their friends will think of them if they date a woman with some love curves! . . .can't think much else though, still in high school and things are pretty much appearance!

Sooner or later they'll come around. See, personality is something that lasts a life, looks my friend do not! So when these guys see the light, recognize that looks fade, a smile doesn't - they'll think of you! So keep smiling, and remember - you can only tell a fool once, "I told you so."

Answer 4

I suppose this has it's roots in the old desire for a 'healthy' person to set up family with - something that goes right back to our most primitive natures. It's a thing that all animals do, after all - and us as well, we have the same urges. That's the science of it!

The thing is, the urge to respond to someone because of their nature or outlook to the exclusion of other things, is quite a recent thing, i think - something quite modern and cerebral. While the tendency to follow physical characteristics (health and suitability to survive and bare the best children possible for the sake of the species) is VERY old and deeply entrenched - in both sexes.

And it is not just men liking/disliking ladies - it goes the other way as well. don't i bloody know it!!! I have exactly the same problem.

Not that this is all bad news! As most other reviewers have said - humanity is no longer totally bound to those old laws of nature! It might be a little harder - but nothing is impossible or even unlikely any more.

Answer 5

Most people judge a book by it cover. It's like you are going off for an interview but you are not presentable in a way that may cos you to lose the job even way before the interview. You know what they say you'll never get a chance to make a first impression. For me it doesn't matter whether if a person is fat or thin, tall or short, as long as they are fun, I'll be there.

Answer 6

It isn't as much of a personal thing as it is a taste issue. Some guys like skinny, average, thick, and bigger. For most people being overweight has many reasons for them to be scared. The body of a person that is overweight isn't attracted. I am sorry and this is in no way shallow but personality doesn't make up for attraction. You don't want to be with someone you aren't attracted to. Main thing is find someone who has your look, and trust me they are there. Wanted to add something after reading the above comment. Self-confidence is a big factor. If you think you are fat so will other people. Dress your weight and don't be so aware of your weight.

Answer 7

Guys who judge u 4 your weight u shouldn't want 2 be around, because they cannot appreciate u 4 who u r. Believe me don't feel down because someone judge u by your physical appearance. I like your motive. God made you that way for a reason, u have some purpose in life, and not evryone can be slim. Let no one change what u think about urself, be thankful 4 who u r and when d right guy comes along he will c u for more than what u look like he will judge u 4 d content of your character. Let no one strip u of ur dignity because of ur weight let them know that "I WILL NEVER DIE TO FIT IN BECAUSE I AM BORN TO STAND OUT"

Answer 8

The older you get, the less the guys will worry about weight issues. Right now, its a popularity contest because you are a teen. When you are older, the guys will be more mature and not look at the weight issue as a big deal. I know that is the last thing that you want to hear, but it is the sad truth.

Answer 9

Ideally we should all be judged by our personality but that's just not the way it is. But there is someone out there that will see the inner beauty that you possess. But also be aware that you don't have to be overweight. Changing that would be something you would do for yourself, not for others. Get to a gym and talk to a personal trainer about excercise and nutrition and you'll feel so much better about youself.

Answer 10

You're 16, you're still young. A lot of guys prefer overweight women, believe me, but guys of your age who do love overweight women usually can never admit it because they're still too much influenced by the images of standard beauty they see on the medias and they're afraid that other guys may laugh at them if they go out with an overweight women. But don't worry, you'll end up meeting a mature guy who'll love all your beautiful curves and that won't be ahsamed to be with you.