ex boyfriends
2006-08-24 18:01:19 · 14 answers · asked by Tarah H 1 in Consumer Electronics ➔ Other - Electronics
It's perfectly normal to have feelings for someone with whom you had a relationship with once. You can't just turn that off. Although I wish we could.
2006-08-24 18:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by pwoodrow2354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not only okay it is totally normal. If someone told you it was possible to turn your emotions off they'd be lying.
What it really comes down to is the relationship and why and how it ended. When you dump someone it's usually on your terms and an ending you've already come to grips with. However, when your the one dumped it takes time... especially if it was unexpected. Give yourself a break from men (specifically your ex). As tempting as it may be to run to the arms of another man... it is a recipe for disaster.
One thing that speeds the healing process, is to avoid seeing him or speaking with him; the old "outta sight outta mind". Even if you decided to be "friends", politely explain to him that you need some time (like a month or two) to work through it. Then don't talk to him until your feelings have waned and you can make an objective evaluation of your relationship and rational decisions about your relationship.
Be honest with yourself if he doesn't treat you with the respect you deserve the initial heartache of a breakup pales in comparison to the prolonged misery of a doomed relationship.
2006-08-24 18:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by daisyduke3113 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is "normal" to having left over feelings or emotions about your ex boyfriend, its something that helps you grow as a person. As well as how you deal with these feelings.
You two were in a relationship, and there were probably good reasons you two started.
But you must also remember that there were probably real good reason you two separated from this relationship as well.
Now the thing that you should worry about is the amount of time and reason you are holding onto these feelings. This is a perfect time to just think of YOU. Do things you feel that makes you feel GREAT, hang out with your family, friends etc. Do activities that you ha vent done in a while, (like ones you and him didn't do together, but that you do enjoy doing). Or start a new activity. Stay busy with your self and what you enjoy will help you slowly get over him. It WILL. Soon there will be a day where you'll realize hey I haven't thought of"so &so" in awhile, and then you will be able to think of him and times you shared as FOND MEMORIES instead of hurting ones. Dont worry youll be fine.
2006-08-24 18:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty normal. I think it's OK to have feelings for anyone you've been intimate with, I mean it makes sense. Once you've loved someone or even just liked someone, it hard to get past those feelings, or forget about them because they have been a big part of your life.
2015-09-23 11:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Iam not a marriage counselor or anything, but Iam pretty sure you can still have feelings for him because of some happy memories. Also he was your boyfriend at one point of time so it is definitley natural. But whether those feelings can get you in trouble with your current boyfriend is this real question. Iam sure you can have feelings but you shouldn't act on them.
2006-08-24 18:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Maelstrom1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to an extent. Just beware that if you are thinking about them day and night, that is not normal and needs to be addressed.
How did you pick this category to post this question? You will get a lot better answers if you play the game by the rules, but I dont care where you post it.
2006-08-24 18:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by MrPurrfect 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal, and actually would be abnormal if you didn't have feelings for them. Though some feelings might not be very good at the moment, they are still there. I still have feelings for all the ladies I cared about in my life, I may never tell them, or ever see them again, but the feelings are there.
2006-08-24 18:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea if he likes you...but if he does not, try moving on...it always helps. trust me, im in love with this guy for 4 years and never seemed to move on. he never liked our past but i couldnt seem to let go of it. now, were friends and are always on yahoo even if im on the east coast and he is on the west coast. i still love him but there is surely nothing i can do about my strong infatuation
2006-08-24 18:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on the situation! given how long the relationship, how closer you two were, maybe still talking (friends?), etc..
i think it's perfectly normal to think back of "I wish" or "I could have" because you spent awhile with one person intimately..who knows a lot about you...=)
2006-08-24 18:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by lacinyc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's perfectly OK.
2006-08-26 11:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by Angie B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋