my step daughter is 9 and she is w/ r family on wed. and thurs. also evey other weekend (fri sat sun till 9 pm )my husband works nights and i stay home w/ r other kids 7 and 1/2 a year old
her mom leaves her w/ us for days on end i dont have a problem but she always wants to call her mom. but her mom will never answer her phone or the cell or the work place so she cries to me and says y wont she call me back? it happens all the time i just say i dont know? or she is to busy 4 you i tell her i would never do that to my little girl
but her mom is kinda odd or bitchy to me.but when she pickes her up she can never talk cus she is to much in a hurry
then she told my hubby to tell me not to talk bad about her
(the mom) in front of the little girl who is my step daughter
some 1 help me.
2006-08-24 17:41:53 · 15 answers · asked by ez-goin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Write her a letter.
"There is a little girl who adores you. Every time she is here, she wants to call and talk to you.
"But you never answer. How can I explain to this girl why her mother will not pick up the phone and take a few minutes to make her daughterl happy.
"It is not my place to tell her that her mommy considers her a pain in the neck and wishes she would go away. I am not going to talk bad about you in front of her, but your actions speak volumes, and far worse than anything I could come up with.
"She wants you to be a part of her life. Why won't you be a part of hers?"
[Or something to that effect]
2006-08-24 17:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you need to sit down with this woman and explain to her what's going on. If you can't do it, maybe your husband can talk to his ex about it. Fact is, all three of you are her guardians, and it's in the child's best intrests that there be some level playing feild for you to work on. Next time she drops your step-daughter off, make an appointment with this woman if she's too busy to talk at the drop off time. Go so far as to write it on a business card so this woman knows you're serious.
2006-08-25 00:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by Flea© 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would never tell a child her mom is too busy for her, too me that is talking bad about the mother and it may backfire on you. Let the husband and mother work it out and just be there for the child. In the long run you will have less headache with the ex and the daughter.
2006-08-25 00:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by dixie_n_pixie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop making this little girl feel so bad about something she has no control over. You are the adult parent, you should be protecting her, not tormenting her.
Don't talk bad about her mother, she knows her mother doesn't care about her, don't make it worse.
You have the opportunity to show this child what a good parent is, you and your husband need to sit down and talk with her and reassure her that you love her and will take care of her.
2006-08-25 00:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step children are a difficult situation I'm happy your good to the child however saying anything negative like your mom is to busy for you is hurtful to her. If my husband or my ex husband's wife ever spoke bad about one of us to the kids all hell would break loose. I would beat the shitty out of his wife if she said something like that to my child. I know your the one that has to hear her cry but be the bigger person and say nothing because it will come back to bite you if you continue to bad mouth her
2006-08-25 00:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a typical broken home - sad situation. Why did you marry this divorced man? Was his wife unfaithful to him? If not, then you really shouldn't be married to him, and IF so, then the mother shouldn't have visitation righs, in my opinion (but fat chance that would happen in the courts).
I'm not certain that you even have the right, or the authority to correct her mom, when what are you doing married to her husband?
2006-08-25 00:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her hubby that when she gives you nothing bad to talk about then you wont say bad things! ; ) Kudoes for being there!! Always be honest with the child. If her mom doesnt like it then she should change her behavior.
2006-08-25 00:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by JodiBaby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Next time she comes to pick her up.....whether she claims to be in a hurry or not....get her alone in a room and ask her what's up. Tell her that her daughter cries over this and that she should TRY to be more available.
2006-08-25 00:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The hubby the Father? He needs to talk to his ex. Or talk about getting full custody.
2006-08-25 00:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never say anything but" I DON"T KNOW", you don't so that's not lying or saying anything against the mother. Be good to that little girl, she needs you.
2006-08-25 00:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋