Did you have a strict upbringing?

Question

Were you taught to fix your mistakes even if you have a punishment first and were you disiplined when you did something wrong? Did you parent's back down from disipling you or "forgetting" that you were grounded? Or did you parents leave it to someone else to disipline you like the school and you didn't have anyother repercutions at home? In your case, which parent did most of the disiplining and did your parents work together afterwards or one was more the "fun parent". What have you become because of disipline?

Also, sorry if there is spelling errors. The spell check only works in the top part of the question. I know spelling is a huge concern on here.

Answer 1

hell yah there was strict upbringing, and the result came out pretty good. Atleast the whole family respects each other even if we all get older. As for the parents, they were stict in there own field eg. like mom strict with cleaning to dad strict with religion. But when there was strictness, there was also enjoyment there later.

Answer 2

My parents were strict but fair. Sometimes I had a choice of either being grounded or spanked (with a belt). I always chose being grounded. I was a shy child who didn't have friends so being grounded was no big deal. I only ever got spanked for lying. The last time I lied I got spanked by both parents and got grounded for 6 weeks. I was 9 yrs. old and I tried to change a grade on my report card, then tried to lie about it. I have no regrets about any of it. They taught me respect and responsibility. My husband and I are raising our children in a similar way. We don't use a belt but our children get spanked when they lie. We sometimes give them a choice of punishment but their choices aren't limited to spanking or grounding. It can be time out or doing extra chores or writing lines. It depends on what they did to get in trouble. I tend to be a little more lenient than my husband. I'll give them a second chance with a warning on what will happen if they continue doing whatever it is they shouldn't, but my husband won't so they listen to him better than me. My husband and I stand together and back each other up even if we don't agree on a punishment that the other has given. So far I feel we've done fairly well. Of course parents can never be sure if they're doing the right thing. We can only do our best and hope it's right.

Answer 3

Yes I was disiplined when I did something wrong. I got a slap or I got the belt. I desered it sometimes like the time I swore at my mom
My mom was way more leinant than my dad
When we became teenagers my mom had the best thing a better could ever have or do She Trusted us and she didn't care that we made mistakes as long as we learned from them
My parents never left it to anyone else to do their job as a parents
I would to give them both an A+ on raising me they were both fun at times
I have Become a better person because of my mom and the way that I was raised
This is my favorite Saying that my mommy told when I was very young
RESPECT THE MORE YOU GIVE THE MORE YOU GET!!!!

Answer 4

Sometimes my parents would try to punish me because I would do something dumb at school, mind you that I was an A student. They would try to punish me and it would be stupid. What did they think that I would become a better person because they would punish me? Of coarse not. I will be the person I choose, an them punishing me can only make me hate them, seriously. There is no leason to be learned from punishment, all it does is give you time to think about how punishment is worthless. Look at people in jail, do you think they learn thier lesson when they go there. No most people that are in prison return to prison once they get out. Also the same with rules, be home by eleven, what is that gonna do. Stop me from doing drugs and having sex and drinking. By the way I dont do drugs or drink. But serioulsly rules and punishments are stupid. You cant choose what type of life your children will live, if they are to be crimianls, they will be criminals no matter how many rules you put or how many times you punish them. No one can choose your destiny only you can!!

Answer 5

If I ever did anything wrong I was punished and they stuck to it. I guess both my parents gave punishment equally. I also got my *** tore up when I needed it. These days are totally different though and that's what's wrong with children today, they don't get enough disciplines or *** whippings. Think before doing wrong if you don't want to be punished, this way you have nothing to worry about. I was the rebellious one myself, I've learned by my mistakes though. Of course I'm a parent now myself and children look at things totally different now. Hope you get the answer you're looking for.

Answer 6

Yeah I had a strict upbringing, but it really didn't help. I would get swats with an oak paddle, when I screwed up. I used to just leave after my parents would ground me. When I would get swats in school, I would get twice as many at home. My mom would give me swats if my dad wasn't home, then I would get swats when he got home because I usually laughed when my mom gave them to me. I think that I turned out ok. Im 23 own my own home have a full time job and haven't been in too much trouble. But I still do what I want, when I want.

Answer 7

My mother was the enforcer. My parents divorced when I was 10 years old. I was the youngest of four, so I was able to get away with more. My mom worked 2 jobs, so my two older sisters pretty much raised me and my brother. I do remember though that my mother meant business... when she said to so something, it was done. No questions asked.. We never back talked or disrespected either of our parents despite the awful situation of a family breaking up. I've become a wonderful, responsible person with respect and honor.

Answer 8

Mine was both strict and fun. I was fortunate to get explanations of what I did wrong and why I was being punished (all of the rules in my house were safety related, financially motivated, or to teach me how to act in public)...but when I got punished...they didn't forget...but we still had fun.

As a result, I consider myself sucessful because of the discipline I recieved...but I don't consider myself to be uptight, stuck up, or anything like that...and I think my kids have fun and are all around good kids...so I hope it is working for them too.

Answer 9

My parents were very strict. I couldn't go anywhere or even have people over at my house. I had to ask several days in advance if I wanted to go to the mall with a friend. Even when I was 16-17 this still happened. I hadn't had a friend over to my house since Elementary school and even then it was like once a year. They never gave me any reason why not. That was the most frustraing part. My parents just didn't like it. I don't think it had anything to do with me at all. My friends would come and just want to talk to me and my parents wouldn't even want me to be in the front yard with them for more than 10 minutes. All my grades were never good enough when I got B's they would get angry while my friends were getting rewarded for passing or getting C's. ( and I went to one of the toughest high schools I've ever seen. The high school my boyfriend went to was soo leniant ). I would never get rewarded for an A. As a kid I wanted to join Girl Scouts and I wasn't allowed to.

All of this made me a loner and made me angry and depressed. To this day I have trouble in social situations and don't know how to act with my own peers or people of any age. It is very difficult for me to make friends and I grew up very resentful of my parents.

It caused me to run away to my boyfriends house (in another state) at which point my parents let me finish highschool early and go back. This was a surprise but I think it was their way of making the rest of everything up to me. I had a brother with autism and he was often placed first. My parents used to fight constantly and mostly about my mom's affair and sex. I grew up alternately hating either my mom or my dad - whoevers fault I thought the fighting was at that time.

I love my parents but I am so glad to be out of all that drama. I am finally free to do the simple everyday things that I wanted so badly before. Even taking the bus to the mall or walking to the store were things I was never allowed to do. Now I work and commute 1.5 hours a day and I love it because I am trying to be as Independant as I can. I grew up in the suburbs and now I live in Los Angeles so it's the total opposite and I love it here.

In other words if parents are too strict the children will just rebel. Some ways they raised me were successful and others weren't. I have never done drugs and don't think I ever will but it really has nothing to do with them. I just don't have any desire too. I drink occasionally but nothing like the rest of my peer group. I still don't have many friends and I am still really shy as a result of my mom telling me when I was little to stop talking so much and not say every single thing that comes to my mind. This caused me to censor myself constantly and I still never know what is appropriate to say or not when with co-workers or acquantences.

Oh and of course the time my mom went through my bathroom trash and saw that I was using pantiliners and accused me of being pregnant and "faking a period" even though she knew my boyfriend was in another state.. Geez. I just like using pantiliners

Answer 10

My father died when I was very young . I had quite a few step fathers some were strict others not. My mother tried to keep me in line,but generally between stepfathers I had a Huckleberry Finn type of existence. Enjoyed my childhood very much!