My son has been unemployed this past year and I have helped him out financially. he recently got a job but says it is not working out because he is not getting as many hours as he thought and that he has no money. Should I bail him out again and put myself in a financial bind?
2006-08-24 17:31:40 · 31 answers · asked by jedimom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Cut him off
2006-08-24 17:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have many opinions here. As a Mom with a young adult son the help I gave him seemed endless. I gave him about 10 grand in a year He finally got a great place and has been doing very well. He joined the Air Force recently and I am wondering if he felt like he couldn't ask me for more money. I will never know, but I would have spent my last penny on him to help him. He's a good son. Doesn't get arrested or do drugs or any of that stuff. He's a good boy that just took too long to catch a break. I wish you peace of mind. When it comes to your babies, they're yours until you or they die. That of course, is my opinion.
Regards,
Raylene♥
2006-08-24 17:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Raylene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son has to learn to find a job that DOES have enough hours for him. My parents did help me throughout college when they weren't showered with cash, which was helpful, though I think the cut off should be at some point in a person's 18-21 age. Tell your son to look up a NEW job on www.indeed.com
2006-08-24 17:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Locke15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 23:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by regula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u think that u are really helping him by providing him financially. U are wrong, sooner or later he will lose his sense of independance and will continously rely on u. As the saying goes, give him a fish and he eats it for a day, teach him to fish and will eat a lifetime. Honestly, u should stop and and cite to him that u are financialy in debt and ask whether he could help solve your problem. All u know instead of helping u , he will totaly keep clear from u.
2006-08-24 17:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by lanks20032003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not!
You have already been more than generous in helping as much as you have already.
Tell your son as much as you'd love to help him again, you simply can't afford to do that without putting your own finances in jeopardy.
Think how many times you have had to be financially creative with limited funds. Tell your son that you love him, and then suggest that he do the same.
2006-08-24 17:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Bailing him out is fine, IF you don't suffer for it. However, you will both be better off if you allow him to learn the lesson that he needs to learn to start taking care of himself.
After he learns the lesson, then he won't need to ask for more.
If it were my son, I would tell him to get a second job, or a better job.
2006-08-24 17:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by J. C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you will send him the money. But my opinion is to not send him the money. He needs to learn to become a hard worker. Immigrants come here from other countries and they get multiple jobs to support themselves. He can get a lot of small jobs, especially if he lives in NJ near public transportation. There is tons of manual labor work in NJ, and I suspect in other parts of the country. There is more work in this country than what people are willing to do, this is why we need immigrants to come here. Either your son is lazy or is on drugs. Either way he needs to learn to survive in the real world.
2006-08-24 17:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by jmart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is grown. If you don't cut the apron strings now honey he aint ever gonna grow up. What if something happened to where you couldn't provide for him? You need to think about helping him learn to do for himself rather than rescue him every time. You're not going to be around forever. Let him deal with his own finances. He has to learn that you can't bail him out every time.
2006-08-24 17:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lonesome Dove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean you can't use your Jedi mind-tricks to find out?
lol
Seriously, cut him off, he's using you. No one can go for a year without some type of good work with decent, 40 hours a week job.
2006-08-24 17:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in the real world now!!!! You gave him the easy way out the first time now!!! You need to put your foot down and tell him he needs to grow up. i know thats your son and your love him ,but he's on his own now and you have bills that need to be paid and you have no money for him. I hope everything works out for you and your son and I will pray for the both of you tonight ~Amy~
2006-08-24 17:39:08 · answer #11 · answered by Amy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋