Ive posted quite a few questions relating to this guy.
Ive been friends with this dude for a year now and we had a lil something going on awhile ago and then he just stopped it without warning or justification. We went a few months as just friends, but about 3 months ago we started something up again. I didnt take it too seriously b/c he wasnt interested in a relationship and neither was I. Only for me to find out, not too shortly after that convo, he in fact has strong feelings for me. I admitted to him that I felt the same way. All has been going well since then. He told me he loved me, all was awesome. Then recently he got into a funk and wasnt as affectionate as he had used to be. He just went on vacation, but I could tell that he spent his excess energy on making me feel good and loved before he left. He even gave up WoW to spend time with me. I was worried about this funk he's been in for a few days. That and he has the naked ex pics. Though those are minor flaws...is it good?
2006-08-24 17:28:35 · 10 answers · asked by Donnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how about if you try to figure out what you need in a relationship first. once you have that answer, look at that relationship and see if it meets your needs. if it's lacking in major areas, such as security, confidence, affection, those sorts of things that you may place a very high value on, then you need to let your partner know about it. at least give him a chance to make up for what he's lacking, if he has the desire to. communication is the key to any successful relationship, in EVERY aspect of life. if you want this relationship to be successful, these are very important steps for you to take and are a good jumping off point to the path of harmony and happiness. i wish you luck!!
2006-08-24 17:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by vrandolph62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOw, you have described this so clearly and real that for the first time I really have no instant answer as we all seem to have when it comes to a strangers situation!
Sounds like it could be very heart wrenching depending on how this story ends.
Nude pics of his x is a bad sign. You don't have any of your own hidden around, so, I'd vote that you are a little more on the up and up than he, but then again. I hate throwing anything away from the past like that! We owe that to our 90 year old in the future!
You both sound pretty damn decent as the relationship goes.
When in doubt, try the most difficult thing in the world to do: When I feel left behind, I act out my best James Dean attitude. Get REAL busy with things I like. I say LESS. I watch closely and act preoccupied.
Then again, why can't I end up with a girl like you who thinks about things the same and ditch the dramas behind us?
That's my question of the decade!
2006-08-25 00:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question, then he's not worth it.
But if you'd like to confirm this for yourself, make two lists.
Be as honest with yourself as you can.
The first list will be all the things you dislike about him, also list things he does that annoy you, or bother you.
The second list will be all the things you like about him, also the things he does that just melt your heart.
Compare the two lists. If they are just about even, then it's a toss up. If one is much longer than the other, choose the longer list.
2006-08-25 00:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Schona 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on. The fact that he even gets into "funks" should be your red flag. Trust me, you DONT want his drama. If you have been intimate with him, then run, fast away from this situation, he's playing you. If you haven't, then he might not be, but, he still has issues.
2006-08-25 00:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by dreac76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's scared to show you how he really feels about you. or maybe he's not sure what to do he loves u but doesn't want to be in a relationship i think u should sit down and talk to him and tell him how u feel about him. maybe u'll find something out that u may have not known try not to pressure him in to talking with u. talk with him about something and slowly lead into what u may want to say to him. if u can't communicate with him and there is no way to reach out to him then leave
2006-08-25 00:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both appear immature for a solid, loving, supportive relationship. If you are looking for a permanent partner, you aren't really ready for one, and for sure, he isn't.
2006-08-25 00:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y does ur man have pics of his ex......if he loves u he shouldn't NEED those pics (maybe he is still in love w/her and thats why he waited so long hes hopeing she will come back)??????
dont get to attached to this one he sounds like hes hiding something!!!
something to think about
2006-08-25 00:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by SIS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems unsure of himself and where he wants to be and with who. at the moment he is enjoying the benfits of your relationship if you know what i mean. its never a good sign that he is hangin on to stuff from his ex, cos it means that she still occupies space in his mind. lay it on the line with him. tell him you want him to be with you and you want this to be a proper relationship.
2006-08-25 00:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT REALLY SOUND IIKE BOTH OF YOU CARE FOR EACH OTHER BUT HAVE ISSUES THAT YOU NEED TO GET
OUT IN THE OPEN. I WOULD JUST SIT DOWN AND TALK
TO HIM AND LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. THEN
GO FROM THERE. GOOD LUCK.
2006-08-25 00:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't good for you. Tell him to get a grip or lose him.
2006-08-25 00:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by bad boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋