i was 12 his friend was 16.at first he was just my bro's friend but as the years went on we got really close.he moved into my dad's house cause he needed a place to stay.we started to fall in love.there's an age diff. of almost 5 yrs which makes it almost impossible to be together but we finally decided screw it we love eachother more then anything lets get together.my mom was ok with it but we knew my dad wouldn't be so we hid it from him which isn't to hard because i'm hardly ever at his house and my guy goes to college now so he livesthere.we've been together now for 2 years. i'm 15 and he just turned 20. we've had a lot of tough times but always worked through them. something that's always bothered him though is that hefeels guilty about hidingthis from my dad. ast night my dad told him he knew how much time we spend togeter and he said stay away from her.my guy respects my dad and as much as he loves me he can't be with me b/c of my dad. i cna't live without him. what do i do?
2006-08-24 17:01:51 · 21 answers · asked by iamsamsamiam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to your Dad. Sounds like your boyfriend and you love each other, but there are rules and boundaries to follow. Also legal boundaries. If he respects your dad and you as well, he will wait for you.
2006-08-24 17:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An old saying goes, "as much as you don't want to believe it, some things are true."
You are young dear, leave this guy, leave him soon. Trust in love, if later in life, you are 25, and he is 30, then you will see the truth and you two can live your life together.
As wise as a 15 year old woman is, you don't realize what you are missing! You need to learn on your own, do your own thing, soon you'll be off to college and other then the academics, you will learn life - don't be stifled by anyone guiding you on what tracks to live your life on! Experience is priceless, and get it while you can.
The easy path never came into the adult life, that is true - care and love are genuine, your father does not have alterior motives. Trust is something that evolves from repetative truth, and your father's lessons you should learn.
Odds say this guy will lead you down the path of pain/dissapointment - grow on your own, live and learn!
Parents have been down a few more roads then us, and remember, it's not the age, it's the mileage - trust mom and dad, and remember!
2006-08-25 00:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off your 15.... Second, You are too young to be in a relationship.. you still have three years until you are 18. A man in college BIG mistake. He only has one thing on his mind and it is not you... There are sooooo many hot Chic's on a campus. He may say he "LOVES" you, but if he cant get it from you he has alot of fish to choose from.. So my advice to you is see other people your age.. You might be surprised how many kids at your age have in common with you.. Grow up, get stable and find out what you want to do in life.. you cant get far in life by doing this to yourself... If your doing the funky chicken STOP... You could get knocked up he goes to jail and then you will have no life with a baby.. This may sound harsh but the truth sounds like that.
2006-08-25 00:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by PETER GRIFFIN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm thats tough, but of course love doesnt have anything to do with age, but of course age has something to do with parents point of view. You should probably see him every once in a way, when its really possible. Try talking to your dad about this, that you really love him and stuff, and if he brings the age different up, counter him and try to compare him with your mom or something.
Dads are always like this with their daughters. Like im a really nice and charming guy, and well yeah i treat my girlfriend and just everyone with great respect. Her dad doesnt really like me though, he says she is too young for me and stuff. At the time i was 15 and she was 13, well she is 14 now but it looked much more different before.
Dont feel limited cause of your dad's attitude. Just see the guy and stuff.
-Edward
2006-08-25 00:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by cursedconcept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your dad that u love him and that your relation been movin on more then 2 years and nothin wrong happend (but let me tell u some thing the guy did not leav u becouze he respect ur dad but becose the law is that u still under age soo he is afread that your dad will soo him or some thing sooo, most likely u have 2 choises evn make your dad eccpt the sitution or try to make your b/f hide that he talks with u infront of ur dad like before ... i can feel what feel right know coz i just left the girl i love coz of her dad wanted her to marrie he couzen...wich u the best luck and happy life and if u need any thing just contact me on my e-mail (thefad_fera@yahoo.com) and i will be soooo happy to help people in my same proplem..
2006-08-25 00:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by FADS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still underaged and anyone having a sexual relationship with you - even with your consent - is commiting a serious crime and could get into big trouble. And how did your mother allow all these? You're young and there's a lot of life ahead of you. You can continue to maintain your friendship with him but listen to your dad and keep your distance from him. Go enlarge your circle of friends and plan your life well. When the time comes you can make the right choice.
2006-08-25 00:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be cool to hurt your family's relationship. Your dad asked him to stay away from you because he loves you, not because he's just trying to assert his authority. Maybe you guys should just take it easy for a little while. You should consider why he feels guilty, there's probably more to it than just how he knows your dad feels about it...Besides, why be tied down?
Even though you may not be together for the rest of your lives, you'll always remember your first love.
2006-08-25 00:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by dallasdancergem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your 15 years old and hes 20 years old..think about it honey he can go to prison for dating you even though your mom says its ok your dad still can press charges..for you being a minor and him being an adult...if you really love him as much as you say you do you will let it go because you dont want him to spend like 2 to 6 years in prison because your father pressed charges on him for dating you because your under age...its against the law to date minors...your only aloud to date someone 3 to 4 years older than you when your a minor...so think about it..if you dont believe me look it up or call the police department and tell them you have a question and tell them you want to know whats the oldest person a minor can date without them getting introuble by the law..
2006-08-25 00:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15. What are you talking about? You don't have a clue. And this guy is out there with COLLEGE GIRLS.
Get over it...
It's not that I don't care, but you won't find your lifetime partner for another 10-20 years...this is what us adults call "puppy love". We have all had it...it is fun, enjoy it, but it doesn't last. Within months you will be raving over some boy your age in your school!
Chill!!
2006-08-25 00:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by powhound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their a lot of couples that are 5 yrs older then their partner but not at your age. That just doesn't sound right. And you CAN live without him. You have your hole life ahead of you . If DAD finds out he might not live.
2006-08-25 00:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by ♥tk♦star♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋